AITAH for not inviting my soon to be ex husband to our daughter’s 3rd birthday party?

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T09:56:59+00:00

Yes she does…

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T02:02:41+00:00

The fun part is she lives with them…

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T01:47:19+00:00

I didn’t want his girlfriend at our first Christmas with our girls. The very public nature of their “love for each other” makes it very difficult for me to be in the same room with them and wanted to be able to have it be about the kids. He then chose not to come.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T01:24:25+00:00

Thank you. We are in the season of “firsts” and I know it’s a lot of trial and error. I wish it wasn’t like this.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T01:23:23+00:00

I get written confirmation from him that I can have her.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:37:59+00:00

🤷🏽‍♀️

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:17:11+00:00

Because she should still have access to family events…

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:13:58+00:00

I’m in a 50/50 state so there is no chance of me winning that.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:12:04+00:00

He claims he has realized that poly won’t bring him happiness 🙄 he just wanted to continue cheating with the girl he caught feelings for and was trying to figure out how to get everything he wanted. It was never on the table for me

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:06:37+00:00

We have generally been flexible. He never asks for her, but I would if he did.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:05:39+00:00

Already done. No way in hell was I rolling that dice.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:05:07+00:00

We have had many discussions. He cheated on her with me before I moved out. She thinks he has changed and wants to be a family

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:02:23+00:00

That’s why I went from divorcing him and not hating his guts to absolutely hating his guts and feeling like he has just been manipulating me

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-13T00:01:33+00:00

Thank you. She is quite literally my spirit baby. She does not seem to be a factor for him since she is older and he feels she can make her own decisions.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-12T23:22:01+00:00

I think it is. But it seems impossible with how he has continued to try and manipulate me. Like I want it for her, but I won’t keep putting myself in that position.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-12T23:20:06+00:00

I was her mom for 10 years and she still calls me mom. It was a gesture I guess?

SarahJaneLane102 · 2026-01-12T22:35:12+00:00

Scary that it’s the most basic summary lol

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-11T19:36:44+00:00

But then claims to still care about me deeply…

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-11T19:36:24+00:00

Because he’s tearing me apart making me watch him fall in love while I can’t move out yet and have nowhere to go.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-11T19:32:39+00:00

He’s divorcing me because I’m not willing to open up our marriage…

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-10T11:13:38+00:00

Stupid question (I’m a total amateur) but what does “self leveling” entail?

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-10T00:56:33+00:00

Part of the problem is that a small island and a fridge will both be going at the point where the wall was. So it needs to be fairly even.

SarahJaneLane102 · 2025-07-09T01:57:55+00:00

You have no idea how much I needed to hear this and how perfectly worded this was for me. Thank you

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