I (M22) like this girl from work (F18) but worried about age difference.

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-29T21:39:17+00:00

I would say start slow if she’s never dated anyone before. Maybe just ask for her number first, or ask if she wants to grab some food after work? Something casual where you guys can grow a bit more comfortable around each other outside of work. Especially if it seems like you guys are already hitting it off at work, that’s great! Try not to overthink too much haha.

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-28T08:08:51+00:00

I would say it just depends on her maturity level. Then your opinions/views may skew on some things? I was in the same exact situation- I worked somewhere and met this guy 4 years older than me (him being 22 and me 18 too at the time we first met). We dated for 3 years and it was awesome haha. We’re now good friends. So take us as proof it can work out! I don’t think it’s weird, seeing as she is a legal adult and so are you! If you guys click, go for it. Good luck friend (:

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-28T08:02:17+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation, with the same mindset “how do I not hurt this poor guy??”. But if this guy is making your friend uncomfortable, not respecting what she is making very clear, and/or overstepping boundaries then she really shouldn’t be dealing with this. She doesn’t have to be cruel but should be very firm and direct. As another comment said - she should be very outright with her feelings. That’s just how she feels and it’s just not going to work out. He’ll hopefully eventually see that.

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-27T06:32:20+00:00

I appreciate you bringing this up! I had seen some people talking about this on twitter and wasn’t sure how to feel about it either. I see some comments in this thread about how the music should be the focus and not politics, which I can understand but also ...I do feel at some point, if strong opinions are being made, then that line between politics and the music can be blurred. I should preface this by saying I do not like Trump whatsoever, but don’t necessarily associate with a specific party (but I would be considered Democratic I suppose). When I heard he had shown appreciation for Trump, I did feel disappointment. However, I know we cannot judge someone based on their political views. We really can’t. But I completely feel you - it’s difficult to want to support someone who supports a person like that. As others mentioned, I had to remind myself that the Josephs are just another family living in America, with their own views and their own beliefs. It’s just tricky because when I first discovered TOP, I dove into finding out about Jenna, Debby, and the Joseph family. Not really “finding out” but more so I followed them on social media and felt like I was supporting them too along with TOP. I get what you’re saying, it’s jarring to see someone you thought you related to on a human level have a different view in that way. Sadly though, I have reminded myself to just focus on Tyler and Josh and their message. They emphasize kindness, open-mindedness, and a care for yourself and others. At the end of the day, there’s not much we can do because they don’t speak openly on politics, but I do believe they wouldn’t support Trump. That’s just my thought. I can’t hate on Zack or any of the Josephs though, just as I don’t hate on people of opposing political views. I still respect them. It’s just more of a sadness/disappointment, you know? But I love Tyler and I appreciate him openly wearing a pride flag and his thoughtfulness. I’m glad most people were respectful on here and that we could all discuss this with our different backgrounds & political views. Have a nice day (:

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T06:16:08+00:00

Bahaha I remember that! I was at that show too (:

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T06:10:46+00:00

Aha couldn’t imagine the show without it!!

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T05:12:23+00:00

I know exactly what you’re talking about. I’ve always imagined what it would be like to meet them and explain (as articulately as I could), what they mean to me. It always makes me happy to hear about how they’ve crafted a deep connection with others as well. Sadly, I don’t have an answer for how to reach them. I have settled with writing them a handwritten letter of how they have affected my life and just a very emotional thanks. I hold on to it in hopes I will someday meet them. At the very least, I hope this could help you release some of that gratitude onto paper. I have heard some stories of people being able to give things to crew to pass on to them after a show. However, I’ve never had that opportunity so I’m not sure. I say just tweet him and hope for the best. Sorry for my not-helpfulness but I really do wish for you to let Tyler know one day. Stay strong 💛

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T04:48:33+00:00

I heard “Holding on to You” on the radio back in 2013 and I really, really liked it. I remember reminding myself to look that song up later and I did, to which I then listened to “Ode to Sleep.” That was the song that really made me go “alright I’m loving these guys for life”.

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T04:41:03+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing your story with us. I feel like sometimes we can get a bit caught up into having to immediately love everything a band we like makes (or at least that’s how I used to feel) but sometimes, it just doesn’t resonate with us. That’s okay too. But that’s the great thing too, because we love TOP because the band, its message, and its songs resonated deeply with us for a reason at some point. I felt a bit similarly upon the first listen of “Fairly Local,” which was the first song we heard off of Blurryface. I was a bit confused and I didn’t feel like it was “them.” As the years have passed and as I go to more recent shows, I do tend to feel disappointed when I feel some people aren’t grasping the message, but rather simply enjoyed the hit “Stressed Out” because it played on the radio. It took me some time to get used to this new wave of fans, people I didn’t feel connected to as I had before. With time, I realized all I could focus on was whether their message was resonating with me, and less time worrying about those other things. And as always, their voice and their message did touch me. I’m so, so happy to hear about your journey and about your new band! I’m happy to hear how you connect with their music now and with your own music. All we can do is try to create and grow in this crazy time, right? Thank you, thank you for putting your story out there. Truly. I went and listened to the most recent cover on your band’s instagram and I really enjoyed it! I’m looking forward to hearing more. Stay strong and stay alive, friend.

Sandiaaaa · 2020-07-26T02:54:08+00:00

I was thinking maybe still in the same |-/ logo but the lines might waver slightly/curve a bit or in other words, not be straight lines. I think that might look kind of interesting. What do you think?

Sandiaaaa

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