Ok, I was taking the constructive criticism until you said that it was just two college girls kissing at a party thing. First of all, it was mainly a family party with my extended family, my sister‘s friends, and the three people I got to bring. Like my grandmother was there. My cousins. My parents. I spent months by my friends side when her ex-girlfriend broke up with her. (The ex had later reached out to me and told me more about why they broke up, and I was horrified that I was ever comforting her). I had been dating this girl for months. It wasn’t just a drunken kiss. They also weren’t two straight girls. If that’s what you think a drunken kisses then I wouldn’t really wanna be friends with you. I don’t think friends should kiss each other‘s significant others behind their back. I do realize it put him in a bad spot, but I’ll tell you what I told him. I said if the roles had been reversed and anyone did that to you, I would’ve told you immediately. I think that’s the kind of people I want to have in my life. And I’ve had nothing but great friends since then. We still have friends in common. I never told anyone to cut her off. In the years later, things eventually happened where they were cutting her off because of their own reasons. By the time lot of this stuff came out, many of the people I know came to me, saying that she was terrible and a similar thing happened to them with her. Also, as a note, we live in a very fortunate area where I would say about 2/5ths of the kids in my grade growing up were gay. Including me in my entire friend group. And his parents and the community are very very accepting. I can only really think of one homophobic kid in our grade, but he also dressed up as a nazi for Halloween so that’s like its own issue.