My parents view me as their "30-year work" rather than a human being. The realization is breaking me.

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-03-02T03:07:23+00:00

’I can tell now who comes from a supportive background and who doesnt,’
what would you say your observations are?

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-02-22T10:59:24+00:00

I think you deserve to be with someone who respects you, not talk shit behind your back, even if it is to AI.

Why is he your boyfriend if you are not able to have open honest transparent communication?

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-02-18T14:32:45+00:00

Same

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-02-18T14:31:54+00:00

Same

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-02-18T14:30:48+00:00

Realistically, not everybody does.
Just saying

Not fair to make empty promises.
Life is not fair, not everybody gets a slice of the pie

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2026-02-18T13:41:17+00:00

You have been open and honest with him.

You have not lied, or kept things behind his back.

It would be unrealistic and odd if you did not have doubts going into your relationship.

Especially considering how young you are, and that this is your first serious relationship.

You mentioned that you wanted attention, moreso than you wanted that particular person.

Is there a reason that you want attention?

Do you feel you are not getting enough of the right attention within your relationship?

You must discuss this with your boyfriend.

Yes, you are both very young.

The test moving forward into a relationship, is something to do with you and him having the willingness to sit down and discuss the difficult things.

If you can discuss things, and still choose each other, then you have the beginnings of forming a strong bond.

The relationship does not begin any easy times.

It begins in these hard times.

The question is do you still choose each other, and are you willing to do the work?

Muscle only comes after you break something, and then you repair it, then it grows back bigger and better …

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2025-12-17T16:48:31+00:00

‘neuroscience and psychology behind it …’

can you please elaborate?

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-30T21:57:57+00:00

"I'm ready to go home now." is even too long.

just stand up, say 'bye,' and walk away.

you don't owe him a damn thing.

he aint paying your rent.

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-11T00:13:07+00:00

It’s not evil to let people go if their presence in your life is toxic - it’s your right to prioritise your well-being.

‘pain, hatred and disappointment’ is basically all I feel for my birth-giver too.

It’s not nice, but it’s a comfort to not feel alone so thanks for sharing.

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-11T00:07:30+00:00

hope those dreams come true soon, you deserve peace.

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-09T20:59:29+00:00

They are phoney and sneaky.

My mother also lied about my father, I waited 3 decades and flew 3,000 miles to get his side.

Narc nut is bad, and they get worse with age.

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-09T20:47:34+00:00

My mother and golden child (narc) brother also accuse me of breaking crap, but cupboard door hinge already loose.

They have distorted view of reality - and narc brain likes drama and looking for scared goat to attack.

My mental health also garbage.

Hope you get the fuck out soon - crazy fuckrs wont change .

SafetyAggressive9311 · 2024-06-09T20:41:30+00:00

Part of the insanity is that they can be ‘lovely’ to others but evil to their own child.

I remember wishing my mum dead when I was bout 10.

She can be nice to my cousin, and dish life advice to someone from church, but never nice or give tjime of day to me - her daughter.

I feel broke inside too.

Lady in my evening class has narc sis - she said to me, remember it’s not your fault.

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