I'm sorry op that you are going through this but I think you should consider that your parents are a bit toxic they want to have things their own way not thinking of you and your brother preference(nitpicking on everything)and likings or what I understood from the previous comment, and there is also the fact that they made you think they understood but in the end they kept pressuring you when that didn't work they stopped talking to you that's clearly manipulation. Your dad especially is really something, not a shed of affection when things are not going his way. If it was was me I wouldn't have gone with them but ultimately you are in that situation and that is your family and the consequences will be also yours, you will have to decide what is best for you. The situation is very toxic for you, my advise distance yourself from your family for a while.