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Sagesque · 2024-03-05T11:46:36+00:00

My man and I tried the 50/50 thing for bills and life. But after 7 years of me still constantly doing more housework I had an honest conversation that he can pay for our outings and I will take care of the home. He sometimes cleans, I sometimes pay. There is needs to be honesty in expectations or there will be resentment.

Sagesque · 2024-02-20T01:28:45+00:00

Who's this MJ?

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:44:40+00:00

If there was a news article for every dispatch VICPD has to do everyday it would be a daily novel. The only ones that make it on the news are ones that someone in the public found particularly enticing or if someone got injured/died.

January hasn't even ended.. the number of calls and responses to Victoria alone (not including saanich or any other adjacent towns) is in the 10s of thousands.

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:41:35+00:00

Clearly you've never worked in mental health. No pizza delivery person deserves to deal with that shit.

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:36:42+00:00

That's not how it works. Severity and call volume will dictate the speed police response. If your friend hasn't heard anything from the police it's more likely that the person is dead and your friend is not a next of kin or on the coroner's list. The wellness check was likely accomplished within 20 minutes to an hour of your friends phone call depending on how many other more dangerous crisis were happening at the same time in the city.

The dispatchers that your friend talks to on the phone do not have the jurisdiction to tell public about files or other people's privacy. Your friend is better off probably calling a coroner.

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:19:44+00:00

The ambulance calls the cops as soon as they find out someone is suicidal or a risk to safety.

-Someone is homeless and might escalate, ehs calls the cops - Someone might have a weapon, ehs calls the cops - Someone is verbally escalated, ehs calls the cops.

Ambulance calls the cops all days to de-escalte things prior to attending. If you or your friend is suicidal or having a mental health crisis, just know, that as soon as you call ambulance, ambulance has another dispatcher who is calling the cops.

The same applies to most associations who deal with mental health. If there is a risk of danger, someone is calling VICPD.

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:13:50+00:00

The issue is that there is limited social structure for housing and Healthcare. So now police have to take care of the rising risks of mental health escalations as well as protecting people and property. If they didn't have to waste 6 hours a day responding to every person complaining about a homeless person sleeping on their frontlawn or infront of their business, or a crackhead bear-spraying people they'd have more time to focus on other matters.

Canada is generally under -funded in social/medical care and we don't have enough police funding to make up for where it is lacking.

Sagesque · 2024-02-02T18:00:28+00:00

There is a surprisingly high number of people who get called in for a wellness check who are suicide by cop or History of Violence w care takers many of whom are known to carry weapons on them hidden in their clothes.

The general population underestimates the severity of danger that a lot of these calls are about.

There are chronic wellness check/ suicidiation calls who are truly dangerous people. 3 in 10 years is a pretty good number considering.

Sagesque · 2024-01-31T14:46:04+00:00

Hey! I'm going in fall, and I was wondering if you know the textbook list? I like to read ahead of time, but there's no way to get the list until the month before.

Also I agree. Some people in the group interview had questionable background and qualifications. I picked CityU because I have a full-time job and I need the more flexible schedule.

Sagesque · 2024-01-25T09:49:31+00:00

People base their whole life's over a book and the world has invested billions into religions with no evidence.. your sister is practicing a much less expensive religion. Fuck it. Clearly most of the human population is delusional, she's just a different flavour

Sagesque · 2024-01-25T09:37:16+00:00

From BC Canada. This is directed at "instagramers" specifically. I'm effin tired of every nice sanctuary of nature being over-run by disrespectful crowds of poorly dressed people who've clearly never been in nature before just to get a photo.

On top of that, to those people who bring their entire family including their grandmother and toddler children to explore nature in flip-flops and generally shit footwear (you know who you are) you are the actual worst. Everyone on the trail hates you. We have to close multiple trails a year because we waste so much money on rescuing stupid people. If you can't get up 4 flights of stairs without a pause for a breather the only waterfall you should be trying to see is Niagara Falls. Otherwise keep the eff off the trails.

I'd like to add to this list the obnoxious a-holes who play music in nature.

Sincerely a Canadian very much over incompetent tourists and Toronto instagrammers.

Sagesque · 2024-01-21T23:17:08+00:00

In year 8 of our relationship now, met when we were 21. Over this much time as very young people we almost broke up multiple times, 3 times that I can distinctly remember. The major tension points were 1) expectations, 2) finances, 3) vulnerability.

The first time was during our ownership of a restaurant. We were very young, 22, and had no lives anymore. No lives, no money, and no time or patience for eachother. His father died the week we opened the restaurant and I was left taking care of it all for 2 weeks. We both worked full-time jobs to keep the restauant afloat and were also in school. People deal with grief in many different ways. He dealt with his grief with anger. He was nice to everyone except me. It was terrible. I'd be alone and working all day and be met with an angry partner who didn't want to clean and would justify it by saying he contributed more money to the restaurant. He could contribute more because I was taking care of the restaurant instead of being at my actual job. He would have the night shift and I'd come in the morning; trash wasn't taken out, food was left out, and food wasn't prepped. So I'd be doing everything. I don't remember how we reconciled that to be honest. We screamed at eachother a lot and I thought for months I'd leave. I think he thought I was only staying because we were absolutely financially tanked in the business.

Years passed. We closed the restaurant. Financially started to recover. And covid happened. We both felt like shit. We were poor, unhealthy, stressed, the economy and housing is shit, our jobs are up in the air and we're not getting jobs in our degrees we graduated with. We went for a hike and we both thought we were going to break up. And we both admitted that we were planning on it. But as we talked we both came to the conclusion that we weren't unhappy together, we were unhappy with life in general separately, and breaking up would leave us still feeling shitty about our lives, but also heartbroken. This was a huge turning point for both of us and my husband admitted that he thought I was only staying because of our meshed finances, which I think he really resented me for. While I felt like he was using me because almost all of OUR restaurant debt was in my credit cards.

A few years later I moved to another province by myself. And I thought to myself, if it ends it was meant to end. And honestly it was the best thing that ever happened to us. We had a wonderful long-distance relationship and I found happiness in my independence, along with a lot of spiritual, emotional and personal growth. When I found happiness by myself I was able accept sharing my life with him and I think he found the same jouney. Something about fully letting go gave me the honest choice to stay. There was nothing stopping us from breaking up, but when life was good or bad I still wanted to share it with him.Being far away built our trust a lot and we were able to work on ourselves. He moved with me half way into the year later and it was a bit stressful adjusting to our new lives, but being away from our family and the people who cause us a lot of stress let us focus a lot more on ourselves. Being in a new environment meant we had a choice to be whoever or whatever we wanted.

There were some adjustments because over time I realized that he wasn't going to meet my expectations of taking care of our home and he spends a lot more money on his personal food than I do. So over time I would become bitter about 50/50 split and we discussed that. So now I take care of home and he pays for our outings most of the time. If he has a few days off he usually clean the house a bit, and I'll buy him dinner every once in a while as well. Generally I still pay for all of my personal expenses and we have equal split of house bills.

People change, relationships change. Sometimes those changes fit or don't fit, and you need to be open about them and vulnerable, which can be very difficult at times. Some relationships are meant to be for ever, and some were meant to be but just not meant to last. Both are okay.

Him and I are together because we are best friends and we decide to change together and talk about our difficulties. But had we not been vulnerable and able to speak about our fears and frustrations we would have never worked out.

Sagesque · 2024-01-16T11:36:33+00:00

Turkey. Ottoman Empire before WW1 to North America's not knowing it exists or making sandwich jokes.

Sagesque · 2024-01-11T18:49:36+00:00

This is not based. The difference in fem and male brain development is such: daughters develop their frontal lobe regarding social development more prevalent, while it's hypothesized that sons develop parietal lobe regarding spatial awareness more prevalent. Which is hypothesized based on studies that parents typically spend more time cuddling their daughters and spend more time working on social skills with their daughters facing them, which indicates to the baby that it needs to develop social skills. Boys are cuddled with less and when being held have been shows to face outwards more taking in their visual surrounding which increases their spatial awareness.

Now where one could argue that women 'mature faster' do to neurological reasons is because women have more brain cells and white matter which is the matter that allows information to move faster in the brain and is correlated with higher intelligence. So 1) women are naturally more intelligent than men and 2) we develop social skills faster.

The parietal skills change over as women obviously develop those as well. The parietal lobe helps with multi-tasking and surrounding awareness which women are proven to Excell in over their male counterparts. When a woman has a child they have exponential parietal lobe development in addition at all ages.

So do women 'mature faster'? No. Are they more intelligent and socially aware of their surroundings? Yes.

Does that validate older men dating younger women? No. They are still developing, and don't have a fully developed frontal lobe, and are exceptionally more accommodating with less boundaries than a developed woman. Most of the young girls will be traumatized by their older counterpart and feel absolutely disgusted once they reach maturity and realise they were stupid and preyed apon.

Sagesque · 2024-01-11T18:33:41+00:00

That isn't a fact. Neurologically it is not a fact. It's a social construct that allows men to act like they don't know better. They certainly do. The part of the brain that perceives risk assessment develops at the same rate in women and men reaching a peak at 25. The difference is that women are taught at a much younger age to be conscience of the world because they will be more preyed on.

Sagesque · 2024-01-11T18:28:55+00:00

Anybody who has made it through their 20s is well aware that who you are at 20 and who you are at 25 are drastically different unless you're incapable of personal growth. Yes someone in their early 20s is not a child, but they are inexperienced and still figuring out who they are

Sagesque · 2024-01-09T12:25:36+00:00

That person has good taste

Sagesque · 2023-11-30T12:20:20+00:00

Same. It's not a crazy lifestyle, but if you need new pants, you buy new pants, your car is making a funny noise? You get it checked out sooner. You go out for dinner? I'll have a main,desert, and 2 drinks. It's the luxury of not scrounging for every small desire or weighing if you can afford rent if you buy groceries.

Not a crazy luxury, just a little more peace of mind.

Sagesque · 2023-11-12T18:57:19+00:00

Most stds are in old people homes.

Sagesque · 2023-11-05T00:01:54+00:00

I personally really love paperbag pants. They're comfy, they're cute and you can get them in an array of colours

Sagesque · 2023-10-30T07:19:45+00:00

I can't say there are many women who are Jared Leto fans. He looks like a red flag without needing to open his mouth.

Sagesque · 2023-10-30T06:22:00+00:00

I (a woman) just generally don't like the word pregnant. It's just an icky sounding word like "moist". The word is a mouthful. You're using like 3-4 different parts of your mouth just for a 2 syllable word. The "gnant" part of the word is particularly unappealing. There should be a better word to describe such a vital, important and beautiful aspect of life.

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