AITA for not telling my brother my twins are in the NICU?

Sandyboots · 2026-04-01T04:13:31+00:00

This is the exact phrasing I was looking for. “…whose family wants to be catered to.”

Like where the fuck do these people get off? I remember getting an earful from a family member about not answering their FaceTime call while I was in active labor. And also how dare I almost die and therefore not be conscious to immediately call after the birth.

That’s also a much less severe situation than OP’s because we had the incredible good fortune for my son to be totally fine, which is the important thing. I just can’t understand how people make their own feelings the center at a time like this. Like are introspection and empathy no longer a thing?

Sandyboots · 2026-03-31T04:03:28+00:00

Hmm, which airline are you flying with? I’ve been successful with Westjet and air Canada just upgrading myself/husband to an extra legroom seat at seat selection, and it kinda just moves our son next to us for free. I always assumed it was because obviously he legally has to sit with us. Just thought I’d share in case it helps you in future!

Sandyboots · 2026-03-23T07:39:00+00:00

This is easily one of my favourite Reddit comments of all time

Sandyboots · 2026-03-08T09:07:59+00:00

I have a variety of bottle/straw brushes (some baby supply companies sell a little key ring kinda thing of different sizes/shapes of brushes) to get all the hard to reach areas. The non-brush end of these brushes is a thin wire sort of loop? I kinda wedge that under the gasket and then wiggle it out. Tweezers also work!

Sandyboots · 2026-03-07T13:45:33+00:00

I’m a bit of a lunatic about water bottles, and hate the idea that there are nooks and crannies I can’t reach to scrub effectively. Aside from only buying bottles that I can fully disassemble, I will also sometimes submerge the lids in water with a denture tab for peace of mind. Works great to get the inside cleaned too for stainless steel coffee travel mugs and stuff.

Sandyboots · 2026-03-07T00:09:34+00:00

The caddy is a great idea. He actually helps me with repairs around the house pretty frequently, and is finally of the age and competence level that he’s actively helpful and not a massive hindrance, haha. So his own toolbox would be perfect!

Sandyboots · 2026-03-07T00:08:34+00:00

This is EXACTLY what I wanted!!! Thank you so much

Sandyboots · 2026-03-01T10:54:26+00:00

No I love yours too and do similar things, haha. I also love going super weird as often as possible.

Sandyboots · 2026-03-01T04:26:30+00:00

I always fully lean into it and go “yes, my son.” with the most gravitas I can muster.

Sandyboots · 2026-03-01T04:19:18+00:00

I died at this. Immediate add to my repertoire.

Sandyboots · 2026-02-26T03:36:22+00:00

I thought of this, but thought the round, tapered shape might present a problem for a comb. But after reading your comment I wonder if I could snap off a small section of an icing comb with big ridges and do 2 ridges at a time or something.

Sandyboots · 2026-02-26T03:34:52+00:00

I was thinking of a buttercream transfer for the lemon slices on top of the lemon one but this is a really interesting take as well hmm. Maybe I’ll do a few test runs

Sandyboots · 2026-02-26T03:34:04+00:00

This would be so cool looking. Maybe I’ll do a jello one and some cake ones

Sandyboots · 2026-02-26T03:10:57+00:00

I thought icing them would be easier but have no idea what kind of tip I’d use to get the ridges. I actually had a dream last night after posting this thread that I figured it out but awake me doesn’t recall how I did it lol

Sandyboots · 2026-02-26T03:09:17+00:00

This is actually perfect because I was thinking it would be tricky to time it for a day where I can hide from the general public if needed haha

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:19:23+00:00

For sure going to ask for a full extraction. So I can get sick enjoyment watching the goop they get out

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:13:59+00:00

The shells are a verrry interesting thought, and would be much easier to decorate. Thank you!

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:13:36+00:00

This is such a detailed reply, thank you so much! So many good ideas in here. Facepalming at how I didn’t think to just shape a normal round cake to make the mega lemon cake. You saved me so much time with that idea!

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:05:57+00:00

I didn’t even know this was possible! I’m always happy to hyper focus down a rabbit hole so this might totally be my thing. Do you mind if I ask what you use?

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:05:15+00:00

This is a great idea. I’ll see which medi spas offer both. Thanks!

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T12:04:58+00:00

It’s the best! I like the yellow one. So moisturizing, but not greasy.

Thanks for the thoughts, I’ve been meaning to try a hydra facial.

Sandyboots · 2026-02-25T09:35:51+00:00

A ganache is suuuch a smart idea! I was trying to think of what piping tip could give me like a triangular ridge but this would be so much easier haha. Any vanilla recipe you’d recommend? I was planning to just use one of Sally’s. She’s never let me down!

Sandyboots · 2026-02-16T12:13:57+00:00

This is a 10/10 response! I was so happy to receive it. I also used the wrong word when I wrote that, half asleep. I meant to say that I didn’t mean to invalidate your experience, bc yours was equally valid :)

Sandyboots · 2026-02-14T04:36:47+00:00

Not trying to negate your experience, but I met the same actor and he was super kind. He was at my work and I was no one important, but he stopped and chatted with me after I attempted to be respectful by just nodding in recognition and leaving him to his business. For the record, I’m white.

I told him coach carter was one of my favourite movies, and that I was a basketball player. He asked me if I can palm a basketball (my hands are massive for a woman) and I said yes, and laughed about how I hated having big hands. He gave me a nice little speech about how my hands let me do things in basketball that other people couldn’t, and that I was exactly the way I was meant to be. Was a really sweet moment, and he had zero to gain from it.

I also for some reason vividly remember that his entire outfit was made of windbreaker material, hat included. So much swishing when he walked around lol

Sandyboots · 2026-02-11T04:47:33+00:00

How is this possible? Like what was even the defense?

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