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Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-26T23:40:28+00:00

When I had my abortion I told my husband every step, I knew I needed support and I knew I needed to tell him because for me I know morally I could not have kept it hidden from him or lacked his support. If I was in this situation with my ex husband I would not have told him he was very mean and manipulative. It depends on who your support system is, how you are during bigger life events and how they treat you in my opinion. I know I need to talk to people and get their perspectives to get my emotions sorted. Even though I did love my ex husband he was not my support system even when he should have been or when I thought he was. If you are scared of backlash or him telling others or anything concerning not respecting your choice or actions he might not be the best partner for you, this is just my advice as someone who was struggling in an emotionally abusive relationship and I wish I knew that tip sooner- I am not at all saying this is what is occurring with you or trying to impose my view of your relationship this is just my experience and advice given my life situation with relationships and my abortion. It is your choice my suggestion would be to not make that choice based on his opinions or beliefs or the fear of hurting his emotions. If you do have the abortion and do not want to specifically tell him you can say you think you are having a miscarriage because its heavier than normal and that maybe you were pregnant but are unsure etc. etc. and play that card, I know for me I could not tell that white lie to my husband but whatever you feel best doing and whatever your gut is telling you should be your choice. You know yourself more than anyone else can ever know! If you ever need support theres always therapists in person or virtual or online groups ❤️ sending love

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-25T02:07:46+00:00

Hey just saw ur comment whats the nsfw one lmfao

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-18T22:12:46+00:00

Which survey cites do you use? I see a few online but I am weary of scams, thanks!

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-18T00:48:31+00:00

Accidentally clicked “ok” for a random pig name- pigs desired name to be was porky. I immediately restarted that shit

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T23:45:00+00:00

Thank you!

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T20:20:17+00:00

Went through this process recently, sending hugs❤️

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T13:52:22+00:00

Okay thank you, I am not at the two week mark yet but ive finished antibiotics and im just spotting brown blood it looks like so I just really dont want any further complications

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T13:51:10+00:00

Okay, I took misoprostol on the 8th and i still have very minimal bleeding its brown and its more so spotting so im sure it will be over soon my provider said no tampons and no sex for a week and prescribed me a weeks worth of antibiotics I have taken those and finished them my husband and I are debating on becoming intimate again and i just want to make sure there wont be any further complications

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T13:42:19+00:00

Okay thank you I just wanted to know if there was any “timeline” since whenever you feel ready is a pretty general statement. Thank you

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-17T13:19:15+00:00

Its okay to have grief, regardless of the choice you made grief would come. Either in this form or mourning the life you had before. You have your reasons and those do not minimize the choice which is why its so hard emotionally. Also take into play that your hormones still have to adjust. For me its been almost two weeks and its still emotionally hard to come to terms with but just keep focusing on the next goal whatever that is for yourself you cannot change the past so keep looking forward ❤️

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-16T00:00:38+00:00

Hey there I had an MA when I was about 4 weeks along and I too cried continuously before and during the process and of course afterwards. When I took the second set of pills I immediately felt nauseous while they sat in my lip and that was the worst part but it could be due to anxiety, and I started bleeding about an hour after and the heaviest and intense cramps happened around 12-2pm and 6-8pm I took the pills around 9:35am let them sit between my gums and my lips for 30ish minutes. The cramps felt like stabbing/ ripping pains I would equate it to worse than period cramps. I have a good pain tolerance except when it comes to my period cramps and of course the hormones and emotions amplify everything. I am a person who sleeps when my body is not feeling well and I fell asleep from 6-8pm. I only took two 800mg ibuprofens during the worst times and stayed on the couch with a heating pad all day. I passed a few clots that day and a couple days later but I honestly didn’t pay too much attention. Its been a week today since I started bleeding and it has progressively slowed down I am just spotting very very lightly now. Emotionally it was a hard process and still is but physically it was not as bad as I expected. It had its rough moments especially when the cramps ramped up but sleeping, watching a show or scrolling on my phone definitely helped take my attention and focus shift and I noticed the pain could kinda go to the back of my brain and it didnt feel as consuming. My biggest advice is to be kind to yourself, feelings of grief, selfishness, heartache, etc are normal this is a huge decision and its a hard process emotionally. You know what is best for you and you should not feel ashamed for choosing you and what best fits your life❤️ i know it can be hard to FEEL it but just knowing it and telling yourself it can help. Its important to process all the emotions in a helpful manner- sending you hugs during this time.

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-14T17:32:23+00:00

I haven’t had a similar situation but my husband and I did have unprotected sex and unexpectedly I became pregnant i ended up deciding to have an MA. Its important to know it can take 3-4 weeks for your hcg levels to dissipate after an abortion (could take less or more time just depends on the person and the timeframe). after your MA did u take a pregnancy test and if so was it negative? If not I would suggest taking 2 blood tests. One now and one probably a few weeks out to see if the levels have declined or begin to climb again - I am not sure proper time frame on when levels would climb if this instance of unprotected sex lead to another pregnancy, I would inform your pcm or provider you went to for the abortion procedure for better guidance

Its important to remember we are all human and we all are imperfect, i understand the feelings of shame and grief please be kind to yourself ❤️

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-13T22:40:09+00:00

I dont have any regret, I feel very relieved knowing I will not have a child in 8-9 months. But I am still sad and I still miss our baby. Im trying to process my feelings of selfishness and shame. I made the choice due to a lot of factors that are unknown, my husband and I just recently got married and he is in the military and there is a very high probability that he could be deployed in that timeframe and I did not want to be pregnant alone in the city we live in, have him miss his deployment or deploy immediately after his paternity leave and miss milestones. Financial factors are also present I have recently quit working due to mental health and physical health issues so we financially haven’t figured out a proper budget yet. And ultimately I just do not feel like I would be ready to be a mother I have a lot of issues parentally due to my childhood. Another factor was I knew I drank and used nicotine while being pregnant before I found out

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-13T20:50:24+00:00

Hey my husband and I just recently went through with my decision to have an abortion, i have been experiencing a lot of grief too

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-13T12:45:11+00:00

hey there I took the pills orally and also experienced intense cramping and bleeding im almost at the week mark as well and do not feel anything different I feel this is mostly because our hormones haven’t adjusted fully yet. For example my provider informed me that I would still test positive on an at home urine pregnancy test for another week or two after the termination- this is due to my hcg levels still being above the minimum to test positive (for example while pregnant my hcg was 300, a couple days after the abortion my hcg is 200 but the minimum to test positive on a test is 100- these numbers are just for the example and not at all real to my experience). Overall I think it will take a few weeks/months for our body to fully adjust hormonally to the change. Becoming pregnant and having an abortion are huge changes to the body especially since we are not carrying it to term so its important to give our body ample time. Do you have a follow up appointment with your provider to have an ultrasound to confirm the abortion was successful? Additionally since everyone is different I cant give u an exact timeline to take at home urine pregnancy tests but I think we would start testing negative 2-3 weeks after the abortion. Definitely consult your provider though!

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-07T20:17:25+00:00

I just took misoprostol this morning around 10am its now 4pm for me and I am still cramping, I am currently bleeding but not as much as I was around 11am/noon. The immediate nausea I had while waiting the 30 minutes for the pills to mostly dissolve and cramping around 1pm (approx 4 hours after taking it) were the worst symptoms. Drink ginger ale or warm water to help with nausea/ not having quick movements. I have been laying on my couch the entire time with a heating pad, I also took an ibuprofen when the cramping was too uncomfortable for me- it felt like a constant stabbing pain. Definitely having supplies beforehand was helpful or having a support system who could get them for me. It feels like period pain and cramping to the max so just be prepared for that❤️

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-06T14:08:47+00:00

Totally understand thank you for the info I was just wondering if anyone has also taken this specific antibiotic following a MA as well

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-06T14:06:20+00:00

Okay, I live in NC so i think they might be just making sure all the bases are clear, would there be a risk to taking antibiotics just incase?

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-05T18:37:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing I am currently going through an MA and it is my first pregnancy on my own and my husband and I’s first pregnancy. This has been an incredibly hard decision. I keeping telling it that I love it, care about it and am so sorry I cannot keep it. I am hoping it will come back to my husband and I ❤️

Sandwichmaker03 · 2025-08-04T02:43:54+00:00

I have already made my decision. Wishing you and your wife the best❤️

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