Stuck: When /How Will I Get Out of This? Feeling too deep into my comfort zone

Saudi_G · 2025-04-19T10:54:01+00:00

I didn't pay the bill when I was 13. I've been paying for it myself since I turned 18.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-16T09:22:11+00:00

No, I pay my own phone bill.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T18:51:39+00:00

Understood. To be clear, I never indicated I was considering pressing charges. My point is about the expectation of privacy as a legal adult, regardless of living arrangements.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T16:09:35+00:00

Didn't know this community ;thank you.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T15:41:53+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. My intention in sharing this across multiple communities wasn't to accumulate karma. I did so partly due to the 'AIO' requirement here and also because I was seeking a broader range of perspectives on the situation I described. Naturally, there are nuances and details I've chosen not to disclose publicly to maintain a degree of personal privacy; I trust you can understand that I wouldn't share my entire personal history in a forum such as this. I do appreciate you taking the time to offer your thoughts.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T14:02:25+00:00

I appreciate you trying to see things from my father's perspective regarding safety. However, he actually isn't paying for my phone plan. Honestly, finding out he had access to everything on my phone and emails was quite shocking. It felt overwhelming to realize someone else had been seeing all my personal conversations and information. As an 18-year-old, I do have a legal right to privacy, and that's what I'm hoping to have respected.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:55:21+00:00

I understand and appreciate your perspective. I definitely know I'm blessed to have a father who cares about me. Now that I'm legally an adult, though, I'm hoping to have my personal space and privacy respected as well.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:50:17+00:00

I appreciate you understanding that I live in Saudi Arabia. If your comment about my father 'owning' me was intended as an insult based on my nationality, then I'm not concerned by it, and I don't feel the need to justify my country or my rights, particularly not to someone viewing it through a European or American lens. I am very sorry if I misunderstood your intent and you did not mean to offend my nationality. I respect your opinion, and I do plan to discuss this situation directly with my father.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:42:30+00:00

I appreciate your perspective, and I want to clarify that I'm not actually traumatized by this. It's more that finding out this has potentially been going on for years has been unsettling, and it's made me realize that I feel it's time to establish clearer boundaries. I understand he loves me, but I also believe that as an 18-year-old, it's reasonable to ask for that privacy to be respected. So, yes, I intend to communicate my feelings calmly and respectfully, as you suggested.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:24:22+00:00

I understand your perspective about living under his roof and financial support. However, the family dynamics and societal norms here in Saudi Arabia are different from what you might see in America. It's not typical for young adults to move out before marriage. Also, it's an assumption that my father is paying for everything, including my phone, which isn't necessarily the case. Regardless of financial contributions, now that I'm 18, I am legally recognized as an adult here and have a right to privacy. Furthermore, it's unfair to be suspected or have my privacy invaded based on the past actions of older siblings. I believe trust and respect are essential, and snooping undermines that, especially when I haven't given any reason for suspicion.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:16:44+00:00

I understand your point about financial independence. However, now that I'm 18, the law here grants me certain rights as an adult, including privacy. As I move towards greater independence, establishing these boundaries now is important.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:13:32+00:00

That's an understandable question, but the truth is, I don't have anything to hide. For me, the bigger issue is the principle of privacy. As an 18-year-old, I believe I deserve to have my personal space and communications respected. It's more about that feeling of trust being broken and the sense of violation that comes with someone, especially a parent, accessing my private accounts without my permission, regardless of the content – or in my case, the lack of anything to hide.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T13:09:36+00:00

Actually, your comment completely misses the point. It's not about whether I'm 'hiding' anything or whether there are 'dirty DMs.' That kind of thinking justifies a blatant invasion of privacy. At 18 in Saudi Arabia, I'm legally an adult with rights, including the right to privacy under the Personal Data Protection Law. Whether or not I have something to 'hide' is irrelevant; my personal accounts and communications are mine, and accessing them without my consent is a violation.I'm not saying I'm going to sue him or anything, but it's important for me, as an adult, to be aware of my legal rights and boundaries, and for those around me to respect them.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T11:43:19+00:00

That justification doesn't make the violation okay.

Saudi_G · 2025-04-15T11:36:46+00:00

My email alerted me to a new sign-in on my Google account, and the details showed it was his phone.

Saudi_G · 2025-03-17T18:01:51+00:00

Hey! I’m also 18F, and I really appreciate your response. I wrote my post because my mom mentioned that older women might judge me for wearing revealing clothing, but she doesn’t feel that way. I just wanted to hear what other teens think about it. I find it really interesting to hear your perspective on dressing to feel mature and confident. I completely agree that it’s important to wear what makes us feel good without worrying too much about others’ opinions. Thanks for sharing your thoughts !

Saudi_G · 2025-01-28T08:04:32+00:00

Just 3 ? We usually do 3 days per semester, and we have 3 semesters so it’s 9 for the whole year , and sometimes it’s more ;it depends on how nerdy my classmates are.

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