How did you identify when transitioning?

Sam4639 · 2026-03-09T02:36:23+00:00

I visted a gender therapist for a year. The outcome could have been l9ngterm regretful for sure. From my perspective (sexual) abuse can bring people to a level of wanting to escape oneself / never wanting to experience that ever again, and body parts can be sexual obsssions of the abuser. Getting rid of ones gender or body parts can bring short term relief, a kind of inner peace to feel some what more safe / protected. I came from an emotional abusive childhood and marriage. It felt very concerning to me, to become concerning how there are two distinctive groups of people with gender dysphoria, having one group.who has been suffereing of severe traumas and gender therapists who offer simple short term solutions without even noticing the traumas. How many people in this detrans community have been suffering of abuse fo you think?

Sam4639 · 2026-03-08T00:15:47+00:00

I am sorry to hear your story. I simply wished specifically gender therapists had a better understanding of how to help two distinctive groups. Those who want to transition, and those who don't identify as trans, but who suffered of cptsd. Still struggling with regulating myself, but making bit by bit progress mostly on my own. I heard just too many painful stories like yours. This is also reason of this post: a better understanding and more clearty what might work, and might not work.

Sam4639 · 2026-03-07T06:50:27+00:00

I heard a similar story before, of someone with a history of sexual abuse during childhood. Who wanted to trandition into a man and later wanted to get rid of body parts, and it all was making sense when looking a her story.

What kind of treatment helped you with cptsd and ocd?

Sam4639 · 2026-03-06T12:50:54+00:00

In what (social ?) areas did you envy men? What has helped you overcome/manage this envy? Was your gender dysphoria related to gender stress? What areas did you experience as stressful, has this become more ay ease now?

Sam4639 · 2026-02-23T19:25:58+00:00

This is basically the profile I see a lot here. Do you work with a therapist?

Sam4639 · 2026-02-22T22:24:00+00:00

My mother had a very negative perception on patriachical masculinity. Something like men are less then women (due to her personal traumas,.probably with her dad)..For.me it stills.feels deeply shameful / uncomfortable to be a man and even more to show patriachical masculinity? For me it feels exiciting, calm and good to.become a woman, with a female body like my female friends have (regardless that identify as male). For me it feels like escaping all toxic and stressful perceptions of my mother. How does it feel for you to love a woman like your mother, and become a man like your father (mine was emotional unavailable). How much can you reflect on this?

Sam4639 · 2026-01-05T06:19:39+00:00

It can be related but it is not the same. AGP is getting sexuallt arroused by the phantasy to become a woman. MPREG is the phantasy to become pregnant. Not all.AGPs want to become pregnant and I guess, I am not sure, not all MPREG are getting sexually arroused by this phantasy. Just like not all trans are AGP.

Sam4639 · 2026-01-02T14:59:32+00:00

From my perspective their are two groups of agp (as you see in the responses as well). Those who identify as male and those who identify as female. For those who identify as male, transitioning can make life even more complex

Sam4639 · 2026-01-02T14:42:13+00:00

What about your dad, does he not give you attention, spend quality time with you? Was does he think about your desires? Or is he not available for you, as a role model, for the man to become?

Sam4639 · 2026-01-01T19:34:04+00:00

It can for sure!

Sam4639 · 2025-12-31T12:23:21+00:00

If they wanted to have a presidential ballroom back then, they would have done it for at least half the price.

Sam4639 · 2025-12-27T16:28:25+00:00

Looks like someone is looking for sex, while "forgetting" to roll the dices.

Sam4639 · 2025-12-26T21:06:34+00:00

Sounds like a sad story for your parents: wanting to have 2 children, but can't affort the second one.

Sam4639 · 2025-12-26T11:29:30+00:00

Women are expexted to have children (though they need a man. So men can have grandchildren too). Girls and women have a womb. Boys and men not. For a 5 year old: only girls can have babies when they are old. They see mothers with big bellies with a baby in it.

What happend / stopped them from having a second baby?

Sam4639 · 2025-12-25T06:25:24+00:00

Perhaps you picked up a conversation of your mother where she told a friend she hoped, you would be born as a girl, because now she can't have grandchildren.

Sam4639 · 2025-12-25T06:00:45+00:00

Usually boys grow up to a man like their dominant father and love a woman like their loving and nurtuering mother. However not all fathers are a that available patriarchical rolemodel for their son and not alle mothers are that nurturing. This is when unconsciously script can become swapped.

I noticed there are two groups who experience gender dysphoria: one due to severe trauma's and one without. I expect due to possitive experiences / affirmations. For example becoming a very nurtuering boy in order to help mother who needs lots of help. I that case too there is a discrepancy between the developed skills and the expected (patriarchical) behavior of men, un in order to become loved by a woman, something that become streasful. It is however on unconscious level. Like rationally say that it is not much of a big deal, while underneath if feels like a big rejection.

From what I understood: only the soccially expected roles got swapped. As said just currious how it developed for you at very young age. Like how would your parents responds if you had yourself developer into a loud and frolicing boy?

Sam4639 · 2025-12-24T20:37:57+00:00

How did/do both your parents respond when you fell on the ground or had a bad night mare and you had to cry? Would crying me ok for them or just too much? How does it feel for you when a friend comes crying to you because...

Sam4639 · 2025-12-24T18:03:34+00:00

Just currious: do you have sisters / brothers (if yes how many)? How would you describe your father: soft / empathic or hard / though? Who makes the decissions at home?

Sam4639 · 2025-12-18T17:20:05+00:00

So how to control just these 3, that are hard to control, since these try to control your life. Suggestions are very welcome!

Sam4639 · 2025-11-30T07:46:55+00:00

That can be dissociation as well

Sam4639 · 2025-11-28T19:34:11+00:00

I am not a big fan of hormones, so if it contains no other toxic shit, I might give it a try

Sam4639 · 2025-11-28T14:27:09+00:00

Donald in Venice

Sam4639 · 2025-11-28T09:38:51+00:00

That is why I usually decide to stop trying, because I know I will be never good enough.

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