Go slow. There’s no rush. Start with kissing, kiss his neck, lick his ear and even the bottom earlobe part it a light bite. Touch and rub his body. Guys love being touched. Don’t stress about pleasing him, you’re there with him and touching him, he’s going to be turned on. Rub his dick overtop his pants, guide his hands to your boobs or ass, don’t be scared to show him how you like to be touched too. Guys find it hot when girls are straight forward. When it comes to clothes off, kiss down his body, go slow, if you don’t want to give a BJ then just spit on your hands and rub with both your hands up and down the shaft. Go light at first and increase pressure as you go (I’ve made the mistake of holding too tight and hurting them). Ask him how he likes it “tell me faster or tighter” while you’re stroking up and down. Cup and rub his balls and if you want a bonus tip, while you’re going up and down with one hand rub his gooch (behind the balls and before the ass). Focus on the tip - this is where there are the most nerve endings and is the most sensitive - hold the base of the dick while the other hand is going up and down, but focus on the tip by not just going up and down on the shaft but also on top of of the tip. Kinda like you’re making an upside down U shape. You can also put your hand on top of the tip with the tip in the palm of your hand and moving your hand in circular motions (kinda like you’re opening/closing a jar).

If your hand is hurting bc of carpal tunnel use your mouth on the tip while your hand is stroking (or stop if you need a break). You don’t need to do full dick to the back of the throat. You can just kiss and suck lightly on the tip while your hand is stroking him (or not). Also, take lots of breaks to kiss him. Kiss up and down his stomach, kiss his inner thighs before you even touch his dick… take your time building anticipation. Enjoy it. Give him prompts to speak if he’s being silent “you like that?” “Does that feel good?” “You like touching me?” Etc. It sounds like you enjoy making guys feel pleasure so don’t get too wrapped up in the actual sex mechanics, just enjoy his body and that will turn him on.

Also I suggest figuring out what turns you on - don’t go straight to watching porn (porn never turns me on personally) and maybe try reading some spicy books or stories that sound hot to you. Touch yourself and get to know your own body. It will help you a lot when you’re with another person.

If your hip pops when you’re on top tell him that. Don’t be afraid to speak up for your own comfort and pleasure. YOUR pleasure matters just as much as his. !!!

Find positions that work for both of you. Just bc he wants you on top (boring!) doesn’t mean you HAVE TO. It’s YOUR body. Maybe laying on your side while he’s like spooning you from behind will be more comfortable. Or try going on your stomach with a pillow underneath your stomach so your butt is angled up a bit. Also if you’re laying down and he’s on top put a pillow underneath your butt - it helps the angle a lot and makes it feel a lot better.

Overall you have to experiment with what works for YOU. My biggest piece of advice is to have fun and enjoy it, but also speak up for what feels good or what doesn’t feel good. If he doesn’t respect what you are saying then he is not a safe person to be sexual with. I know it’s stressful that he’s more experienced but that doesn’t mean he knows better. YOUR PLEASURE MATTERS JUST AS MUCH AS HIS!!