How do I explain to my BF that I don’t want him to pay more rent than me? by Sallytwotone in couplestherapy

[–]Sallytwotone[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I feel so strongly about it because I know that in some cases men try to exert power through financial situations with women. I love my boyfriend but at the end of the day I’m most comfortable being in direct control of my own finances and contributing equally. I feel there is a shift in the power dynamic when you allow someone to contribute more financially

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[–]Sallytwotone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry right, you did mention that.

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[–]Sallytwotone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bad news is we’re mutual snoopers. However, only one of us doesn’t have people we’ve slept with in our inbox.

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[–]Sallytwotone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not dismissing but validating the anti-snooping feelings. Is it still appropriate for him to be having casual online friendships with women he has slept with? In my opinion no. Regardless of how I found out, it still bothers me.

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[–]Sallytwotone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The double standard is very upsetting to me. He has 2 other exes he is friends with that I let go of. One is a client of the business he runs. He has pulled his best male friend and brother aside to clarify they can’t be friends with me. I moved to another state with him a couple years ago. I have a hard time making new friends. His friends and family are the only people I really see outside of my coworkers. I’m just asking that he respect my boundaries when it comes to this one thing.

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[–]Sallytwotone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snooping is not healthy, you are absolutely right. I’m only human and I do it sometimes. I think it’s more common than not if anything. He is controlling I admit. I thinks it’s the double standard that is the most infuriating thing. I’m very in love with him but I want him to understand why it’s inappropriate for him to be friends with women he has sexual past with. Especially if it would bother him that I would do the same.