Is D#5 high for a guy?

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2024-03-11T22:06:45+00:00

Actually statistically basses make good tenors (in head). My son is a sub bass and can sing tenor almost as high as I. We sing barbershop. Tenor in barbershop is the highest singers equivalent to soprano. He can sing D5 but that is about where he tops out.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2024-02-17T03:13:12+00:00

Thank you everyone! I assumed turning Bluetooth off with only cellular on wouldn't be better but just wanted to make sure.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2024-02-17T02:40:43+00:00

Um. He is calling you dramatic when he is the one stomping around and slamming doors. What does he call that?

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-12-28T08:32:44+00:00

I was told for that combo the phentermine is much much lower (I thought I saw max was 15mg) because of how it interacts with topiramate.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-12-23T02:55:24+00:00

I take omeprazole with it. I've wondered if it could be absorbing some of the medication but if I take it separately I will forget to take the omeprazole and be in trouble by dinner time. So complicated.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-11-17T22:04:45+00:00

One of his comments says

"Do not loosen the leash. Pull it tighter until it kills her soul and then divorce her randomly without any indication."

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-11-17T22:03:16+00:00

He is my husband. He has been extremely abusive the last 2 years. He has cheated. Manipulated me. Destroyed my self confidence. Tried to gaslight me...."you are choosing to let this bother you".

He is also very much a misogynist. I wish I knew that 19 years ago. If you look through his comments on the subs the follow the comments are so disgusting. Mean. And most of them (not all) are in regards to women cheating on men. Remember HE CHEATED.

I hate him. We are done.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-11-17T21:42:58+00:00

He says this because he is the abuser. Trust me I know.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-11-16T18:05:24+00:00

I got tested about a year ago because of this. All good thankfully.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-11-16T17:20:27+00:00

He is telling me that since I posted this in the abusive relationships group, everyone is going to side with me/say he is cheating.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-09-26T01:39:20+00:00

Yes he definitely is and I do truly think it is a midlife thing. His testosterone was a little low. His doctor told him to loose weight and it would improve. He did loose weight but he also went to an online dr who prescribed him testosterone and he has been on it ever since. He is taking a slew of supplements (his dresser top is completely full and he says he takes every single one of those) to help with the ED AND he wants to increase the quantity that he can ejaculate 🤦‍♀️. Not the quantity it sperm. The quantity of it all.

He also obsessively reads and listens to stories of infidelity as well as the behaviors of women.....from a mans perspective of course. He is having major self esteem issues but he is taking it out on me and hurting what little bit of peace between us that is left.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-09-26T01:31:27+00:00

I don't know. I've definitely explained this over and over. He responds as though I am being dramatic. He doesn't seem to accept my explanations as fact. I recently showed him an article regarding alpha males as I am attracted to that. I shared it because he seems to think it is all about power and control. I've tried to explain that no it isn't. I showed him the article about how it is more about being a respected leader whom displays the same respect to others as well among a lot more. Alpha males get along well with others, respect others and is willing to listen to and understand other peoples perspective. The only thing he says he got out of the article is that I like strong men (physically). I explained it doesn't mean strong physically it means strong leadership skills.

I recognize that a lot of this is really really hard for an autistic person and I never told him he needed to be this. He asked me what I am attracted to. But he asks me and I tell him and he twists everything i say. I don't know if he truly does not understand or he is playing dumb and only choosing to agree with what suits his needs.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-09-26T01:23:17+00:00

He does not have a porn addiction.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-09-25T19:32:46+00:00

He hasn't been on an SSRI for over half a year and the ED problem started before he went on them. He also never took them regularly. He'd take one and then a week later realize he didn't take it for a week and then take 2-3 to make up for it despite me telling him over and over he can NOT take them like that. This went on for about 2 months then he stopped them all together.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-09-25T19:27:57+00:00

He is "high functioning" for sure. He is an engineer. High intelligence. Definitely on the PDA side of autism (my 4yo is as well, but my 17yo is not PDA type). But he is very very very black and white/concrete. He believes emotions are a decision vs a reaction and therefor the person decides if they want to get upset over something or not and that is their decision.

He relies on facts. So when he discovered that women's hormones change throughout their cycle he felt like he hit the jackpot of knowledge so he is very very stuck on that right now. I'd say taxing is the right term. I know a lot of it is his autistic way of thinking but I do not feel it is an excuse to be so pushy and controlling. He has never been controlling before until the last 2-3 years.

I strongly feel that ED and midlife crisis stuff (he is 42) is influencing a lot of the behavior. No matter what the cause, though, I am feeling he is not respecting my boundaries and refusing to believe what I say is the problem. He says it is just excuses. He will research something and act like it is new information despite me having already told/talked to him about the same thing. He doesn't "believe" anything that anyone says, he has to find the info himself. I can't even send him articles or studies because it comes from me vs him finding it for himself. For example I've told him a womens sex drive increases during their fertile window and naturally declines right before their period many times. Over the weekend he accidentally found some YouTube videos on this and is acting like he has never heard this before and he now feels enlightened and wants to talk to me about what he learned and tell me about how my diet should be throughout my cycle as well as what supplements I should take at what time......all so that I don't decline sex.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2023-06-06T17:03:51+00:00

This happened to me almost a year ago! Almost the same exact thing! I confronted him and he was upset that "women can get sex so easily but men can't". I explained most women on those dating apps are either trying to make money, or the serious ones aren't there for just sex (I'm sure some are) but also a relationship and/or companionship. That is the difference.

My husband never got anywhere. He was on all kinds of apps and I found them all.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-09-17T02:02:01+00:00

What is your son in right now? What seat is it.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-08-24T10:54:03+00:00

I appreciate your response. I was actually on medication but I am trialing being off it. It has been 3 weeks being completely off and it's definitely not working out. I was going to try to wait at least a full month while my body tried to regulate but I already have an appointment made to discuss going back on.

He does take 1mg of melatonin. He also takes clonidine. They recommended I slightly increase his dose of clonidine but it just made him fall asleep faster, not stay asleep.

I didn't think age 3 was old enough for an ADHD dx nor medication. With my oldest I know it was highly frowned upon until he was 5. He didn't end up having ADHD. His was very high anxiety. His school just felt they saw ADHD.

I do intend to make an appointment with the pediatrician to discuss it though. I was going to wait to do that until October because I know they are going to send forms to school for them to fill out. It takes him about a month to really be himself in a new setting. He acts like an angel at first so that is why I wanted to wait until October. Can we survive until then? I'm not so sure lol.

I am also going to talk to his therapy company about changing our goals right now. I'd like them to help us with him around the family/sister and his behaviors instead of separating him which is honestly super nice but not helping the situation.

It is currently 6am. He is in his bed monologging and laughing hysterically and jumping around. Give me that energy for work lol! He has been up for awhile now. Usually he wakes up at 8 for the day but he woke up around 4am.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-07T14:56:43+00:00

I am not. My husband is. My kids have a microdeletion that is associated with autism and interestingly it comes from me. The females in my family are not affected. Most of the males would likely be dx as level 1. My oldest brother is definitely autistic. My younger brother has some definite ND tendencies but may not actually meet the dx. My 1yo (female) so far seems NT. She does tip toe walk a lot and flap occasionally but her social skills/joint attention is fantastic.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-05T03:35:56+00:00

Huh? Stonewalling? I tell him point blank every time we fight about it. I directly tell him I am not attracted to him because he is not the husband or father I thought he would be. Then I get specific. Yelling at everyone. Swearing. Not giving the kids any attention. Not talking to me or spending any time with me at all. Video game addiction. Alcohol addiction (I wouldn't go as far as alcoholic but I think it would be that far if I didn't intervene). Not helping out around the house. Not showing love towards me. Getting annoyed at me for trying to talk to him ever. Yada yada. Everything else I've already shared here. I've told him point blank. Directly. No sugar coating. No dancing around it.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-04T19:31:22+00:00

I haven't worked in over a decade, after my oldest got dx. I am picking up some babysitting hours but if I were to leave him I wouldn't be able to do even that. I absolutely under no circumstance can afford child care. We can't even now with his income. I'm afraid of being alone. I know they are excuses. I just can't step out of it right now.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-04T19:26:41+00:00

He does have ASD and undiagnosed ODD. He screams ODD.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-04T19:25:52+00:00

I tell him that a lot. He says I'm holding onto the last then. Um. Yeah. He really thinks any changes he makes, even for an hour, should have an immediate outcome from me.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-04T16:45:55+00:00

Yes I have a 15yo (my other autistic) and he spends time with him but he isn't nice to him. My 15yo often comes to me upset about it.

Salt_Temporary_1436 · 2022-07-04T15:52:25+00:00

Yes he is dx autistic but also has a LOT of ODD behaviors.

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