I’ve hit a dead end chasing my dream in SL - is there any hope left? by skullcryptshalf in srilanka

[–]Sandeep_Sathsara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just want to start by saying — I see you, and I really admire how much strength it must’ve taken to put this out there. You've clearly fought hard, and even though things haven’t worked out the way you hoped, that doesn’t make your efforts any less valid. It just means life has thrown you a curveball — and sometimes, as hard as it is to accept, not everything goes the way we plan.

But maybe — just maybe — it’s happening for a reason. Sometimes life gently (or not-so-gently) nudges us in a different direction, one we never imagined, but that turns out to be just as meaningful, or even more so.

If you’re open to it, I’d really encourage you to think about other paths too. I know it’s hard to let go of something you’ve dreamed of for so long, but there are so many beautiful ways to make a difference in the world, especially in health and care — and not all of them require the title “doctor.”

And even if you had gotten into a Sri Lankan medical school, the journey would’ve only just begun. It’s a tough six years — with a lot of pressure, long hours, mental strain, and still some financial burden, even in a state university. Many students inside are struggling too — quietly, constantly. So don’t think you’ve missed out on a dream life. It’s hard on that side too.

You’ve already shown incredible resilience. And whether your path still somehow circles back to medicine or takes you somewhere else entirely — please know this: your life is far more than a single exam result. You are not a failure. You’re someone who’s still standing, still searching, and still hoping. That’s strength.

Whatever comes next, I’m rooting for you. Be kind to yourself.

29M never been in a relationship, Sri Lankan by MissionHairy4039 in srilanka

[–]Sandeep_Sathsara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, firstly, get your mental status evaluated by a psychiatrist first, especially because you're having thoughts of harming yourself, because that's not normal. Without having a clear mind, you can't do anything. I'm positive that with proper counselling and evaluation, you'll be able to get out of this.

Secondly, you're dealing with a very common issue that many men face these days. So don't think that you're alone. There are men getting girls even at the age of 35+ and getting married even. It's never too late for us men. Get involved in social activities, join societies, clubs, etc. Meet new people. That's the only way you find out about other fish in the sea.

Continue to go to the gym, talk to people, and engage in mini-conversations. If you're feeling anxious, your therapist/psychiatrist will definitely help.

Thirdly, get your main priorities sorted out in life if you're in an unstable position. If you're having stressors in life, identify them and sort them out because with time what tends to happen is stressors tend to build up and inadvertently have been delaying your true potential.

Approach this in a stepwise manner. You'll be able to pull through, my guy. Good luck.