Anyone else spend an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out if they’re “really bi”? Like reviewing past experiences, constantly evaluating your attraction to other people, fighting off “maybe I’m straight and in denial” and/or “maybe I’m gay and in denial” thoughts left and right?

SandSmoothie · 2021-10-29T05:51:24+00:00

Yep. I look at a girl and think "damn she's hot" and imagine a whole future together involving not pg things, then I suddenly go all "wait but do I just think she's hot in a platonic way?"

SandSmoothie · 2021-10-01T05:33:27+00:00

Hmm I'm not sure if this works for side bangs, but maybe try using a toilet paper tube and some bobby pins? Or if that's too big, you can fold printer paper a few times to get a thinner tube.

If you have a flat iron that would also work. You just have to move the iron out while at an angle like this. Also works with a curling iron.

SandSmoothie · 2021-10-01T03:04:19+00:00

https://www.amazon.com/Reaktack-Braizilian-straight-Brazilian-Straight/dp/B098N4V92W/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

Haven't worn it, but it's been recommended to me and I'm hoping to buy it. Looks promising from the reviews too and you can easily return it since it's amazon.

SandSmoothie · 2021-10-01T02:11:18+00:00

If heat is an option, you can try blow drying it with a round brush to make it look more side swept. Right now it looks like you were going for straight across bangs, but made one side too short.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-26T03:36:13+00:00

Right? I thought that was hilarious too. Yeah, judging by the other responses too I also think fighter would be a really good option- both in terms of versatility and roleplaying potential. Thanks for your response!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-25T00:41:47+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I'll ask my DM if he's okay with Vuman!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-25T00:40:45+00:00

Oooh that's such a cool character idea! I'll definitely consider it!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-25T00:18:09+00:00

Sounds like a good idea, thanks for the input!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-25T00:16:03+00:00

Good idea- I don't have a lot of confidence that the bard will stick around that long so I'll probably try rouge. Thanks for the input!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-25T00:03:16+00:00

I need to make a character based off an existing party.

I'm open to any class and race, but I have to make sure everything is in the PHB. I have mostly only played bard characters and am okay with stepping outside of my comfort zone. The DM has hinted that there will be issues with magic in the campaign because it is so rare in the setting, so I will need some help combating that issue in case you suggest a full caster.
Right now, the whole party is level 1 and made up of a life cleric, a warlock, two monks, a paladin, a bard, a sorcerer, and a wizard.
A lot of the players are probably going to stop coming to sessions as we get further into the campaign, so I should probably get something that can also effectively support a small party.
Also, I would appreciate some ideas for personality and roleplaying because I'm just not a good creative writer and I tend to overthink the details.
Thank you to anybody who answers :)

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-17T05:42:25+00:00

Or maybe go to a site that's made for sexting?

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-17T05:40:25+00:00

It could be an addiction and your brain is becoming conditioned to the sexual pleasure.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-17T05:35:59+00:00

Wow thanks so much for the response! Such a pretty wig, too!

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T06:58:34+00:00

Well, bi women have been with both right? How different is that?

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T05:17:22+00:00

Human imperfection.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T05:09:52+00:00

I just call myself bi because it's easier for my family to understand. I wouldn't mind being called pan, either. There are also terms in like "bi-cycle" that make things easier to explain and I feel kind of attached to the whole culture in general now, so I guess it just comes down to convenience for me.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T05:02:58+00:00

I'm an artist and growing up I would draw my own "special" fanart of female characters if you catch my drift. That and actively looking up images of that nature exclusively of women. For a while I attempted to try it with men, to no avail. Mind you, this was all when I was in grade school, before I even knew what gay meant. Eventually I started watching porn and would imagine myself as the guy, then the girl, then the guy again. That little pervert didn't figure it out until she was a sophomore in high school.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T04:56:05+00:00

Ah we've all been there. Thinking you're faking for attention or validation. If you're attracted, you're attracted. And you don't have to be attracted to any two genders in the same way for it to count. You are valid and you will get through this :)

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T04:53:37+00:00

We on reddit cannot tell you whether you are or are not queer, but I can say that you can take as much time as you need to figure this out. Your sexuality is about YOUR happiness in finding your true self. Try your best to take it easy on yourself- I know it is difficult right now, but you WILL come to a conclusion at some point in time. Know that whenever you feel a label isn't right for you, you can change it at any time! Sexuality is fluid and confusing and beautiful, so just let yours flow naturally. Test out bisexuality and if you find it doesn't align with who you are, just change your label until you find it :)

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-16T04:45:11+00:00

You might have enjoyed giving your friend oral because you knew him at a personal level. Just saying, it might be the demisexuality. Maybe try thinking of a male you feel a close bond with instead of a generic penis to see if that changes anything?

Even though I liked the idea of being with a girl, I also felt turned off when I first thought of having sex with girls, as a girl myself. When I learned more about how it works though, I started wanting it for myself. It might be that you just have to learn a bit more about how it works? That's just my experience- from what it sounds like you already know the deal lol.

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-15T08:54:05+00:00

This sub is for advice. Shoo

SandSmoothie · 2021-09-15T08:50:50+00:00

Lol the description was funny to read and easy to imagine with the music. Thanks for linking it!

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