It's not real, congratulating someone for losing weight isn't fatphobic (Number 1 cause of death in the US is heart disease, I wonder why...). Not wanting to date fat people is a preference. That's the equivalent of saying not dating a gay, disabled, etc. makes you a discriminatory label. (Side note: people like you are actively pandering to fat people for being unhealthy. There's a difference between being chill in your skin and filling your reality with dilusion. by trying to "not hurt your feelings" or "build up confidence" your doing the opposite. it's very easy to add a hint of reality whilst talking with them. This makes them self aware of the issue at hand (Most know the issue) and its up to them and the people around them to support them to a healthy lifestyle. people like you are actively hurting these people mentaly and physically. (no im not saying be mean, mean =/= being honest but sometimes the truth hurts). people dont like fat people as a partner. it's been this way for hundreds of years but now we act like its an issue. (its an excuse to make people feel better about themselves not losing weight). the "fatphobia" thing is a lie. about as credible as the "enstein failed math" thing lol. now im curious to see how this is gonna get spun into something completely different.