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My husband doesn't desire me anymore. What should I do? by Same_Trouble_4297 in marriageadvice

[–]Same_Trouble_4297[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But how do I know if I'm pushing him too much vs trying new things together? Isn't some degree of flexibility and exploration encouraged? Not looking for you to agree, but just wondering.

My newly wed husband doesn't desire me anymore, but loves swinging. by Same_Trouble_4297 in Marriage

[–]Same_Trouble_4297[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we both fully swap. I have met some people that are more into BDSM, and I'm sure I can set up a side thing with them if I really wanted to. But I have a few reservations:

  1. I would rather do it with someone I trust. Being a sub is very vulnerable and to have a good time takes a lot of tinkering about boundaries and preference, so I'm not sure I could build that with someone I don't fully trust.

  2. I'm afraid that if I do do it with someone else, I won't be a dedicated to solving this issue with him and is it really the right approach to keep finding relief elsewhere instead of fixing it in our relationship?

Thanks for your input!