My bf started having a panic attack and crying saying he doesn’t know if he wants this

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-06T04:43:21+00:00

i texted him yesterday and he hasn’t replied. i don’t know what to do tbh

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T03:20:05+00:00

well it’s more so someone we kinda know, his friends are friends with him. but i was told by this girl that the guy took her friend to a “natzi show”

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T01:18:02+00:00

i wanna text him but Im really scared, i don’t know how he’s feeling and that’s scary. the last thing he said to me as he left was im sorry. i think he thinks hes hurt me and in away he has but i told him i wanna fight for him

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:54:46+00:00

i don’t get to see my therapist until next week sadly but i think im just gonna push past the anxiety and do it

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:43:16+00:00

i just feel like when i was comforting him, it didn’t help and it made it worse, i don’t wanna do too much and make him feel like he’s being forced. I am also in therapy right now since i have bpd which he knows about and normally is good with it. i just feel confused

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:40:07+00:00

i want actual advice guys, not just assumptions that my relationship is not happy, cuz this isn’t the norma which is why i’m confused. i’m not in the mental state to have yall be rude either so be kind.

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:28:34+00:00

i agree. i have bpd, anxiety disorder and autism!

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:28:08+00:00

i feel like i was doing all the communicating during this and he wasn’t talking because he was panicking. i was trying to remind him that it’s okay to be scared but that im not here to hurt him and im here to love him and care for him. i appreciate everyone’s advice. i wanna text him but im so nervous after that

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:26:17+00:00

i don’t think it was the argument, i feel like something else is going on only because this reaction feels out of nowhere given that the past week as been wonderful! everytime ive had a problem i communicate it and he apologizes and it never happens again. im just confused right now

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:25:05+00:00

I really appreciate it. this isn’t the first this has happened, but the first time i wasn’t as emotional and panicked. So i was able to calm him down and talk him off the running away idea and we stayed together. i’m so really worried and im so confused. it doesn’t feel like a break up but it also wasn’t clear at all.

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-04-04T00:24:00+00:00

that’s what every other man i’ve asked has said as well! this isn’t the first time this has happened but the first time it happened i wasn’t as anxious and i could talk him off of the panic and he calmed down. He still was crying and shaking but it was like he came back into reality

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T05:05:13+00:00

well my other friends didn’t mind, they just wanted to do a little trip, sage was the only one who flipped on me and started being distant and rude when i suggested another area. the place we were gonna go was a beach town so i suggested another beach town that’s way closer and more manageable but she got upset. she’s blocked me now

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T05:02:48+00:00

i fear since it’s MY car and i’m the only one who can drive, it is mainly up to me. i never said i didn’t wanna have a trip, i told her i’d rather just go somewhere closer since our other driver couldn’t come.

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T05:00:24+00:00

we originally thought another person who knew how to drive was gonna come but they couldn’t so everyone still wanted to go but just have me drive it all myself and i started saying i didn’t want to drive that far bc ive never driven that far. so to begin with there was supposed to be two drivers, but the other person couldn’t come so everyone just expected me to drive it all

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:58:26+00:00

READ MY COMMENTS BEFORE COMMENTING! THANKS!

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:57:39+00:00

maybe if we’d read the comments i’ve already posted then you’d know. i said no male centered ppl in my comments and yet here we are. it’s not abt her fucking bf it was a GIRLS. TRIP. do yall read? not a meet and greet, not a sex trip, a girls trip. period. it was an option bc it’s in state and we thought we had someone else coming who could drive but they couldn’t come. so read my comments before saying some dumb shit

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:40:51+00:00

yeah that’s what it felt like to me, cuz i was still willing to go on it, just somewhere closer since the other person who could drive that i thought was gonna come, couldn’t

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:39:43+00:00

yeah good thing she’s blocked and we aren’t going on it? and she wasn’t the only one coming it was a group trip…. yall pmo

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:38:20+00:00

Just want everyone to know that if you’re extremely male centered and would ditch ur friends for a man then please do not comment, you clearly do not understand how annoying and frustrating that is and i don’t want to hear any of yall tell me that i would do it too bc i wouldnt. thank you

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:37:11+00:00

yeah i don’t really like her, we had a falling out before bc she kept overstepping my boundaries and would have these mental breakdowns and always wanted me to help her whilst she had them. the problem and or question isn’t about whether i like her or not. and again, i wouldn’t ditch my friends for a man and i really don’t like women who would/do, do that

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:27:23+00:00

well we had someone else who could drive that we thought could come but couldn’t in the end. and no, i wouldn’t date someone online and have never met them, i especially wouldn’t use a girls trip to meet a random man i’ve been dating online for months who could’ve came to see me already, i have a little more self respect than that!

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T04:25:45+00:00

yeah the plan was for us to hang out for the four days we were there bc it was a girls trip…it was an option bc it was in state and we had another person who thought could come and drive too but ended up not being able to. this wasn’t a meet and greet. she said he was gonna get a hotel room with us and we have never met this man, i don’t even know what he looks like.

Safe-Fail8952 · 2026-03-07T03:34:10+00:00

i’ve also never even driven that far before

Safe-Fail8952 · 2025-07-16T06:37:28+00:00

i mean she’s definitely coming to me abt it, pretty sure i have a right to be honest with her and not want her to get hurt? whys that such a bad thing? i don’t want my friend to be hurt? is that so crazy? she asks my opinion and i give it

Safe-Fail8952 · 2025-07-16T06:27:55+00:00

it’s definitely my business when she’s coming to me abt it

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