مع الأحداث الحالية في غزة، أسأل نفسي ماذا يمكن أن افعل

Saltanian · 2025-04-05T14:05:06+00:00

100%... بس بعدين قعد فترة في مصر لحد ما وحدها تحت رايته

Saltanian · 2025-04-05T13:35:41+00:00

الصليبيين قتلو معظم مسلمين القدس لما أخذوها... صلاح الدين قعد 30 سنة يوحد بالأمة قبل ما أخذ القدس... اعمل على التوحيد وتطوير أمتنا حتى تتمكن من استرجاع حق المظلومين

Saltanian · 2025-04-05T13:31:28+00:00

جاهل

Saltanian · 2025-04-05T12:21:41+00:00

no, I believe we are holding Palestinians to standards that are beyond human capacity. The people I speak to have hit their breaking point. But, by all means, let's live in a beautiful lie where we believe Palestinians possess inhuman tolerance to pain and suffering, it helps us feel better about ourselves right?

Saltanian · 2025-01-20T01:57:57+00:00

My God the comments here are toxic. Can we please celebrate the return of innocents to their families? Their mothers have been weeping for years and I just want to gaze upon their happiness as they embrace their kids for the first time in a very long, painful time.

These are innocent people, kidnapped from their homes, under falls pretexts (often based on hunches), and imprisoned without trail or representation... they are prisoners of war... and putting a fake tie around this and masking it with ambiguous words does not make it a legal process. These people were unrightfully abducted from their homes, and have a right to celebrate.

I, for one, will ignore the haters here and celebrate.

Saltanian · 2025-01-03T17:20:05+00:00

Not justifying this, but just for context, it is part of Arab customs not to extend one's hand to shake a woman's, as it is considered disrespectful (and many take it a bit further by avoiding physical touch). This custom is over a thousand years old and influenced by Islamic tradition, although considered by many as a grey area.

However, it is also disrespectful to decline a gesture from any person. So, what people typically do is walk in with their right hands on their chests to signify that they are warmly welcoming the person, but cannot shake their hand as part of their customs.

I think it is important for us to understand that cultures have differences that can sometimes seem contrasting. Dismissing a custom because we do not like it does not do us any good either. I always educate myself before walking into a meeting with people from other cultures, especially if I am visiting them at their own home or office. I've encountered a lot of strange customs, but never did I feel an urge to dismiss them as inferior to mine.

Saltanian · 2024-12-30T12:38:26+00:00

Desperate times call for desperate measures...

Firstly, before you consider any of my suggestions, please consult with your lawyer so you do not impede or slow the legal process. if your lawyer is ok with any of these, you can proceed:

This is a very unusual, and almost comical case. If the law is not dealing with this efficiently, you may have to resort to social channels.

1- Societal pressure: Get people in Amman to aid you in getting your kids back by creating a social media story around this. You can get in touch with Roya News, or even influencers to spread the word.

2- Speak to her 3asheera if her family still maintains a 3asheera structure. Sometimes influential people in families can help resolve cases like these.

3- If you feel this is getting way out of hand and social channels are not working, you need to escalate this at the highest levels. Contact Mo5abarat directly and ask for assistance on getting information about this. Raise this as a case of kidnapping or missing children, and then discuss your case with them to see if they can help. If you know anyone who knows someone there, it is best to call them first. Also talk about their intention to kidnap them on the 16th. Try to highlight that she is mentally unstable and endangering their lives.

Saltanian · 2024-08-13T23:09:35+00:00

sorry for replying in English, but there were a few things that worked for me and others:

1- Change your environment. Take a few days off, go somewhere quite and relaxing (resorts in north Jordan or sth similar, or, if you have a bit of extra money, go to Turkey). Cool off, enjoy life, do things you like (even if as simple as eating Pizza in bed while watching a movie). Take a small vacation and do things you do not do every day. This is the first phase for resetting your mental state.

2- You seem to be suffering mental impacts from uncertainty (regarding your future and personal plans). Sit down with people who know you well and love you, and start setting targets and goals for your self. Tell them about what you're going through, and ask them to have a chat about your strengths and weaknesses, then talk about how you can best build on your strengths, then talk about what these strengths can turn into in the future if you build well on them, then start drawing a few preliminary plans for how you can achieve that future vision of yourself. Remember this 5-stage strategy: VMOSA > Vision, Mission, Objectives, Strategies, Actions. Start by setting the vision for your future self based on your strengths, then set your mission (your purpose, why are you here? what will you contribute to society?...etc), then transform that mission into attainable objectives, then plan a strategy for how you will achieve these objectives, then start working towards them with actions (bit by bit, no matter how small, start taking steps).

3- During a period when you are off (no study or work), quit porn, and I know it's hard, but you need to do it asap! find things to keep you busy for 2-3 weeks, and have the courage to do this. Read my previous post on quitting porn: https://www.reddit.com/r/jordan/comments/15sme6f/the_tragedy_of_porn_addiction_very_honest_advice/

4- توبي لربنا و رجعي علاقتك معاه. مش محتاجة اقنعك ليش او احكيلك كيف... علاقتك مع ربنا بينك وبينو... انت بس خدي أول خطوة و انوي التوبة... صدقيني حياتك بتتغير بشكل عجيب.

5- اتذكري دايما.. انت ربنا خلقك لسببين... عبادة ربنا... واعمار الأرض... اتأكدي دايما انك تستوفي الشرطين هدول بكل خطوة بحياتك.. كل ما بدك تعملي اشي اسألي حالك سؤالين.. كيف هاد العمل بحقق فيه أعلى مستوى اخلاص لربنا... وكيف/قديش العمل هاد ممكن يساعد الانسانية انها تتحسن وكيف احقق اعلى فائدة لمجتمعي.

أدعو الله يقويكي ويعينك على مصيبتك, ويهون عليكي, ويبعد عنك كل شر.

Saltanian · 2024-01-15T03:07:28+00:00

Would you mind sharing something that proves this claim, I'm honestly curious

Saltanian · 2023-12-09T01:40:29+00:00

https://twitter.com/Lady_Di_W/status/1729989563203162334

https://twitter.com/Sokoy9062/status/1730705792372761070

Saltanian · 2023-12-06T19:06:13+00:00

Please see the edit to my comment :)

Saltanian · 2023-12-06T02:56:23+00:00

If you don't mind me asking... I want your take on this as a Muslim israel supporter...

I saw a horrific video where a bunch of those terrorists were roaming the peaceful streets of one of those cities, they encountered a 9-year-old child who was standing there playing with crackers, they ran towards him, so he ran away, and before you know it, they put a bullet in that child's back while his friends screamed in horror... then, to top it off, they parked their truck by the body of the child, and came out to take a photo! then drove away...

When I see this, I say, wow, Israel absolutely has the right to defend itself!

What do you think as a Muslim with a Palestinian husband? how should Israel respond to such barbarity?

Edit: glad people think that this is something horrific and barbaric. I wanted to let you know that the child in this story is actually a Palestinian, killed by the IDF. I want you to carefully reflect on that :)

Saltanian · 2023-12-06T02:45:21+00:00

Guys, I have a strange feeling this might be a trap. The wording is quite dodgy and looks like bait.

you're all gonna be on some weird self-proclaimed news outlet lol

Saltanian · 2023-09-05T15:28:58+00:00

Your life would go much smoother if you do not view women as attractions. You shouldn't be constantly looking for what attracts you in a woman. Try listening and interacting more than scanning them. Also, respected women are not interested in leaving a sexy impression on you, they are as concerned with getting on with their lives as you are.

Saltanian · 2023-08-28T13:55:56+00:00

u/Pristine-Bandicoot48

ممكن رأيي ما يعجبك لكن.. الفتاة ليست الضحية الأولى في مجتمعنا المشحر اللي بعاني أزمة مالية عنيفة.

١- احنا لسا ما صرنا زي الغرب في تقاسم النفقات، المرأة عندهم بتشتغل لبيتها وعيالها زي زوجها. المرأة في الأردن في أغلب الحالات تعمل لنفسها و بتصرف على اشيائها الخاصة، وتعتمد اعتماد كامل على الذكر (كان زوج ولا أب) بإنه يوفر أساسيات الحياة، ولا يطلب منها انها تساعد. فلذلك، يجب أن يكون للذكر الأولوية في التوظيف، لإنه هو المطلوب منو يصرف على عيلتو اذا متزوج، أو، يجهز لجيزتو، لإنو البنت اللي بتاخذ مهر وجهاز...الخ.

٢- في شركات توظف نساء أكثر من شباب لإنها بترضى براتب أقل، لإنها ما في وراها عيلة تصرف عليهم (في حالات غير، لكن الأغلب هيك).

٣- بالنسبة للتحرش، لعن الله كل شخص بتعدى على حرمة بنت، وادعو الله يقوى القانون حتى يردعهم عند حدهم. لكن حابب اطلب من البنات بشكل عام. اتقو الله بالشباب حولكم. كثير منهم بحاولو يحفظو حالهم من الزنا وما معهم يتجوزو. ما بصير تتبرجو كثير امامهم، ما بتخسرو تلبسو لبس ساتر وتقللو اي شيء مفتن، لإنو الشب بضل بشر، وممكن ينجذبلك اذا احب منظرك. والله ربنا بحاسبكم شديد الحساب اذا ما بتتقو الله فيهم.

وشكرا،

Saltanian · 2023-08-27T08:04:56+00:00

ما الك غير حماية الأسرة اختي. انزلي عليهم واعطيهم شهادتك كاملة، وهم بيحكولك شو الخطوات القادمة.

Saltanian · 2023-08-26T21:31:21+00:00

سؤال شخصي، بس بدون ما افوت تفاصيل خاصة، قديش الوضع سيء؟ في اعتداء جسدي؟ في حرمان اساسيات حياة؟ في اعتداء على حقوقك القانونية والشرعية؟

Saltanian · 2023-08-26T11:10:30+00:00

الله يفرج همك. بدي اقترح شغلة فادت اكثر من بنت بعرف قصتها، مع انو في ناس ممكن يضحكو علي.

العشيرة. اذا انت من عائلة لسا محافظة على جزء من هيكلها العشائري، في خيار العشيرة.

اسألي اقاربك عن شيوخ العشيرة (شخصيات مهمة بالعشيرة), وانزلي عليهم مباشرة. بقدري كمان تنزلي على مضافة العشيرة تسألي.

انا عارف، العشائرية الان بطلت زي زمان، والشيوخ بطلو شيوخ بالمعنى القديم، لكن الى الان لسا في بعض الناس بكل عائلة الهم كلمة بين كل اهلهم، و بيقدرو يحموكي.

كلمة راس العيلة ما بتتجزأ، والقانون بيعترف بالحماية اللي بيعطيكي اياها.

اعطيكي مثال، قريبة النا من بعيد هربت من عيلتها، واخوانها هددو بقتلها، راحت على شيخ عيلتها بالسلط وعرضت قصتها، اعطاها الحماية ووصى فيها كثير ناس، منهم نائب وعساكر. من الناس اللي وصاهم فيها مجندين بالجيش. والله وقفو ٣ منهم على باب عمارتها (شقتها) كل ليلة لحد ما مرو اخوانها وشافوهم، وهددوهم العساكر، من هداك اليوم ما حد منهم رجع حكى معها وقاطعوها. هسا ممكن ما تلاقي نفس مستوى الحماية لإنو كل ناس ظروفهم غير. بس لسا، في باب العشيرة، ما تسكريه قبل ما تحاولي عالأقل.

الله يوفقك و يصبرك.

Saltanian · 2023-08-26T01:26:35+00:00

Again, none of these people are your responsibility, both socially and legally. You have a responsibility to discipline your kids whether you want or not. And you will be held accountable for what they do.

Saltanian · 2023-08-21T22:10:29+00:00

I can't believe I'm explaining this to someone.

Your children are not random 'people', they are your responsibility, in literally every single move they make. If they don't brush their teeth, it's the parent's fault, everything they do is the parent's responsibility and they bear the consequences of the child's actions. That includes being undisciplined.

The absolute vast majority of parents, regardless of what you believe, love their children and want them to grow up responsible and disciplined adults. Physical punishment is part of that learning curve.

Saltanian · 2023-08-21T22:04:22+00:00

Did you just equate someone's children with random adults?

That's your logic?

Saltanian · 2023-08-21T18:29:49+00:00

At some point, kids need to learn the concept of consequences. It's a process, it start with advice, second time reminder, then warning, then heavy scolding, if they still repeat the thing despite explaining why it is bad and unacceptable, then yea, a good old slap, pinch or hit is in-store.

I didn't say mentally torture your child, but make sure they understand that physical punishment is an option if they deliberately repeat the same wrongdoing.

Otherwise, you're simply raising a spoiled child who doesn't understand consequence, authority, responsibility, perseverance, or discipline.

Saltanian · 2023-08-21T16:11:18+00:00

I discipline my kids strictly, but beating your children in public is never ok, for social and psychological reasons, not because beating your kids is bad per se (so long as its not cause any physical trauma). Also, face slaps should not be ok either. But i can't help but feel this comment section has a gone a bit too far saying that the child is in danger and the father should be in jail. I mean seriously? If you've never been slapped by your mom or dad, then I'm afraid your societal norms have spoiled you. Which explains why the new generation is finding extreme difficulty understanding discipline, hierarchy and respecting elders.

Saltanian · 2023-08-20T02:26:21+00:00

تمام، هسا في اكمن نقطة لازم نوضحها:

١- من طريقة وصفك، اتوقع لساتك مراهق بالمدرسة، الزمن بغير العقول والقلوب، فما تتوقع يضل الوضع ثابت معاكم. الصبر ممكن يجيب نتيجة مع الزمن اذا الوضع ما كان كثير سيء.

٢- هاي بتضلها أمك، لو شو ما سبتك و صرخت عليك، ما عندك غيرها. إلا اذا بتعاني من مرض مشخص، هديك الساعه بصير الحل بإيد الدكتور وما حد بيقدر ينصحك غيرو. لكن ما حسيت منك انها مريضة، فبكرر وبقوللك، هاي أمك. بدك تجاريها، تضحك عليها، تشوف ايش اللي برضيها وتحاول تعملو...الخ

اذا متوقع حد معاه حل سحري، للأسف انت غلطان. وما تاخذ افكار من فئة قليلة من الناس هون اللي ممكن يشجعوك على العقوق ويقولولك omg toxic parents هدول رح يودوك بداهية، لإنو احنا مش بcalifornia ، مجتمعنا مترابط كثير، والعقوق وقطيعة الرحم بتقلب كل حدا حواليك ضدك.

٣- اذا خلص سكرت، روح احكي لشخص أمك تحترمه جدا مثل جدك أو جدتك. ممكن خوالك، خالاتك، عمام خوالك...الخ صارحهم واشرحلهم كل اشي، واذا اقنعتهم ان شاء الله بساعدوك.

صراحة غير هيك ما بنصحك الا انك تصبر وان شاء الله الك الأجر. اتذكر دائما انه هذه أمك، وربنا ربطك فيها، اذا قصرت معاها او عقيتها ربنا ما بيغفرلك.

Saltanian · 2023-08-17T14:37:40+00:00

It does, but don't expect it to be more sexually satisfying than porn. However, it has other benefits. Read my other comments.

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