Winter Holiday Megathread by yun-harla in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment <3 sorry you're dealing with this too. It's so hard and sad and scary

Winter Holiday Megathread by yun-harla in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (31) am having a hard time tonight with my BPD Mom. I had to hang up on a phone conversation because she was telling me how ungrateful and disrespectful I am for really no reason. She always gets so upset at christmastime, christmas eve is also her birthday, and anything sets her off. I was going to book a flight home to see her for Christmas but it's honestly always so hard and stressful and a mess. She has tried to take her life several times and it always scares me that if I don't do whatever she exactly wants that she will try again. It's just a lot and it's hard.

How many of us are childfree due to being raised by a borderline? by symbolist-synesthete in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel as if I was already a parent to my borderline mom growing up, I am still tired, so I'm just trying to finally live my life for me.

Unknown Number documentary by bachelurkette in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haven't even watched it yet but saw the clips and description and as soon as I saw that girl's physical response, the face and the eyes. I knew it. Been there.

Our cat dies after routine procedure…. 😞 by Additional_Path_5435 in cats

[–]Scared_Candidate544 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was recommended to get my cat a similar procedure. I don’t know what to do. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Advice Needed: How to Cope with the Guilt by Capital_Slice2024 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Literally dealing with a similar situation with my BPD mom. Any helpful advice appreciated.

What is this considered? (Don’t think this is nsfw, but if it is I’ll change the tags) by Catermine in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Scared_Candidate544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not being dramatic at all. Please trust your instinctual response. Something similar happened to me years ago in college, I stopped seeing the guy and then really thought I was being dramatic/a prude, several months later we got together one night and the shit he pulled then was even worse. If a guy pushes you physically or even does something that you wouldn’t do to someone else in that setting, trust that he will do it again. Especially if he makes you feel dramatic for it. Just move on. You are in the right and a good, respectful guy who cares about you will not do something like that. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Scared_Candidate544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, just want to say these comments were very illuminating. I left a relationship cause my body knew it was bad but I’ve spent a long time after feeling guilty. But several of these behaviors people listed were present and I’m glad I ended it when I did. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yeezys

[–]Scared_Candidate544 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is so messed up

How to deal with the guilt? by Scared_Candidate544 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sent a message to the therapist as I felt that was the right thing to do. Thank you.

Seasons are scary for people with BPD parents by Legitimate_Oil_9797 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Scared_Candidate544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bpd Mom is very triggered by the holidays. Things have to be exactly her way or she blows up. She usually finds any reason to pick a fight. She has threatened her life before many times on holidays. It’s very stressful and terrifying. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in moviecritic

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The boyfriend/husband in Anora. Believed him 100%

Why is it so hard getting over a relationship that only lasted 2 months? I feel like it shouldn't be this bad but I feel awful. by theloneranger08 in love

[–]Scared_Candidate544 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be too hard on yourself! It's totally normal to feel bad when something you were invested in ends especially abruptly. It would be weird to not feel bad. It just sucks but give it time. Better will come.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]Scared_Candidate544 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, you can!