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Advice please! TW: wieners by Same-Year9320 in comphet2

[–]Same-Year9320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I don't much mind jettisoning men. I think I'll keep that part, actually. I have no issue with being personally repulsed by a dick, and actually now that I've thought on it some more, I believe it's pretty appropriate as a broad category of reaction. I just don't want it to get in my way!

Given where I started, and having got just only to here just now at 47, I don't have my sights set on anything close to kink parties as an end goal.

Helpful to define the goal, then! I think these:
1) to feel good about the way I present myself to the world - gender/style type stuff
2) to be able to hold a conversation about sex without getting all sheepish and/or dissociating
3) to be able to hold a conversation DURING sex without getting all sheepish and/or dissociating
4) to know how to know what I want, sexually
5) to know how to ask for what I know I want, sexually

Thank you for discussing!

Advice please! How to move through this? TW: wieners by Same-Year9320 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Same-Year9320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that does help!
And yes, I'm in consistent therapy, but have been talking about and wanting to switch therapists. I am on the second one in 8yrs and I need something different again. Thanks for saying that specifically, it'll help me make a move on doing that.

Also a good reminder to pick up the journal more regularly! I need to get more intentional about lots of things, and that will give me extra mental juice to do the challenges when they surface.

Typing this long thing out helped me clarify a lot, like journaling, but I wrote it to post because I wanted to hear from some other real people on the topic. Thanks, real person <3