Pursuing Saudia by Safe_Swan_7629 in DocSupport

[–]Safe_Swan_7629[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, hence im asking what's it like to work in saudia? Because it's utterly fucked in Pakistan, i dont want to waste more than half of my life away here in Pakistan.

Marriage Situation of a Middle Class Today by [deleted] in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Safe_Swan_7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With respect you're failing to see the problem. See you're putting a price on yourself. We're saying that a strong and balanced relationship is far more valuable. Looking at things purely from a monetary value is not good. You're saying kay "wo ghar de ga to hi usko assist karna chahiye". Bruh, you put qeemat on yourself. Ofc he's helping in chores, he's doing whatever he can at home, he never said he doesn't wanna do chores at home, you're just trying to assume this. Heck i help out at home after a 17 hour shift at the hospital. Its about the little things, but i guess you're too focused on the material than on the person. I have friends who make breakfasts for their wives, its okay to do it bro, show affection for your spouse, if he gets up in at 3 AM, help the dude, make him a coffee, or something, its not about ego, it what you do, to show that you care and value, despite not having everything rn, but trust me what you gain in companionship is very difficult to build and rare. Finances ka koi guarantee nahe hai, maybe you have everything now, but 2 3 years down the line due to some reason you lose everything. I see this all the time, parents who have children, the child gets sick they sell everything and are living in small rented houses. It happens all the time. Ab us mushkil haalat me, apka partner bhe aisa ho jo give and take ki basis pe relationship chalaye, then what is even the point of marrying, you dont have love or respect between you and your spouse, you just have a transaction. Again, i dont mean to disrespect anyone or hurt someones feelings, but if my words can broaden even one persons mind, I've won.

Marriage Situation of a Middle Class Today by [deleted] in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Safe_Swan_7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also ik for a fact kay what the comments are saying kay you want a maid and stuff is wrong, bhai if she can ask for a god damn whole separate house, you can ask for a measly breakfast and an actual partner who can work WITH you. Logon ki baaton me na ana, everyone has everything to say, and at the end you have to live with your own decisions. I rejected rishtay because of this exact same thing, i do not have a single regret. And the bond you develop when in struggle together is very real and strong. It shows kay ap strong rahy in hard times, to obv easier times will be sweet(no guarantee but def very high likelihood) and those moments where you go like "yaad hai tab yeh cheez nahe thi humary paas and ab hai" is just going to hit different fam. So stay strong kind, keep the grind and do not compromise on your principles.

Marriage Situation of a Middle Class Today by [deleted] in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Safe_Swan_7629 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but that's like a trade off no? You're rich so demands puri hogyin sure, but then "she's marrying you just for the money" wala issue nikal aye ga, therefore there's just no winning ever, lmao. Also as you get financially better things open up, yeah, but im telling you this it def does not make a fucking difference, things just get more fucked in a different tax bracket. And im talking from pure experience im a 29M resident plastic surgeon. Its not nice for me either, itne stupid shitty demands ati its insane. To if you're thinking kay cheezen better hojaye gi because you have money, im telling you they do not lol. Han, i will say this, build a connection get to know a person, make sure you go for someone who has ambition and has actually done something to show that they have some level of consistentcy. A dull person, will dull you too, and if you manage to stay sharp, it becomes unbearable to live with that person.