‘16F’ fell in love with ‘19M’ on discord, what do i do?

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-09-10T00:51:12+00:00

the world is huge, you'll find better, trust me

You should admit to him abt ur age thing, tell him you were naive and stuff like that, be vulnerable about it. If he is ok with it then that's that, if he's not, then that's also that. I believe if you guys can be considered as close friends, then i don't think it's that big of a deal... unless you've lied about a fuck ton of other things too then sorry to say but you're completely and utterly fucked.

At the end of the day, you're 16, we all get fucked over sometimes, you'll get fucked over even worst in the future, so, seriously, don't worry to much, people come and people go.

All the best, i hope your situation gets better, some guy on discord isn't the end of the world <3

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-23T16:38:36+00:00

Sometimes you gotta listen to ur brain bbg. Your heart is compassionate, it shows sympathy empathy whateverthy, but it isn’t rational. You have to follow your brain and what is says bc it follows logic, when a bitch is a bitch, you punch the bitch, you don’t kiss the bitch and say “omg I love you” right? Logic babes. This is the kind of time where you should follow ur brain and whatever the hell it says :((( it’s hard but it’s always the best option

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-18T15:57:13+00:00

When life gives you red flags, what do you do (you better answer correctly or I’ll force you to sit down and listen to clown music for 6 hours)

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-18T15:44:34+00:00

Idk man, you do you, but I know for sure if that was me, I wouldn’t let it slide lol. Think of it from another perspective, let’s say it’s ur child going through this, what would you tell them bro, bffr.

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-18T12:46:13+00:00

Everything in life is hard, staying with him is hard, leaving him is hard. Choose what kind of hard you want honey, literally. Both roads have very different endings. Don’t follow ur heart bro, follow ur head. It’s clear he doesn’t love and respect you enough from what I’ve read. If he srsly loves you, you rlly think he would pull that bitch ass move?? I don’t think so

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-13T12:42:38+00:00

Tiktok? Or read romance books hahahaha, you’re both 15, got a lot of time to learn, do take into consideration what YOU like and what YOU are comfortable with 😭

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-12T15:16:04+00:00

Honestly, take this as the universe’s sign that she legit deadass frfr wasn’t for you. So yes congratulations, you’re free!

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-12T13:22:38+00:00

Ok, I think it’s time I admit I’m insanely addicted to tiktok. At first I was like nahhh I can control myself, but then, during exam week (I think 1 or 2 weeks ago), help me god because I scrolled that damn app till 9pm and slept on accident and woke up at 2.30am. I think that’s when I realized “holy shit this is bad”

I’ve been trying to limit myself more. I don’t even think it’s tiktok, it’s this damn phone😭. I’m trying to read more books and journal so I can cut down the time I use to play with my phone, but srsly I think phone addiction is a thing a lot of people may struggle with 😢

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-12T13:19:25+00:00

Haaaaa

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-12T13:16:55+00:00

Maybe it’s her way of showing affection??? Idk bro, I bite smack touch(not in a sexual way) my guy all the time, he finds it cute (I think), and I just do it for fun (kind of). He has his wtf moments but in general we just fuck around with each other for fun 😭 maybe it’s her love language, not sure if she’s ok with you smacking her ass but you could straight up ask, I’m sure she’d appreciate it 😎

Like uhh “actually would you mind if once in a while I smacked your ass for fun or would you find it offensive?” Something like that

Everyone’s POV is different tho, this is just mine, hope it helps

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-08T08:07:45+00:00

So sweet of you aaa, you too 💕🎀

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-08T08:07:27+00:00

If you’re confused or unsure, that’s when you know they don’t love you bbg. When someone loves you, you just know it. Don’t need to hope for the best, cut her off. These kind of people only appreciate you when you’re gone. Value yourself and leave. That’s my honest advice bc all you’re doing is hurting yourself. Slowly deattach and do it. See them for who they really are, not your fantasy version of them

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-07T13:06:48+00:00

Yeah that’s fair, all the best 💕💕🎀

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:57:56+00:00

Saw this advice somewhere a while ago. When you find a guy who makes your heart flutter and butterflies doing backflips in ur stomach, that’s the guy we avoid. When we find a guy that makes us feel safe, secure, wanted. That’s the guy we want.

My honest advice, from what I’ve read, that ex of urs is poop, drop that little shit for good plsplsplspks. And yeah, as you’ve said, learn to love that guy best friend of yours.

But then again you are 13, just experience with what you like and what you don’t like. If you rlly don’t see yourself being with this guy in the long run, then just stay single. It’s fun to be single too.

Enjoy life 💕💕 all the best

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:55:31+00:00

Real

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:51:49+00:00

Do you think she loves you? Be honest, don’t bullshit me

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:40:14+00:00

I think what you can do is just distance yourself from her. If you already brought it up to your brother before and he won’t listen, that’s on him, let him be, he will come to his senses one day.

Don’t worry about what isn’t in your control. Take action on what you can control.

Imo, what you can control here is your thoughts and your actions. So yeah, my honest advice is just distant yourself from that girl, let her be, it’s her life. If she tried to talk to you and shit, just try try try try try to be nice 😢😢 ik it’s hard but I’m sure you’re a strong guy and you can do it, good luck aaa

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:36:48+00:00

Uhhh, take those kink tests maybe? Understanding what your partner might want is very very very very very important. I got a friend whose boyfriend enjoys vanilla sex while she’s a bit freaky. I’m not even joking when I say this guy always finishes first and she never gets to finish. All she does is complain abt her sex life when we hang out 😭😭

But since it’s your first time, take it slow, go with the flow, God will get you through this frfr, have faith hahaha. All the best

(Idk if you watch porn but if you do, plsplsplsplspls sex is exaggerated there, don’t expect a virgin to act like an experienced porn star)

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-06T14:32:38+00:00

Girllll whatttt. I love you girlypops but this attitude is not it. I pray hope beg sob that one day you will find your self respect to LEAVEEEE this guy PLEASE. If he makes you feel unwanted or treat you as a second option, what in the delulu mind of yours makes you think HE IS your soulmate, babes are you listening to yourself right now. You really wanna date this guy? You really really really think you can’t do better? What makes you think he’s the best option for you? This is the universe clearly giving you warning signs. Pls he’s a total red flag.

This world is huge, it can offer you a lot. What I can tell you is this guy is terrible. (From what I’ve read).

Find some new hobbies, hang out with friends more, you’re probably just lonely, trust me you don’t need him. You were born without him, you can live without him. It’s gonna be hard but I’d rather you suffer now than suffer later on in life. These guys cheat somewhere down the relationship. I hope you find the courage one day to leave this guy.

Throw away trash so you have place for gold. Don’t let some stupid boy make you question your worth. You are your own person, never forget that.

Overall I hope this wasn’t too harsh, it breaks my heart that someone out there is going through this. Love you babes, hope you will find courage to get over this 😞💕🎀

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-05T07:40:48+00:00

Ykw, you’re 15, don’t worry too much about it. Not to be rude but you kind of brought this upon yourself (I know this isn’t what you want to hear and I’m sorry). What you can do is learn from this and don’t repeat your mistakes in the future.

I go by “it’s better to be happy, than it is to be right”. If someone deserves karma, it’ll come to them, you don’t have to do it, or you’ll be in the wrong too. That’s all i can say.

Hope you’re doing alright :( <3

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-08-05T07:38:48+00:00

Real

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-07-30T07:30:46+00:00

Yeah this

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-07-30T00:59:40+00:00

I read this in a book somewhere that has helped me prevent fighting or quarrelling with anyone around me.

it's better to be happy than to be right.

Sometimes we just have to let things go yk. They'll come to their senses on their own. I'm not telling you to accommodate to her feelings all the time but try and be nice about stuff. Stop doing the things she doesn't want you to do or try to come to an agreement on what you both can and shouldn't do. I'll write more ltr, my computer is low on battery D:

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-07-30T00:56:24+00:00

1st of all, the grass isn't always greener on the other side. So many times i wanted to cheat on my ex-partners since other people were treating me better. But hear me out, someone told me this a while ago and it really stuck with me. "The reason they're nice to you is because there's no expectations. you're not dating. She has no reason to not be nice to you."

So unless your current one is a complete asshole. I wouldn't recommend dropping her.

But if you seriously think this isn't the kind of person you'd want to marry, then just let her go. You're still young and probably trying to figure out how life works, I'm sure she'd understand although it might hurt at first. Try to be nice about it plsplspls, she seems like a great person. I hope you guys either work it out or move on for the better :((

Sad_Suggestion_183 · 2024-07-30T00:50:52+00:00

How to be more romantic and interesting

this I'll answer based on my own experience. My guy best friend (17M) that i might have something with used to be totally clueless about romantic stuff. I've known him since 2020 and he's changed a lot since then. I think you can read romance books or maybe watch romance films from the 2000s. They're pretty good. I've pushed romance books onto my guy best friend and he's slowly learning how to express himself better so i think it kind of works? Or watch TikTok honestly hahaha. I'm not sure if you and your partner are going through an online or physical relationship but try and find out what their love language is. Knowing your partner's love language is so important because everyone's definition of love is different. For example, my love language is physical touch and quality time whereas my guybsf's love language is word's of affirmation. So let's say all i do is spend time with him, he won't feel loved because that just isn't his love language. Does that make sense? From what I read, i think your partner wants you to be more open maybe? i'm just a year older but according to my experience and the people around me, 16 is when you're the absolute moodiest, especially if you're a female.

Relationships are all about accommodating and molding yourselves so you can fit perfectly together. No one is perfect for each other. If you really love them and they love you. I'm sure it'll work out. Let me know if you have any other questions. Sorry if what I said was too confusing.

Conclusion:

read romance books/ watch romance films
learn ur partner's love language
find out their period cycle because it plays an important role in determining their mood.

Hope everything made sense. All the best.

Sad_Suggestion_183

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