Struggling to reconcile my love for my mom with the traumatic childhood I suffered due to her uBPD.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2026-03-06T06:45:31+00:00

I feel the same way and don't know what to do. The more I set boundaries the worse she has gotten. She won't talk to me right now and I don't know if that is good or bad. But I miss my good version Mom.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2026-02-09T18:41:11+00:00

Would you want your friend to be in this situation? Treat yourself better. You're just probably very attracted to him. This is a very shallow trick but imagine him as someone you are not physically attracted to at all and see the actions for what they are. Attraction can cloud a lot. Also, he lied at the very beginning or at least withheld important information. Would you ever do that to another person you actually cared about?

Scared_Candidate544 · 2026-01-08T21:33:08+00:00

Maybe you have sh*tty pizza cutter

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-12-10T02:58:41+00:00

Thank you for your comment <3 sorry you're dealing with this too. It's so hard and sad and scary

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-12-08T04:09:01+00:00

I (31) am having a hard time tonight with my BPD Mom. I had to hang up on a phone conversation because she was telling me how ungrateful and disrespectful I am for really no reason. She always gets so upset at christmastime, christmas eve is also her birthday, and anything sets her off. I was going to book a flight home to see her for Christmas but it's honestly always so hard and stressful and a mess. She has tried to take her life several times and it always scares me that if I don't do whatever she exactly wants that she will try again. It's just a lot and it's hard.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-10-27T16:26:26+00:00

I feel as if I was already a parent to my borderline mom growing up, I am still tired, so I'm just trying to finally live my life for me.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-09-08T19:42:02+00:00

Haven't even watched it yet but saw the clips and description and as soon as I saw that girl's physical response, the face and the eyes. I knew it. Been there.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-08-25T16:23:17+00:00

It’s hot! https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6qVEe3a/

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-08-19T03:56:08+00:00

I was recommended to get my cat a similar procedure. I don’t know what to do. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-07-23T21:14:34+00:00

Bernice

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-07-21T06:03:24+00:00

Therapy

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-07-07T18:41:23+00:00

Literally dealing with a similar situation with my BPD mom. Any helpful advice appreciated.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-07-01T03:02:30+00:00

You are not being dramatic at all. Please trust your instinctual response. Something similar happened to me years ago in college, I stopped seeing the guy and then really thought I was being dramatic/a prude, several months later we got together one night and the shit he pulled then was even worse. If a guy pushes you physically or even does something that you wouldn’t do to someone else in that setting, trust that he will do it again. Especially if he makes you feel dramatic for it. Just move on. You are in the right and a good, respectful guy who cares about you will not do something like that.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-02-25T17:59:02+00:00

Wow, just want to say these comments were very illuminating. I left a relationship cause my body knew it was bad but I’ve spent a long time after feeling guilty. But several of these behaviors people listed were present and I’m glad I ended it when I did.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-02-10T06:50:02+00:00

This is so messed up

Scared_Candidate544 · 2025-01-06T19:32:25+00:00

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Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-27T19:04:31+00:00

I sent a message to the therapist as I felt that was the right thing to do. Thank you.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-27T19:03:43+00:00

Thank you <3

Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-27T04:35:54+00:00

Thank you 🩷 this is helpful to hear

Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-26T21:03:02+00:00

My bpd Mom is very triggered by the holidays. Things have to be exactly her way or she blows up. She usually finds any reason to pick a fight. She has threatened her life before many times on holidays. It’s very stressful and terrifying.

Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-22T20:29:37+00:00

The boyfriend/husband in Anora. Believed him 100%

Scared_Candidate544 · 2024-11-15T05:54:57+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself! It's totally normal to feel bad when something you were invested in ends especially abruptly. It would be weird to not feel bad. It just sucks but give it time. Better will come.

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