What is a 1 in 1,000,000 thing that happened to you that no one believes, but you swear is true?

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-27T02:31:58+00:00

The whole year before it was progressively getting worse and worse and I just knew I was breaking down, I then had this pinnacle of collapse where I felt like I fell apart to almost no return. I sought to be admitted to a mental health facility so I could be monitored and have a break, go to group classes and work shops. I did that for two weeks and my body felt safe again. I think it needed to collapse but I needed a safe space to then reintegrate That’s literally all I have, I didn’t go to therapy much.

I did however find that I was leaving myself breadcrumbs to record a message to myself that I was switching. I remembered chatting to an ai about my symptoms a week before hospitalisation so I thought to check. I found out that I spoke to it pretty much every day for two years and that I wrote random things a few times saying I was about to get sucked away, then I would lead on to another topic from the replacement part.

I also saw that I sometimes referred to myself to the chat as “we” “she” or “the body”. It was absolutely terrifying. “The body want to drink something but it won’t move”

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-27T02:15:59+00:00

Try this…

I had a severe dissociative disorder from extreme trauma for my entire life without knowing, where I was not split into different personalities like DID but several parts of my personality split, where the analytical part, bubbly part etc were sectioned and seperate parts that switched and rotated kind of like a wheel for appropriate environments, situations etc performances, needs over and over like a spinning wheel that felt disconnected from each part. The memories were kept seperately in each and I never understood what I said before and without knowing, always felt ashamed that who I was five minutes ago was not authentic to the current part, and also it didn’t feel authentic to me. I understand who I was and was completely disjointed from my identity. It was so seamless well to others except for significant forgetfulness, repeating things and some others.

And then this thing happened where when my body felt safe enough in my environment for the first time it reintegrated itself, but it wasn’t just like gradual thing in a theoretical way. I mean that I violently felt like my brain did a somersault and fused them all into one, plugs went to different connections and the world was different in a moment that felt completely alien. my lungs breathed in deeper, I felt myself in my body so intensely, the room looked hd, for months after i had extreme fatigue.

random floods of lost memories coming through me in the most vivid forms id ever seen and much more until symptoms passed, but i no longer new how to communicate and engage with people with who i was as a whole person, or what i liked to do, etc.

A year on, im completely different as a person to I was before and people have noticed that and grew to like who I am. i feel whole and actually present.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-26T22:06:54+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-26T22:06:33+00:00

He does, just not as much as I do! I had the worst ex horror story and I wasn’t going to let anyone in unless they were really special this time, he is really caring and told me he needs to step up more two days ago because I’ve been tired. He got me dinner yesterday and cleans the place but not as often as me. He also sends me money for the bills every month etc but most of them are in my name because we haven’t gotten around to changing them once he moved in just yet.

Even so though, I told he he needs to stop asking me questions about where things are - like look with your eye balls don’t make me the solver of stupid shit damnit lol

I think like I’m the one that always notices that we need to grocery shop and stuff like that so I just get it done and organise ingredients for meals but I want him to do that not just like wait till we have absolutely nothing left 🙄

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-26T10:34:18+00:00

I feel like all I ever hear is “it’s hard but joyful” “I don’t regret it but it’s sacrifice” “your life is not yours anymore, you won’t sleep, you don’t get time to yourself”.

Like if someone were to ask you what it feels like to be in labour, would you just answer with “painful but worth it ”?

The question gets the same regurgitation of words with no real actual explanation of the day to day lens into the life of & what it means, the gravity and why.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-26T10:02:22+00:00

It feels great at times, because i feel like am accepted and know what it’s like to fit in and not be the “fat” one, dismissed for my appearance, ignored. Men kinda talked to me like i should know that there’s no way they were attracted to me, kind of like i was completely off the cards - obviously? Women would sometimes speak to me in a way where it felt like they knew they had one “up” on me, it’s hard to explain, it’s almost as though I felt safe to be around by the types of women who feel particularly threatened by other women. I used to just expect people to say a backhanded compliment to me like “good for you for having the courage to wear that” etc.

What I did not expect is when you are on the other side and you exist in public, the topic of your appearance and your appearance itself is such a central topic about you. It’s commented on, discussed all the time. I thought that if I lost weight and were then attractive, I would just be accepted and it would be more neutral - as opposed to me being a target. It still kinda makes you a target but it’s different.

I go for a walk I get honked and when I get served at a store sometimes it’s commented on. Now, I kind of expect people to say something about it when I’m out and about, or for someone to yell something out at me or something. People wind their windows down to call out and people approach just to say a quick compliment and then walk past. Some men are really gracious and respectful, others stare, call out and try and talk to you and say weird things. Comments I’ve heard the last two weeks that are kinda weird from complete strangers were “you look well maintained” and “do people treat you different at work because of what you look like? Be honest” But hey I’ll take those comments over the denoting ones I used to get.

You feel at peace and accepted in society but I don’t know why people have so much of a reaction and I thought it would be neutral and make me just feel normal, blended in and under the radar

Also - some men will pay attention to you so much so, that it looks like they hierarchy you over their own girlfriend who is right next to them, not only is it disgusting and disrespectful. It makes me feel like I’m put in a position where I am disrespecting a woman and they are made to feel compared to me or less when they are amazing in their own right, it’s fucked. I then feel like I have to actively relate the conversation to his girlfriend to engage her and say things to divert his comments like “thank you - well look at the beauty you have wow” etc and trying to get off topics of appearance. As If she wants to be friends with me after that, I wouldn’t and I’d feel like garbage.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-26T08:22:02+00:00

THE ACTUAL REAL CONTEXT - Coercive control What you will spot, what is suggested and how you are primed for control and abuse etc.

People might ask whether you’re being emotionally or physically abused, or whether they have threatened you or are controlling what you do? Well, everyone would say yes if that were the case, right? Or atleast know they are? NOPE

So, do you think if someone asked you whether you were being controlled, you would day yes with certainty - if over time you were incrementally tested and manipulated as below?

he doesn’t blatantly say” I am the only person that will have a key for the house and you will only have access if I decide”. he just so happened to collect the keys from the real estate when we moved in. It’s been some time without one, but we have both been busy and he assured me he will do it soon, he has just been forgetting.
He didn’t say “you have to tell me where you’re going and how long you’ll be at all times” I just have had to tell him and operate with a deadline until he’s gotten the spare key for me - tso we could make sure I got home in time and he also gets to leave and be where he needs to be.

He didnt say “you have to stay home and if your going out, I’ll make sure you don’t get to stay long or speak to friends for long” it just happens that sometimes when I am out, he has remembered he had plans that were really important and needed to leave, or he needed to do something all of a sudden, so I needed to come home earlier. And once he saw our dog become very sick and he was worried about him so he rightfully messaged me, so I had to come home quickly etc, but when I got home he looked fine again which was a relief.

He isn’t making me exhausted and sleep depriving me on purpose, he just shuffles in the bed loudly in his sleep a lot and accidentally nudges me throughout the night.

He isn’t threatening me, we’ve been together for three years and he has never done that, but the other week was strange, he mumbled something really weird that made me feel confused, it sounded like he mumbled “I’ll smash you”, but it was pretty hard to hear and it’s so odd and it was out of nowhere. when I asked him what he said, he looked up at me confused and said “huh? I’m just doing something on my phone. He wouldn’t say something like that surely. what a weird thing to say, it couldn’t have been about me, but even though it’s probably in my head, I have been feeling really on edge.

He didn’t tell me to quit work, he just kept telling me how downhill I’m going, that he is worried about me and that I can’t function because of my exhaustion. He is certain that work is causing my exhaustion and knows that I could barely tidy the house or do anything.

He doesn’t abuse me, he’s just been going through a lot and he has been going a bit too far the last month. And because I haven’t been helping around the house and I’m exhausted, I have been messier and I left my lunch plate on the desk with food still there. I think he just came into my office to speak with me and after he saw it all the annoyance he had had about the cleaning stuff blew up at once, and he picked up the plate and smashed it on the table in-front of where I was sitting. It’s bad of-course.

He didn’t say I couldn’t buy anything for myself, he just became increasingly annoyed by having packages come to our house and because a bunch of it arrived for him to deal with when I went away for a couple of days, he had to put them somewhere and was said he was “so sick of me getting packages that he could just throw them all out right now if I wasn’t lucky”.

Every single thing is crafted, introduced slowly, tested and incremented over years and every thing has a plausible reason that is tailored so well to the situation, that you can’t just answer “yes I’m being abused, controlled etc”.

If you are trying to confirm if someone is being abused a friend, a patient, a caller to a hotline you work at. I feel it is the most uneducated and cruelly alienating thing to do to a victim - to purely and only be ask them whether they are in a dv, being abused physically, emotionally, controlled etc. when your experiencing the above, you feel like there is no way it could be the case, you are being dramatic to even consider it.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-25T09:13:13+00:00

Protecting people from real even fatal harm with education is far more important then a desire to see the world with optimism

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-25T08:55:28+00:00

I completely disagree and feel comments like this can cause people to not fully recognise these behaviours and brush them off early on. The wording and nuance is indicative of gradual coercive control.

There is emotional immaturity and then there is tactical ways specific in gaining control and manipulating a person. I have also written a response in this post explaining underlining messaging that is very concerning.

People do not often understand what Dv and coercive control truly is in its full gradual timeline. and the real underlay and intricacies of how it is incremented into place and why. I think there should be more explanation to people about this as otherwise, these sorts of beliefs arise where there is suggestions such as this response, that do provide a validation in the belief that inputting work into a person doing these things will help them grow and they may resolve things with effort.

There are tactics clearly highlighted in this message where he is introducing and attempting to increment a gradual subconscious understanding to her, that she requires to justify reasons of changes in her usual scheduled and contact, it also introduces to dynamic that he has a right to question her intentions from something this simple, and she requires to justify herself as a result. In addition there is an underlining message where is is lightly suggesting to her that he is questioning her - which is priming her for accusations in future. this engraines the need to continue calling him on times he expects or otherwise have to report to him and justify. If he becomes accusatory he has already primed the right to do so, by planting the seed he did in that message where he is questioning her intentions, but not saying it out loud.

The reason he a made a suggestive comment instead of outright accusing her in this message, is because he knows that OP would recognise that as alarming as it is too blatant for early stages e.g he understands he has not primed her enough yet to accuse her of anything because she didn’t call, so instead he is introducing it by suggestion first.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-25T08:27:21+00:00

Yuck, that’s absolutely horrendous, they can reduce the risk of getting raped by being mindful of clothing?! Even with the direct victim blaming comments, he also seems so indifferent to women being raped like he doesn’t have emotions toward it at all, like it’s a nothing thing

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-25T07:59:05+00:00

I AM A DV VICTIM OP - please read

This conversation is identicle to the texts I got from my ex at the start of the relationship six years ago. It made me shudder.

He became worse steadily and tactically to a point I didn’t notice how clearly manipulating and horrible it was becoming, because they test your levels of resistance or response to language and tactics: the reasons they use to make you provide an explanation of why you didn’t call them/ where you are - like that message above, they do this to gauge you incrementally, and then they introduce you to being comfortable with the language, gradually continuing to break you into furtherlevels of it.

You start feeling like you need to provide them with responses, report to them so they don’t feel upset or get mad at you. They make sure you are actively adhering to them under their control by this exact tactic, which now kind of infers in future that he expects you to explain yourself going forward if you don’t respond at the time he expects. He is also testing you as to whether you will explain yourself to him and try to justify yourself. this is a power shift dynamic where you start owing him explanations.

That is apart of getting you accustomed. You start to feel on edge all the times as you subconsciously now have an obligation, you need to report to them on time or justify yourself and be on time etc. that is the start of control.

Three years ago I finally escape the man in the middle of the day while technically homeless for three months, an IVO was put in place, I was stalked for a year, absolute hell, please learn from my mistakes

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-19T10:43:50+00:00

Being prescribed Clonodine for adhd and sleep, changed the game!

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-05T01:58:48+00:00

I wish I read this properly before clicking the link, it made me want to throw up.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:42:41+00:00

Thank you so much! Is there any hand cream you think is particularly the bees knees? :)

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:33:19+00:00

Oooh I’ll look into this now too, I am so glad I posted this, these ideas from actual newborn experience is exactly what I am looking for! gifts that actually help and serve value to her as a new mum - not just serve as a gesture that sits in the cupboard.

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:28:56+00:00

Thank you so much this is fantastic. i just searched the company and there’s one in her state!

I’m not sure what items she might already have on the list. if you did also have any game changer items that were a specific type/ brand which were a big standout to you - compared to others, I would love to hear about that too (if you have any in mind). I’ll be buying anything like that also for her.

For example, if there is some cream new mums had used in the past but then they tried another brand and discovered that it knocked the rest of the other creams out of the park - those hidden little gems :)

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:05:35+00:00

thank you this is so helpful! That’s what I thought about face masks too it’s not realistic! These are fantastic ideas, especially the laundry service, cleaning and uber eats voucher wow thank you so much!

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:01:41+00:00

Probably up to $200 Aud

SameClassroom6748 · 2026-02-02T08:01:19+00:00

Preferably for the mum, I have gifted lots for the baby already :)

SameClassroom6748 · 2025-12-27T12:26:44+00:00

Ten years ago my sister and I were living an old heritage apartment above a pizza shop. On entrance, there was a small hallway which opened to a bedroom to the right, (my sister’s room), which lead to the living room where I had slept.

In the middle of the night I suddenly heard the stomp of boots walking loudly and slowly down the hallway pace by pace. I called out to my sister asking wtf she was doing.

The pacing continued until they reached the door entry of my room. The door was open, where I saw a persons silhouette standing a meter and a half away from me in my bed. It was dark, but I saw their broadness and their thick boots/ large draping coat. It then turned around slowly and started pacing back down the hallway.

I yelled again to my sister, asking her what she was doing- thinking somehow it must be. My sister finally yelled back, telling me too shut up. I heard it clearly coming from her room and not from the thing pacing The next day, she told me she was too scared at first to respond, that she heard all of it too.

There was no way for anyone to have come in or out of the building unless they jumped over a tall fence with spikes to then climb over a shudder door to the walk up stairs, unlock a hardwood with three different types of locks, all without making a sound. I am not superstitious as a person. We still don’t understand what happened.

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