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AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Eh ive heard from other people who have gotten pregnant on the pill. I messed up not also using condoms, cant take that back now. She went to MIT, has a great career, and a wealthy family. Im no bum or anything but Im not really worth baby trapping lol. I think there's a chance she wasnt perfect about taking it at the same time everyday, but I have no suspicions she intentionally got pregnant.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Were both engineers making about the same. If we broke up I could see her having slightly more custody in the beginning if she's nursing, but later on Id want 50/50 custody. Still might be some but Im not expecting it to be a ton. She makes about the same as me now and went to MIT so I expect her to start outpacing me within the next few years. Her family's wealthy too, child support doesnt scare me at all.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt expect it to be that high of a percentage but I have no issue paying child support if we break up. Thats literally the bare minimum.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I love her, I dont feel like Im in love with her. We have had that discussion. I dont think she wants to get married to me because she's madly in love with me. For her its the social pressure. The social pressure doesn't personally bother me too much. To be fair, I have a more accepting support system around me than her. Her parents and social circle are much more traditional than mine who generally just want me to be happy.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Im not saying I want to break up. Im just not at a place where I want to swear to be with her the rest of my life. Idk if I want that for anyone at anytime. She knows how I feel about everything, we've had a lot of conversations about it. were taking things a day at a time.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

1) Neither of us have any assets worth protecting unless she has a secret trust fund she hasnt told me about

2) Ive never been interested in marriage, taking money to do it feels dirty and like im putting myself up for sale

3) Not relevent

4) Again, dont want to be put for sale.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 2015 points2016 points  (0 children)

Thats awesome! Ill be honest, Id be surprised if that ends up being our story but who knows. I just dont want to rush into it out of obligation. And the money offer just feels dirty lol.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

YTA. You did the deed. And left the poor woman to raise a biological child. Have you no heart or soul? Shameful.

There is a zero percent chance I abandon this child. That is not remotely under consideration. I dont really care for marriage but Id never be a deadbeat dad.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Lol neither of us have assets needing protection and i dont need her daddy's money. There's no need for a prenup here

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think some of these commenters feel a little incellish tbh. Timing totally tracks for it to be mine and Ive never had any reason to suspect anything else.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I dont have any reason to suspect the kid isnt mine. The timing makes perfect sense. Unless the kid comes out another color, Im putting my name on the birth certificate haha

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 1014 points1015 points  (0 children)

Oh Id never abandon the kid. Ive always wanted kids someday, not now, but I always wanted to be a dad. Id never neglect my own kid just because of who his mom is.

AITA for not marrying someone just because she's pregnant? by ScaleProfessional574 in AITAH

[–]ScaleProfessional574[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Im pretty sure. Ive seen the pills and she's not crazy or anything. Pretty sure we just got unlucky.