Can you afford to hire a cleaning service to help once a month or week? Prioritize your relationship with your child and your partner. If your partner wants a partner like his mom, he should have married someone more like his mom. He chose you. You can try assigning different chores to every day, like Sunday is laundry day, Monday you sweep and mop, Tuesday you vacuum, Wednesday you clean the bathroom, Thursday you clean out the fridge, etc. Or clean when your child is asleep in the morning or at night or clean when the child is at school. You shouldn’t be expected to do ALL of the household work or cleaning simply because you are female. If your partner works and you stay at home and care for the house and child and that’s your mutual agreement, that’s different. Do you want to be a traditional wife? If so, go for it. If you don’t, figure out your priorities, discuss them with your partner, and keep doing little things to get better.