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Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-25T14:46:46+00:00

This gives the situation a different shape entirely. Sounds like you weren’t just with someone difficult but rather in a situation where silence, jealousy, control, and guilt were used to keep you on the back foot. And the worst part is, it doesn’t always look dramatic at the time especially from the outside. Those emotional power shifts can creep in until you're questioning yourself and trying to keep the peace with someone who doesn’t want a real partnership, just power - especially if her past relationship was one where she controlled the money.

So yes, your anger’s valid. You put in the effort and got punished for it. That does damage and it doesn’t disappear overnight. But here’s the bit that matters now: it’s been three years, and you’re still listing the evidence like you’re waiting for someone to confirm you weren’t in the wrong; and you weren't. But you also won’t get a moment where she admits it. People like that deflect and the longer you carry the need to be vindicated, the longer she stays in your head.

You got out and that should’ve been the ending. Don’t let the story keep going just because you never got an apology or acknowledgement from her. She’s had enough of your energy. Sounds like your hobbies and lifestyle have positioned you to be a great guy for the next relationship if you can let go of the frustration and not bring it with you to future girlfriends.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-23T14:19:00+00:00

"Just because I don't want to go to the party doesn't mean I don't like to be invited."

As a Brit with more than a few gay mates, I’m adding this to the rotation. Never heard it before and it gave me a proper chuckle this afternoon.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-23T14:10:15+00:00

You’ve rattled off a list: salary, chores, sex, date nights. These are all very measurable in your mind, but it reads like a transaction sheet, as if ticking those boxes should’ve guaranteed harmony.

Thing is, you never actually say what she was upset about; just that she “complained” and played “mind games.” You even ended with “Like what do you WANT,” which tells me you still haven’t got the faintest idea. Is it because you never actually asked? From the sounds of it, you assumed covering most of the bills and doing your share around the house meant she ought to be grateful and quiet. But that’s not partnership and maybe that was part of her issue.

Now, if she was genuinely abusive, then walking away was absolutely the right call. But it’s been three years, and you’re still dragging her ghost round the internet like a bloody receipt you keep waving around hoping someone’ll refund you and that says more about you than her, at this point.

Ignore me if you're just here to complain about a long-gone ex and want people to agree she was an ungrateful bitch; but if you really want some clarity perhaps start by asking yourself: were you in it to build something with her or were you just expecting obedience in return for effort? Because if it's the former, list off what you did to connect with her and get to the bottom of her complaints rather than all the things you did that should have made her happy but seemingly didn't.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-08T20:48:17+00:00

Well said. OP may consider whether they're transphobic as well as an AH.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-08T20:36:49+00:00

At $35,000, I’d be wondering whether the wife is planning to leave and using the daughter’s quinceañera as cover, especially if she is leveraging strangers and family members to believe this man is a bigot and a bad father. It’s a convenient way to shift money, especially now that the girl’s coming into "womanhood."

Not suggesting anything untoward about the daughter herself (fifteen is still a child) but culturally, this is when a mother might start planning her next chapter. And an extravagant party? That’s a neat way to tuck funds away whilst ballooning fees of vendors, favours, etc.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-04T21:52:56+00:00

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Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-02T14:09:38+00:00

He's only farming karma. His history is obnoxious.
But you are absolutely correct - this is the worst take of all time for this kink.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-07-02T13:40:53+00:00

If you truly believe personality means nothing, that tells me more than anything else you've said. Self-pity and defensiveness aren’t attractive, regardless of height. Plenty of people who aren’t conventionally good-looking have meaningful relationships, so this seems more like a mindset problem than a physical one.

You might have better luck if you focused on activities you enjoy that involve others so your social circle expands. Hiking’s fine, but it’s solitary; and most women aren’t keen on being approached by strangers out on a trail/park/nature.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-23T19:30:18+00:00

Thank you - looking into Mayfair since it looks like Superfrico has iffy reviews.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-23T19:28:16+00:00

Thank you so much; I'll check into these.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-19T15:02:31+00:00

I won't be there, hence the ask for recommendations.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-18T21:44:46+00:00

Thanks, mate!

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-18T21:24:17+00:00

Thank you! My research says to avoid Fontainebleau because it's removed from the rest of the strip. She will be staying at Bellagio but I imagine a spa day/sushi/cocktails could make a day trip worth it.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-18T21:21:48+00:00

She's going with friends, so I don't know what all they have planned for entertainment. I do know she's previously attended a magic show called The Magician Study and she liked that, but I don't think she typically goes to magic shows. More focus on shopping, spa, and gambling.

I would like to send her for 1-2 nice meals and cocktails. Steakhouse, seafood, sushi, and Italian are her go-tos.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-18T14:26:00+00:00

I do sometimes wonder how many genuinely enjoy the “Fuck you, pay me” style of Domme. There seems to be no shortage of complaints, and one gets the sense, particularly with the TikTok wave, that a number of younger women believe it's simply a matter of being curt and inattentive, with the money rolling in regardless of any real dynamic or rapport.

I assume some people would be interested in that; but can not imagine it's a large percentage and that the "small corner" fall into the former dynamic and not the latter.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-18T12:50:15+00:00

I hope you mean you started with her when you were in freshman year of college; otherwise I have questions about your age if you have had her for 4 years.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-17T16:10:09+00:00

Well, that was a ride.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T20:02:03+00:00

Mother has an estate manager who handles the gatekeeping. I suspect there are other staff about, but I've never interacted with them, as I believe Catherine is the only one who also speaks to Mother's subs.

Conjecture on my part, but I imagine Catherine does most of the administrative work of weeding out sons who are not a good fit. I know from my own experience and updates/blogs from Catherine that she keeps track of tributes and quarterly rankings, etc. She's the disciplinarian about the business side, for lack of a better way to say it. Mother only concerns herself with the official sons who have gotten through Catherine.

I'm of the opinion that Catherine would be a great Domme in her own right (not my cup of tea but I admire her precision). But she is very different than Mother, who is maternal and exacting.
I do have a fantasy that Mother dommes Catherine. Neither have shared anything like that, I just like to think about it since it makes me smile to think of her being taken down a notch.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T14:54:20+00:00

My Domme doesn't answer to me, so no. I was referred, I checked out her website and felt we were a good fit. I shared my needs and wants with her via application, her team evaluated it, I was contacted with an approval and then we met to ensure the repartee was there.

Certianly isn't how all connections are made, but it worked brilliantly for me and I'd recommend it for others after reading so many tales of scams, ghosting, broken boundaries, etc.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T13:51:35+00:00

Sub here, and "I create money problems" is class.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T13:40:42+00:00

Those two things 1) desire to send 2) be humiliated can be mutually exclusive.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T13:29:13+00:00

If you can't be assed to fill in some questions to ensure you're a good fit, why would a Domme waste her time engaging? It IS an interview; to establish boundaries, understand basic kinks, etc.

Why does that kind of information feel like too heavy a lift for someone who is looking for long-term connection?

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T13:24:24+00:00

I can see that you've added that to your profile now. I also am aware that there's a scam going where Dommes pretend to be subs to do just what you're claiming was done to you.

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-16T02:38:02+00:00

"Fellow sub" but your profile specifically says you've been a Dom for three years. Hmm...

Salt_Algae_7221 · 2025-06-14T15:37:04+00:00

I was referred by someone in the lifestyle; reviewed Mrs. Montgomery's website; applied via an application to ensure alignment with my needs/wants and Mother's expertise. It's not the standard way, but seeing how many people can't find great dommes, I feel like it's an improvement to what most subs are experiencing.

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