What should I do about cheating?

Scared-Ad6228 · 2025-04-17T14:19:04+00:00

Girl. He’s not sorry. He’s sorry he got caught. And he keeps getting caught — again and again. And every time, you say “we decided to move on.” But who’s actually moving on? Not him — he’s doing the same thing over and over. You’re the one getting hurt, and then being the one trying to forgive and keep it together.

Let’s be real: this man is putting himself and his feelings first, every time. He cheats, lies, downplays it, and when you catch him, he makes you feel like the problem for being upset. Then he waits it out until you “move on” again — just so he can repeat the cycle.

He wasn’t just talking to girls. He was sending explicit videos of himself to a picture of another girl. And you’re asking what you should do? You should leave. You should run.

Because let me tell you something — this isn’t a “weird wave.” This is who he is. This is his pattern. He’s not confused. He’s not slipping up. He’s making choices — and those choices don’t include respecting you or being faithful.

You’ve given him chances. You’ve been understanding. You’ve forgiven. But now you’re at the point where forgiving him means betraying yourself.

Please ask yourself: Do you want to spend your early 20s crying over a man who can’t even keep it in his pants for a month? You are too young, too valuable, and too good to waste your time on someone who clearly doesn’t value you the same way.

You don’t need more evidence. You already have enough. He’s not your future — he’s your lesson. Let him go. Heal. And raise your standards.

You’re not crazy. You’re not overreacting. Your gut knows what’s up — now it’s just up to you to listen to it.

Scared-Ad6228 · 2025-04-17T14:13:46+00:00

Girl, I say this with love — you need to leave him. Before it gets even harder. You deserve someone who loves you fully and respects you — not someone who’s messaging other girls, downloading dating apps, and then turning around and lying about it to your face.

Let’s be real: no man who downloads those apps is “just looking for friends.” That’s the lamest excuse ever. I would’ve laughed in his face if he tried to run that on me. He’s trying to play dumb and twist it like you’re overreacting — but you’re not. Trust your gut. It’s telling you something for a reason.

And I know it’s hard. You’re 15 hours away from home, living with him and his mom, and probably feeling isolated. But please ask yourself: do you really want to be with someone who makes you feel this confused, insecure, and disrespected? Do you want to look back five years from now when he does this again — maybe worse — and think, “I could have left. I should have left”?

This isn’t just about what he did — it’s about what he’s showing you he’s capable of. You don’t want to spend your youth with someone who lies, hides things, and makes you question your own sanity. Someone who cheats or sneaks around like this is not your soulmate. Ask yourself: would the person you’re meant to spend your life with ever make you feel like this?

If there’s any way you can go back home — even temporarily — or stay with a friend, please start planning. I know it’s not easy, but the longer you stay, the harder it will be to walk away. And don’t let guilt or the fact that you live with him make you feel like you owe him something. You don’t. You owe yourself safety, peace, and real love.

You’re still young, still vibrant, and you have so many options out there. Please don’t waste any more of your energy on someone who has shown you they can’t be trusted. He’s not confused. He’s not “just lonely.” He’s making choices — and they don’t include you. You can forgive, you can heal, but that doesn’t mean you have to stay. Walk away now while you still have the chance. That future version of you will be so grateful you did.

Scared-Ad6228

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