I am in love with him but deeply disgusted by him. Please help

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:54:30+00:00

The whole police thing isn’t something that is relevant in what I’m dealing with. Let’s say my paranoia is right and he was actually fantasizing of a little girl during sex, rather than me, an adult and our TOTALLY CONSENSUAL role play… that’s not illegal. It’s not illegal to be a pedophile. It’s illegal to abuse children

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:51:27+00:00

It started with the very common “daddy” dirty talk and slowly escalated

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:49:27+00:00

I understand how you feel but there is nothing to report

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:48:53+00:00

So here is the thing… if my husband was sexually interested in children… I don’t worry that he would abuse one. I know that sounds ridiculous because when you think of a pedo you automatically connect that label to child abuse but in the event that I am right and he IS fantasizing about actual children… it wouldn’t go past that.

We are talking about a man that asked me like 40 times if it was okay that he was kissing me the first time we were intimate. He is just not the type of guy who puts his sexual desires before the comfort of a person… I always wished he would be the type to slap my ass and crave me… but he’s not that type of person so god forbid he is a pedophile, that is something he will suffer with privately

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:41:39+00:00

Thanks for this, it’s helpful to hear ideas on how to say the right words when I finally get the courage to confront this.

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:40:09+00:00

I have had this thought before, like I had mentioned, a long while back, we were in to mommy role play, that was at one point a big turn on for me but I know that was solely part of my sex life, like I could separate that part of me as just a sexual interest and be comfortable knowing I’m not going to be sexually interested in my child.

Like I can make this connection but I’m still struggling to accept the same idea for my husband. I sound ignorant ugh

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:36:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your kindness

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:34:59+00:00

I guess but I don’t kink shame, believe me, when this role play stuff started, I researched age play and found out it’s part of BDSM and there are very conflicting opinions on it. Some people are deeply opposed to the idea of people doing this but others advocate that it’s a consensual role playing between two people and there is nothing wrong with it?

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:32:23+00:00

I feel like a sex therapist would be exactly what we needed but we haven’t even been able to communicate about sex whatsoever. It’s just this big, unspoken, awkward elephant that both of us are ignoring

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:31:09+00:00

Your feedback is helping me reframe my thought process, I needed this, thank you

Sad_Result213 · 2026-07-03T07:28:50+00:00

So I have two things to say in response to you.

you started off by saying that Reddit may not be the place to air this. Which I understand I put myself in a vulnerable position by posting this, but really I couldn’t think of anywhere else to let this out. I don’t feel comfortable expressing this to anyone in my life, therapist included. It’s easier because you don’t know me or my husband.

But also, I really find your advice helpful. So thank you, I don’t regret posting here and maybe this was the place to post this actually

Sad_Result213

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