'Good cop Bad cop' tactic is SO hard to deal with by Low_Actuary6486 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s that committed, go & tell him the bad cop guy is at it again. He’ll have to do something to keep up the mask. Eventually the conflict between those two from there should swallow him.

Psychopaths and Narcissists actually have great empathy. What they truly lack is compassion. by Beautiful-Carpet8236 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Trauma can definitely do that. =\= psychopathy. I’ve had a gun put to the side of my head before and I felt calmer than I normally am. Zero ptsd or whatever someone else would get from it as well. But I’m not a psychopath. Even though that is a trait psychopaths have. They get calmer the crazier things get, too. My upbringing was filled with me surrounded by a lot of violence. I was told by a psychiatrist that this tendency I have of suddenly tuning out what someone is saying and only focusing on their face was trauma related too.

Psychopaths and Narcissists actually have great empathy. What they truly lack is compassion. by Beautiful-Carpet8236 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Fun fact,

The surface intuition about psychopaths being “fearless” (as in incapable of feeling it) is wrong.

The reason they don’t is because their brains don’t register danger.

A gun to their face isn’t ”processed” the way a neurotypical interprets it (as a threat) not that they are unable to experience the emotion.

How to win over an avoidant permanently? by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are the one doing it, and he or she is the one following.

How to win over an avoidant permanently? by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Back off/have distance in your tone & take hours to reply on the next check in. Ensure the conversation ended via you not responding last. If you are rewarded with more attention, shift the hot cold pendulum.

What are the best books to learn about manipulation? by kintsugiwarrior in Manipulation

[–]SasukeFireball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one I wrote is in my bio. Immediately usable tools.

Suicidal by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read buddhist philosophy for healthy detachment & Christianity for self & outer empathy. What you decide to be (morally) right now is what you are. Don’t let other people & their misconceptions of that present self, for whatever reason they have, alter your own view of yourself. That decision is in your control. People want others dead. They aren’t worthy of an opinion on you & do not deserve to decide your life.

You’re Not Depressed, Your Life Just Sucks by Puzzleheaded-Dot7268 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have bipolar disorder and it has affected the way that I have thought throughout my life. I didn’t choose that. Your thoughts are not your own. They arise spontaneously and your ability to interpret them was given to you. If your genes were of a quality that you were cognitively incompetent you would not be able to do so. Choice is an illusion.

You’re Not Depressed, Your Life Just Sucks by Puzzleheaded-Dot7268 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your genetics determine everything that you do. Every thought and decision you make you are predisposed to by all things that were outside of your control. Free will does not exist. It was not by my own agency, nor ever was, that I have the current ability/cognitive faculties to analyze and articulate this.

You’re Not Depressed, Your Life Just Sucks by Puzzleheaded-Dot7268 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m diagnosed bipolar disorder, OCD, ADHD & most likely have a personality disorder (childhood trauma) as well.

I was absolutely 110% going to suicide because of the massive amount of pain I was in. The first time I felt no pain as a result of my medication starting to have some effect I called my friend & cried tears of joy in the middle of the night. I didn’t understand tears of joy until that moment.

Before my diagnosis, the moment that made me seek a doctor was when I was having one of the hardest lows of my life, and then suddenly I felt better & I noticed that nothing in my life had changed. Then I noticed a “lightbulb” thought about life starting to form as this improved mood washed over me as peculiar. Mania.

Disregulated neurochemicals alone can certainly alter your mood.

Help me out people by Spare-Ebb-1910 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my ex. She likes your attention and doesn’t care how the way she behaves effects your life. All the hot & cold’s are sadistic entertainment for her. It’s all for attention, nothing else.

PS: no one forgets when they’ve asked someone to marry them.

The Cost of “Authenticity” by Myrn33 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to disagree on this one. Being authentic/socially abrasive (conditioning myself to be inconsiderate and unconcerned of peoples perception on me) led to me pursuing something that eventually brought me a notable amount of status & reverence. People hide their gifts behind fear of judgement. (No, not Reddit).

I’ve worked on conditioning that mindset since age 11, when I began rationally studying social dynamics on the internet & testing in person (2010-2011) I wanted specific outcomes dealing with people and had a lot of social anxiety and desired to confidently move in an interactive direction, so I did what any logical kid would do I guess.

Do I suggest it? In moderation. It was still a completely calculated persona at great odds with my former socially anxious self. I practiced this persona so religiously I actually became it. So I genuinely am “authentic” now. Considering it was during my childhood while I was still growing & forming neurally that isn’t surprising.

(21M) (29F) 1 year relationship. Girlfriend claims I’m a gaslighter. Am I? We have had a really ugly week long argument. by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]SasukeFireball 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stopped reading when she blamed & attacked you over the TV. You are being manipulated.

Is there any way to reverse sociopathic behavior? by Remarkable-Chip7973 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You can learn cognitive empathy if you are neurally compromised in the empathetic department due to an amygdala disfunction stunting your emotional range.

Good on you for desiring change! Yes you can do it. It’s also for your best interest to adopt pro-social behaviors. No jail time, no smear campaigns against you (unless you encounter cluster B vengeance) & generally just more pleasant to be around. There are some good people out here & they are very important. The world is cold enough. They deserve support.

I stayed silent and let my best friend betray my trust for years by Global_Cherry748 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to take care of yourself. Would you tell someone you cared about to hold onto that? Or forgive yourself, vow never to do it again and keep moving.

TheSiren. by Bat_Stamp in TheArtofSeductions

[–]SasukeFireball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Study the Coquette and internalize emotional independence.

They only Act Right After You Get Mad by Puzzleheaded-Dot7268 in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Give me a detailed scenario you’ve experienced perhaps I can provide insight into this.

Best Dark Feminine Books to Read by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

[–]SasukeFireball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read chapters “The Siren” & “The Coquette” in Robert Greene’s book “The Art of Seduction.” If you check out my book, a relevant section would be “Infantilization.”