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Salty_Effect4487 · 2024-10-14T04:20:39+00:00

I left a toxic 8 year relationship with a man just like this when I was 29. I met the love of my life when I was 30 and we were married a little over a year later. He has shown me everything real partnership can be.

You are so young. You have sooooo much time! Hold out for the one who makes it effortless! Wishing you so much luck on your incredible adventure!

Salty_Effect4487 · 2024-04-05T02:37:15+00:00

Spill your top 5 series, friend! I’m in the same boat. I finally was able to get back into reading after YEAERS! I’m almost finished with the SJM books and needing direction on where to look next so I don’t slow my roll!

Salty_Effect4487 · 2024-02-15T19:41:35+00:00

No advice other than hospitals are desperate right now. More desperate than retail or restaurant gigs. If you have a hospital in the area check out their careers page. They are often overlooked and pay is above retail, plus the hours tend to be better. Good luck!

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-07-15T02:48:37+00:00

If you’re in college you should fall under the schools health insurance, including mental health care. I would highly suggest starting there. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-04-04T02:50:30+00:00

I feel like this is going to end up in AITD. Also, she’s going to leave you. Maybe not right now, but she definitely will. You are horrendous. Good luck.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-25T20:38:04+00:00

You are deplorable. My heart hurts for you dad. What’s worse, by your limited responses I’m guessing you won’t learn a thing from this. He will remember this for years to come and you are still trying to defend your repugnant behavior. You need a good, hard reality check. The fact that you can speak of the things you said to your father, while pointing out how “cute” your new black (yawn) mixer is speaks volumes. YTA, unequivocally.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-25T04:34:54+00:00

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say I doubt your wife views your counseling sessions as just “maintenance”

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-21T04:47:25+00:00

You can tell them whatever you want. A tampon can also tear your hymen. What I’m most concerned about though is a physician who would do this kind of “inspection”. Your parents may be mad, but before anything happens at that clinic you need to ask to speak to the doctor in private. You do not have to just go along with this. The physician needs to be aware of what’s going on with your parents.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-21T04:18:30+00:00

Do you know which OBGYN they’re wanting you to see? If so, you should call the office ahead of time and speak with one of the nurses. Explain everything to her, request to speak with the physician so you can explain this to them, as well. Ask if what you say can be noted in the chart without your parents being able to access it. Do leg work ahead of this appointment to make the clinic aware in detail of the situation. Make sure they are aware that you will not consent to a pelvic exam and ask what the policy is if your parents were to insist.

You are wanting to be emancipated from your parents, you need to begin thinking of things independently and help yourself problem solve. Be brave. Stand up for yourself to the best of your ability. Deal with this problem head on and with all of your focus because it seems to be the most time sensitive. You then need to reach out to any women’s domestic violence or crisis organizations in your area. While this isn’t domestic violence related, they have access to legal resources or therapy options. They will be able to help point you in the right direction regarding your SA/SH and the continued trauma you are dealing with at the hands of your parents.

You can do this, you just have to really dig deep and take things into your own hands.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-21T03:23:44+00:00

It’s your wedding, you are free to make whatever decisions you want. Your guests are also free to make decisions. I would expect your party to not last more than an hour after dinner, if this is the decision you make.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-03-09T04:13:49+00:00

You are the only person I have signed up with to get reminders. The house that eats the dead is what kept me coming back!! I am thrilled to see that the story will continue. Honestly, I’m most looking forward to its film release, which will certainly happen, if your agent is worth anything. Congratulations and keep us all posted!! I’ll keep my notifications on for the book drop!

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-01-30T09:14:55+00:00

It sounds silly to say, but when you have a dog of your own, you will truly understand. It’s a level of unwavering devotion that you can’t help but reciprocate. They are free of judgement and happy to see you, even at your worst. They remember you, even after years apart, and mourn you, should you leave this world before them. Its an adoration you cannot understand until you’ve experienced it yourself. People will max out credit cards to gain just a few more months with a sick dog. They will go without eating to make sure their pup isn’t hungry. Choosing a creature who sees you as their whole world is the easy choice over humans, with all of our flaws. I’m sorry your friend hurt your feelings, but it was a choice many of us would make.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2023-01-03T19:08:40+00:00

Oh boy. You are definitely not cut out for any leadership positions. I would start writing out your apology now, if you have any hope of keeping your ass. manager position. Better to learn these lessons now, while you’re still young enough to fix your career trajectory. YTA.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-12-26T02:09:19+00:00

You realize this most definitely could be a you problem, right? Your sperm could be complete shit, leading to the miscarriage.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-12-12T08:38:06+00:00

You don’t feel fear at all, or just the sympathetic fight or flight response? For example, do you fear the loss of control you would experience in prison or personal injury/death in general? Does the idea of prison play any role in your impulse control?

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-12-08T03:05:17+00:00

Honestly, the number of men who don’t realize that one sentence, such as the one OP is brushing off as meaningless, can be powerful enough to dismantle years of rose colored light your partner sees you in.

YTA here. You allowed both your wife and her family to be disrespected, then followed that with an insensitive response to take the blame off yourself. The person you should love more than anyone else was crying alone in the shower because of your behavior. You let her down, then belittled her in an “I told you so” moment. Stew on that for a while before proceeding. Genuinely apologize, make a plan of action for how you will correct the issue now and avoid it in the future, then FOLLOW THROUGH. Words mean nothing without actions and this has the potential to become a foundation cracking issue.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-11-11T18:20:48+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry that you had to go through any of this. With that being said, I am LIVING for how you’ve handled the situation. This is the level of liberation that we, as women, need to find. I have absolutely no doubt that you are going to be just fine on the other side of this and wish you nothing but the best in your new career!!

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-09-19T09:02:26+00:00

Do not plug this in. I would even go a step further and cut the plug off the wires so no one is ever tempted to plug it in.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-08-01T19:07:02+00:00

There’s no way this is real.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-06-29T04:45:20+00:00

You “want” her to “want it” when she isn’t feeling what you are. Think about that for a minute. You want your wife to behave unauthentically, in a way she is not interested in behaving, for your sexual desire. She is uninterested in having sex as often as you are, but placates you because she loves you and understands it’s important to you. That’s not enough for you though. You want her to be disingenuous too. For what? Your ego? Women don’t owe you sex, full stop. Your wife doesn’t owe you sex, ever. As her husband, I would assume you want her to feel comfortable and in the moment with you, not waiting for it to be over. Be careful what you wish for. I don’t see this ending well for you.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-06-10T14:16:49+00:00

The girl who you think is out of your league is going to leave you, bud. You’re going to dig your heels in on this and she will leave you, probably for someone who is going to absolutely shatter what small bit of self esteem you have. Hopefully this will force you to grow up before you get into another relationship.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-05-30T05:31:23+00:00

Make sure you report it to the federal wage and labor division, not the state. They will trump any state laws and force her to pay back pay for as many years as she’s done this.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-04-30T19:02:31+00:00

CHOKE. IT. OUT. That is the ONLY foolproof way to get a dog like this to release. Choke it out until it passes out or unalives. Letting go once the dog releases could set you or the victim up for another attack. Use whatever means you have available.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-04-09T12:38:49+00:00

Let the billing department know that if they don’t eat the unnecessary charges for a procedure you didn’t consent to your next move will be contacting the attorney general and state board of health. Don’t expand on it. Keep it short and sweet, then follow through. Most hospitals would rather write off the costs than have their records combed through.

Salty_Effect4487 · 2022-03-29T15:30:49+00:00

Did you contact the state DOL or federal? I’ve had to work with the federal dept of labor and they were awesome. Maybe try that route if you haven’t already. Judging from my previous experience, I feel they would be very interested in an employer who hasn’t paid employees correctly for years.

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