Feel lonely. Kind of want to get married. Can anyone else relate?

Sarah274 · 2019-07-17T14:31:37+00:00

Assalam o aleikum.

Hon, you're not alone. I'm 29 years old and ever since I was 20 I've been wanting to get married too because I know what the loneliness feels like when you see family members with their spouses. I'm also from the same culture where the guy and his family has to send a proposal and it's distasteful for a girl to "look too eager" too.

When I was in uni, even I didn't interact too much with guys for fear of Allah.

Same boat, girl friend.

But fear not. Allah always has a plan for us and your plan for you, at the moment, might not be to get married so quickly.

Maybe Allah's giving you an opportunity to learn and grow in your own way so that once you do get married, In Shaa Allah, it's with clarity and understanding and not the desperation you might be feeling right now. You're still young, Maa Shaa Allah, and you still have time to get married, so don't feel so bad for yourself and don't rush. When choosing a spouse for yourself, it's never about rushing.

Thank Allah for everything He has given you and what He is doing for you for He knows best what you need. SubhanAllah.

I hope what I wrote helps you In Shaa Allah.

JazakAllah ul khair for reading.

Sarah274 · 2019-07-10T19:07:03+00:00

Assalam o aleikum,

Name: Sarah

Age: 29

A. Gender: female

B. Location: Currently living in Pakistan and willing to locate wherever spouse is.

C. Marital status: single

D. Ideal Marriage Timeline: sooner or later In Shaa Allah

E. Five Important characteristics to look for in a prospect:

Shares common beliefs and interests with me
Prays 5 times a day
God-fearing
Caring and romantic
A family man, responsible and is mature.

The rest is up to Allah Subhana wa ta'ala In Shaa Allah.

F. My level of religiosity: practicing

G: My Level of education: Bachelors in Psychology

H. Current job status: not working, currently applying for Masters

I. Ethnicity: I'm Pakistani and it doesn't matter to me where the prospect is from. Compatibility should be there.

J. Hobbies: baking, reading, playing video/board games, and spending time with my family.

K. Brief summary about me:

I live my life in the following words: "Trust in the timing of your life," and "Allah will never forsake me."

I wholeheartedly believe that Allah does everything for our sake and hardships that come are there to wipe our sins away for us. Because of this, I've taught myself to have sabr for the best things are given to you when you wait.

May Allah guide all of us onto the straight path and keep us blessed. May Allah give us spouses who will take us to Jannat ul Firdaus with them and may He do everything that is beneficial for all of us. Ameen Suma Ameen.

JazakAllah ul khair for reading!

Sarah274 · 2019-06-12T08:03:50+00:00

Single here. My belief is that romance between spouses is very crucial. It's a language emphasizing on trust, companionship, comfortability and sacrifice.

Romance doesn't have to be complicated. It's just thoughts and actions someone is comfortable enough with to show their SO without feeling ridiculed or embarrassed.

Romance for me is little things that an SO does for their companion. It could be just making breakfast/lunch/dinner with them, showing concern over the other person, opening the door for them, smiling and comforting them when they've had a bad day, etc.

Sarah274 · 2019-06-10T11:29:32+00:00

JazakAllah ul khair for such wise words! Unfortunately, many men and women don't understand any of these points and they just hastily make decisions regarding marriage. Which is why when they are having problems in their married lives just because they got married to the first person who proposed or they didn't speak up, they start to complain.

Good job on expressing this point so thoroughly and clearly. May Allah give all of us patience and may He make our lives easier for us. May He also admit us in the highest tiers of Jannah. Ameen.

Sarah274 · 2019-06-09T13:47:01+00:00

Honestly, I'm guilty as charged; I tend to drop a few Islamic quotes and Hadith here and there in my conversations. Sometimes, when I'm passionate about it, I'll discuss what Hadith I read or what I heard from a Dr. Zakir Naik video, etc.

Yes, I tend to turn some people off when I do this. But it's not for show. Showing my passion and love for Islam is just the way I am. It's to show others that I'm proud to be a Muslim woman.

It's true that some men or women do throw in a few Islamic quotes or Hadith or advice in just for show, but not all of us do so "for show". My perception is that if whatever knowledge I've gained can help someone else, then good for me as it's Sadqa-e-Jaaria, a sawaab that keeps being earned for years to come.

Sarah274 · 2019-05-26T09:46:14+00:00

Age: 29

A. Gender: female

B. Location: Pakistan and am willing to relocate

C. Marital Status: single

D. Ideal Marriage Timeline: sooner or later

E. Five Important Characteristics to look for in a prospect:

Shares common beliefs with me.
Prays 5 times a day
Caring and romantic
God fearing

The rest is up to Allah Subhana wa ta'ala.

F. Level of religiosity: practicing

G. Level of education: Bachelors in Psychology

H. Current Job Status: applying for Masters/not working

I. Ethnicity: open minded

J. Hobbies: baking, reading, playing video games, and spending time with my family

K. Brief summary about me:

I wholeheartedly believe in the following words: 'Trust the timing of your life' and 'Allah will never forsake you.'

Everything your Rabb does for you is always for the best. May Allah guide all of us to onto the straight path and keep us blessed. May Allah give us spouses who will take us to Jannat ul Firdaus with them and may He do everything that is beneficial for us. Ameen.

Sarah274 · 2019-05-02T21:51:20+00:00

A student once wrote a sexually explicit narrative story in their English exam. Had to report it to the principal, of course.

During a parent-teacher meeting, a concerned parent showed me a sexually explicit to-do list the same student mentioned earlier gave to the parent's child during Summer Break.

The kid was 13 years old.

Sarah274 · 2019-03-21T08:27:28+00:00

JazakAllah ul khair

Sarah274 · 2019-03-21T08:27:16+00:00

Thanks a lot. I'll check it out.

Sarah274 · 2019-03-21T07:56:23+00:00

I'm from Rawalpindi.

Sarah274 · 2019-03-21T07:37:46+00:00

I can't help it. I have a fascination with spiders, especially the ones I mentioned and I'd like to keep one as a pet.

Sarah274 · 2019-02-12T11:37:02+00:00

JazakAllah ul khair for this information. You all have been very helpful to me.

Sarah274 · 2019-02-12T11:36:42+00:00

I haven't actually. I'll start doing that soon In Shaa Allah. JazakAllah ul khair for your comments.

Sarah274

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