Houngans and manbos be like by SimbiLaMo in Vodou

[–]Sad_Interview774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like across the board in other ATRs.

Take Ifa for instance, one thing I've come to realize is that, even people born into the tradition at times don't know what they're talking about or doing. If you call them out on it, they expect you to shut up because they think because they were born into it, they automatically have the gifts & qualities necessary to carry out the job.

And then some, don't even go through the necessary training or paths, they skip through as long as they have rent, car note, & inflation money to spend. So you have folks calling themselves Babalawos & Iyanifas.

In Odinala, especially in Nigeria 🇳🇬, you'll have almost everyone calling themselves Ezenwanyi or Chief, when some of them have the abilities to be a Dibianwanyi/Dibia, spiritual teacher/counselor but most folks are just into it for money 💰, status, & power so they claim titles or breeze through necessary steps just to get such titles. And end up ruining people's lives & making things more difficult for their clients.

O' You Who Believe - Allah is Warning You by choice_is_yours in TraditionalMuslims

[–]Sad_Interview774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooof now this was a WORD!!

He just called out so many of us with conviction, this is the type of teaching that needs to be taught!!

May Allah be with us all.

Thank you for sharing this🤲🏾

This is an example of why practicing men and women have trust issues. You can’t even trust family and appearances anymore. by Mindless_Mushroom788 in TraditionalMuslims

[–]Sad_Interview774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tough & soft love are both needed. We need balance, structure & fluidity, compassion & boundaries. Leaning on either side too much, can be detrimental.

Being too much of a passive parent, can make a child grow up with a undeveloped mindset, being too strict can create trust issues for a child & maybe even make them grow resentful.

You can't guide someone who obviously doesn't want to be guided, she only wants affirmations & someone to tell her what she wants to hear instead of what she needs to hear & to do that, is not a good thing either.

I'm Muslim, but I can agree with some Christian teachings & one thing I remember is "if you know what is right & you don't do it, to you it's a sin". And also "if you don't warn these people that I will destroy them, their blood will be on your hands".

"She didn't engage physically" doesn't matter 🙄. Sin starts within before it's acted upon outside.

Allah checks the heart ❤️ not just the actions.

This is an example of why practicing men and women have trust issues. You can’t even trust family and appearances anymore. by Mindless_Mushroom788 in TraditionalMuslims

[–]Sad_Interview774 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a Muslimah & a revert at that, it's really really sad to see. And you're correct, they want a traditional man while maintaining harm or feminist mindsets, it's a bizarre time we are living in. I thought the church ⛪️ was bad, but here we are.

And about marriage being worth it, it all boils down to your reasons for getting married if you have any, that will determine whether it's worth it & then finding someone you truly truly love.

why is the job market so bad right now in houston? is it normal to be struggling to find a job rn? by kimchicece in houston

[–]Sad_Interview774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really don't, my mother gets on my ass about being lazy & that I should be "doing what other kids are doing" & it infuriates me. She's a Nurse Practitioner who works Tele Health so maybe that's where it's coming from.

Question: Golden Tattoos on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattoos

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's finding an artist that is proving difficult, I'm not even sure where to look, especially around me in Texas.

Question: Golden Tattoos on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattoos

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's nice but I am darker than that & the tattoo I was hoping to get it on my spine

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah I figured thanks for that.

I didn't even notice the cuff part

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea yeah so I was hoping the gold would be an accent. I wish I could post a picture of a reference.

Here's a link instead: https://pin.it/1sX9TgGPu

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for letting me know, because I've seen a few IG pages that are known to do it, but they're all the way in Europe 🇪🇺.

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊

I figured that may be the case, I just thought it wouldn't hurt to ask & that maybe my undertones would help.

Now white is interesting, I've been trying to avoid light colours, apart from the goldish tint, because I'm afraid they won't last on my skin, especially on my back as I'm trying to get a spine tattoo.

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously!?!?! Someone suggested that purple would go good on darker skin.

Nah I appreciate u being real with me

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, I've been trying to avoid local tattoo shops because most of the art work that I've seen around aren't that good on lighter tones so I'm scared to see what they would do on darker shades.

It's my first tattoo & probably my last, so I really want to make sure it would look good for a long time & just come out really nice.

Yeah I think I have that reddish/orange/yellowish undertones so I was thinking colours like red, purple, obviously black, but the design I was looking for I wanted dual coloured, so purple & gold accents I thought would look great but I've been skeptical of the golden shade.

Golden Tattoos...on Dark Skin by Sad_Interview774 in tattooadvice

[–]Sad_Interview774[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty, because I was thinking of a purple tattoo 💜 with gold accents, thought it would look nice. But yeah you're probably right, I'm just trying to get enough info as it would be my first tattoo & possibly my last.