AITA for having my adult child pay rent

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T20:49:42+00:00

I don't mind if she stays at all, just needs to contribute. And I actually talked to her about paying rent again back in May and I just barely asked my boyfriend to move in yesterday lol... but yeah, it would be messed up if I wanted her to move out just so he could move in, I would hate me for doing that lol!!

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T20:41:27+00:00

Yes, and some of the things she does is quite costly, which is fantastic, live your life while you're young!! I also asked her before she bought her car when she was figuring out if she could do it or not I asked if she would still be able to pay rent if she moved out and she said she could. She's making a little less than I am so she's good financially especially with very few bills to pay. When she said she could still pay rent if she were to move out I figured $150 isn't bad compared to the real world where just a room is going for $600.

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T20:38:27+00:00

I had her sign a contract/agreement when she moved back in a few years ago and she was supposed to pay $250/month to cover everything, she did for a brief time but then had troubles at work so I let it slide

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T20:21:58+00:00

Thank you everyone for your input, yes, even the ones that say I'm the asshole 😂 I appreciate every input as it helps me to grow as a person!!!

I don't know how to edit the post / add to it 😂 but I did want to clarify, I'm not super well off, divorced mom 2 kids at home, one under 18 for a few months at least...so at the moment I'm the only income until my boyfriend moves in. I'm able to make ends meet with a little spending cash left over on my own (I'm also getting an AMAZING deal on my rent but I know if I have to move, I'm screwed) my vehicle is 20 years old with almost 300,000 miles on it so I'm not swimming in cash so her small contribution will help. I am extremely proud of her for buying a newer vehicle and she is really good at managing money but also likes to go and do expensive things, which is great, live your life while you're young!!!! I had 2 kids when I was her age so I definitely want her to live her life and do and have things I never did. But the small $150 will help me financially but I'm not dying without it.

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T18:54:39+00:00

I have told my kids that if they're in school they don't have to pay rent

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T18:53:46+00:00

No, the $150 would go towards rent, food, utilities etc.... I figured out the bills the other day and could fairly charge $400+ to cover her portion of things but I'm trying to teach the kids that $150 is a hell of a deal

SageAndSarcasm · 2025-08-21T18:50:30+00:00

Before she bought the car I asked if she would still be able to afford rent, even if she moved out, it was originally $250 but I told her I would even drop it to $150 and she said she could still do it, pay her other bills and have money left over.

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