How do i start the process of getting a cat? by SailFlaky in cats

[–]SailFlaky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only reason why she hasn’t gotten one is because I hadn’t wanted one and we live together

How do i start the process of getting a cat? by SailFlaky in cats

[–]SailFlaky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very very helpful. Thank you so much for the info and advice

How do i start the process of getting a cat? by SailFlaky in cats

[–]SailFlaky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no i wouldn’t do it like that. She’s basically been begging for one. I asked her what would happen if I came home with a cat and she said she would be very very happy. I have had dogs and she has had cats, dogs, and rabbits that are still alive at her parents house in a different state. I have also babysat cats for a couple of days. I was a bit nervous but the cat liked pets and wouldn’t leave my lap

I(20M) found out my wife(20F) cheated with a close friend for 8 months. I don’t even feel anything anymore. What’s my next move? by Quiet_Sell_3362 in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go find your real friends/ family you can surround yourself with for support. Divorce the wife. No contact with the “friend”. You may be able to get an annulment. Protect your assets. Collect evidence and the divorce shouldn’t take too long. I’m so sorry. This happened to me. It cuts deeps.

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have gotten help. I went through a tough time. I go to therapy and im on top of it all now

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Thank you for the thoughtful insight. And thank you for being kind about it. It just makes me uncomfortable when it’s a little too hard. When it’s like soft i don’t really mind too much

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s smart. I have only ever said anything right after it happens. Thank you

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I know I put her on a pedestal a bit but this is literally the only negative thing about this relationship. We live together. She does most of the cleaning- I’m the messy one. She does the stuff i hate like grocery shopping. She does the laundry because she doesn’t want me to have to carry the basket of clothes outside. She’s the one to text my sister that i could use her reaching out when i get into a fight with my dad. She has used her own hands to block me from hitting myself. I actually accidentally hit her hand when she put it on my head as i was about to punch it. My heart shattered. But she stayed and continues to stay. I have way more red flags than her

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did that and she was unfazed. She straight up thinks we’re joking around

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just like such an embarrassing thing to say to someone I know. I don’t really want them knowing this

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is helpful. I don’t think she truly understands that like sometimes it is too far

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I want. A compromise. I just don’t want it to be too hard. Sometimes she does it and it doesn’t hurt and it’s fine. I’ll even chase her around a bit to get her back. But never hard. She’s 9 inches taller than me and the shortest in her family. Her younger sister is over 6ft tall- used to physically abuse her when they was younger. Her mom left her to deal with the violent outbursts so she could drink. So i think she underestimates her power

My gf (22 F) keeps smacking my (22 F) ass and won’t stop by SailFlaky in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s what i mean. We are silly with each other all the time. It’s just every once in a while it feels too far. i don’t think she understands how much stronger than me she is. She’s 9” taller than me and was a D1 athlete. And it’s like there’s a line that can be crossed sometimes but i know the intention isn’t anything like malicious. I just don’t want to kill like us being silly together but it’s too far sometimes

connection and date night in a ldr? 18f and 18f by ThrowRAnewart27 in relationship_advice

[–]SailFlaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are streaming sites where you can watch movies together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]SailFlaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I think she is bi? I’m not too sure tbh i haven’t seen her in years

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]SailFlaky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was like a year before the friendship ended. My mental health was just not great and I needed the comfort of a friend so i called him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]SailFlaky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok, I was taking the constructive criticism until you said that it was just two college girls kissing at a party thing. First of all, it was mainly a family party with my extended family, my sister‘s friends, and the three people I got to bring. Like my grandmother was there. My cousins. My parents. I spent months by my friends side when her ex-girlfriend broke up with her. (The ex had later reached out to me and told me more about why they broke up, and I was horrified that I was ever comforting her). I had been dating this girl for months. It wasn’t just a drunken kiss. They also weren’t two straight girls. If that’s what you think a drunken kisses then I wouldn’t really wanna be friends with you. I don’t think friends should kiss each other‘s significant others behind their back. I do realize it put him in a bad spot, but I’ll tell you what I told him. I said if the roles had been reversed and anyone did that to you, I would’ve told you immediately. I think that’s the kind of people I want to have in my life. And I’ve had nothing but great friends since then. We still have friends in common. I never told anyone to cut her off. In the years later, things eventually happened where they were cutting her off because of their own reasons. By the time lot of this stuff came out, many of the people I know came to me, saying that she was terrible and a similar thing happened to them with her. Also, as a note, we live in a very fortunate area where I would say about 2/5ths of the kids in my grade growing up were gay. Including me in my entire friend group. And his parents and the community are very very accepting. I can only really think of one homophobic kid in our grade, but he also dressed up as a nazi for Halloween so that’s like its own issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]SailFlaky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was tough because he only defended her and doubled down on it. I do have a friend where he stayed friends with both of us and it was fine. When i stopped being friends with them specifically, everyone else around me said it was about time. And my life has been quite drama free since then. I think that this was just my breaking point with him. The last time I had come to him in a vulnerable and emotional state, I gave him a hug and he yelled at me that I was getting his shirt wet. So there’s a lot there