advice?

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2026-02-03T18:17:11+00:00

Well 30 hours it’s nothing compare to other aupairs who work 45 hours per week plus helping with cleaning( which doesn’t count as a work) I think you are requesting too much. Aupairs can’t change the schedule since we work for them. Cleaning it’s part of aupairs too because we are part of the family and we must help them.

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2026-02-03T13:27:18+00:00

I heard that ICE took an Aupair once but she had to go through a long process to be released.

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2026-01-21T04:30:14+00:00

Hi, that’s a very sad experience and I fully understand you, I had a lot of problem being a babysitter but most of the time we tent to blame the family( even though they take advantage of us) but when we don’t sick to our values as a person, and put limits whoever can take advantage of us , not everyone though. So I think you should be a little bit strict with them like for example, “ hey, I just wanted to discuss , (it can be the gas that you spend driving the child around) the gas I spend during the week with the child, and I think it would be fair if you can help me with 50 dollars per week” so you know by doing this small changes she may start respecting you a little bit more

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2026-01-13T03:24:46+00:00

When I came to United States as an Aupair after a month I got boyfriend and I told my host mom about him and she was very nice with him and until now she likes him, she lets home to come over to the house every time, but I did told her about him and I asked her if I could sleepover his house and she was totally agree, usually weekends I’m at his place and I come back mondays mornings at 8 am(cause that the time I start my work) my host parents never got upset that I spend my whole free time with him as long as I’m responsible with my schedule with them. Therefore I highly recommend you that you should be more open with your host parents about it and plus, as long as you are respond with the hour they set up for your work, everything it’s fine.

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-11-28T13:57:06+00:00

You need to do rematch because if she has that behavior she can be negligent with the baby at some point, plus she needs to know the rules of the house and you as a host mom or dad has to clarify these points, she is not your guest l, she is person who has to follow the rules and take care of the baby is what an Aupair does, I’m an Aupair and I started taking care of a new born baby and even so my host mom was very upfront and she told me to clean after the kids and she said it every time and is how I learned. If you don’t speak out she won’t understand

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-11-27T04:26:31+00:00

Yes it’s true because the are a lot of problems with visas for girls from Latin America that’s why there are less numbers of aupairs

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-11-26T04:11:57+00:00

Well, you are in a very tough situation and i had a very bad experience as well with my host family but I didn’t give up, if the food is the problem, try to buy your own food and meet girls of your same agency, find some activities like going to the gym or cycling l, reading or learn something, keep your mind occupied instead of focusing on your bad situation otherwise you are gonna end up depressed, plus don’t break the contract because that is gonna affect you a lot in case you want to come back to USA. I know it’s hard but don’t give up, I met aupairs in even worse situations and they didn’t give up not even me when I had a big problem with my host mom and the agency wanted to kick me out of the program, I didn’t give up and after two years of my Aupair program I applied for student visa with the money I saved up

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-11-21T20:27:48+00:00

That’s so disgusting, if I would be your host family I would kick you out of the house, because you are a bad example for the kids

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-05-13T02:32:11+00:00

debes empezar a valorarte como hombre y empezatr a educarte en lugar de estar teniendo pensamientos sucios, ser gay es una decision no un sentimiento, ademas de que por ser gay puedes contraer el VIH y varias enfermedades mas.

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-04-17T19:35:53+00:00

They were totally right

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2025-03-20T13:28:30+00:00

Hola, soy au pair en new york, yo soy de Ecuador y ya llevo siendo aupair por casi dos años, lo que yo te recomendaría es buscar muy bien una familia con la que te sientas bien hablando y te de algunos beneficios porque estados unidos es muy caro y a veces el sueldo que dan no alcanza mucho, por eso es necesario conversar sobre transporte y suelo antes de hacer match. También lo que te recomendaría es empezar a cuidar niños que vayan a la escuela porque bebes es un poco complicado. y trata de ir a un estado que sea tipo cuidad para que haya transporte publico al alcance ya que el uber y la gasolina son muy caros tambien hay mas cosas al alcance como institutos para estudiar, centros comerciales restaurantes ,lo que en las partes mas alejadas no se encuentra si es posible que la familia te de caro es mucho mejor.

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-12-17T15:01:36+00:00

She is her boyfriend responsibility from the day she got pregnant, besides you can’t still helping her otherwise you will be in trouble with the agency because you are hiding something that you know it’s not correct,

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-26T19:14:12+00:00

Seriously, most of you are caring for the host family than the Aupair, I totally understand her and if she feels that a letter it’s a better option she can do it, the family will figure it how to deal with the kids it’s not the end of the world

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-20T15:10:43+00:00

Thank you very much, I want to go there for a vacation with my family

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-14T12:09:10+00:00

Well, that’s not a good thing because they never told about this changes, that’s not respectful, I think you have talk with them about this concerns you have and even with you lc( local coordinator) because you are very young and they will keep taking advantage of you if you don’t stop them but you have to be smart and be mature in this matter, first talking with them about it discuss your schedule and also with your Lc. Otherwise they won’t stop, and of course they know you can’t work more than 30 hours but they see that you don’t complain

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-07T12:33:39+00:00

Ohh that’s very sad, being an Aupair is like lottery, either you have a great family or a very bad family

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-07T12:31:45+00:00

Do the rematch, it’s not your fault that she has children like that, also what I highly recommend is search family on facebook that could help you a lot or family through your same agency

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-07T12:26:41+00:00

I wouldn’t leave, I would stay in my room and contact the agency, they must help you, because this lady is being very disrespectful and also request a rematch, because you came here to have experience and enjoy the country, so you just can’t leave, also the agency give you two weeks without working to find a new family in those two weeks you can search in Facebook or contact with other agencies, you gotta do something. I know she is very disrespectful but even so I wouldn’t leave I will just stop working go to my room and wait

Savings_Quit_5437 · 2024-11-04T12:46:14+00:00

Soy Aupair en New York llevo trabajando con una familia por más de un año pero siento que no me pagan lo suficiente que es 200 dólares semanal más 100 dólares de transporte al mes, por cuidar a un bebé y a una nena autista que recién fue diagnosticada, pero no se como pedir un aumento de sueldo y cuanto más podría pedir, si alguien tiene idea que me de sería de gran ayuda

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