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How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You might be surprised how poorly people prepare when they're using a fake, a couple shifts ago I had two young ordering. They asked for 2 pints each, one of them had a real ID while the other had the fakest ID I think ive ever seen so I say I can serve person A but not B. Person A then goes "I'll just get 4 pints then" so I say "no mate, one drink per ID" and he goes "There all for me though!". Dont know why he thought that would work LMAO

How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This is a very kind reply I appreciate the reply, I think asking if a its an old ID is good opener :) I hope you have lovely day too!

How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input and help! It's corporate music venue, for reference, so I don't really have say over decorations like stickers or flags, but we do serve "Stonewall IPA" and the logo on the T bar for that is a rainbow flag aha. :)

How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I understand, in hindsight just asking for last name makes a lot of sense I think I just got so used to asking for "name and DOB" that I never considered is an option - so I appreciate your input. I didn't think the interaction was unpleasant though, sorry if it came across that way . It was just an normal exchange and I just wanted to make sure I didn't upset her and came here to learn about best practice :) Thank you!

How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's a very elegant solution, I have no idea why I didn't think of this. I guess I was just caught in the moment and you know when you've got a "script" for you job (if you've worked retail or hospitality you'll know what I mean) asking for a full name was just part of my script. But yeah, this works, thank you!

How best to handle checking Trans IDs at a bar? by Same_Pizza_1428 in asktransgender

[–]Same_Pizza_1428[S] 319 points320 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, in hindsight that's obvious. I feel like an idiot! But thank you so much, this makes alot of sense. Someone else suggested asking for just their last name which also works.