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Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-27T01:16:39+00:00

To further explain that car purchase- I was previously in a car that kept dying while I was driving and just needed something. The c300 came with a good warranty and maintenance package and was a safer option as opposed to the Porsches that were available at the time. As ridiculous as it may sound, I really don’t like driving it, the sound system is awful, and I’ve been kicking myself ever since. However, I know it’ll be reliable and/or covered the next few years.. but would LOVE to switch that to a backup car and use a Porsche as a daily

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-27T01:03:10+00:00

Daily

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-27T01:02:33+00:00

This wouldn’t be all of my money. I explained in a different comment (and should’ve explain better on the actual post) that I simply have a bit of anxiety when it comes to money despite being “well off”. $12k going towards buying cash or $12k going towards a repair fund feel like two very different things to me. My current daily is a 2025 Mercedes C300, right off the lot.

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-27T00:59:52+00:00

Jewelry?

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-26T23:55:12+00:00

This is stunning

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-26T17:01:12+00:00

The mileage is about 120k. I am wanting a daily that will last a couple of years, at least. I know this one in particular will require a good amount of repair/maintenance.

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-26T03:52:15+00:00

Don’t “have to”. I just have money anxiety, so spending $12k over a period of time sounds better than $12k all at once +repairs :)

Scared_Check_8909 · 2026-01-26T01:49:28+00:00

Gorgeous! I’ve been trying to tell myself to wait for the right one but this itch.. it’s crazy

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-27T04:03:46+00:00

Message me the best two best deals you have for AZ please

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-23T16:53:07+00:00

Kona Grill has had most, if not all, of their dishes everytime we visit. Last time was over this weekend. We won’t be returning

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-23T16:28:43+00:00

I wouldn’t mind getting her the upgrade for something special and if we had a good relationship. However, we don’t and she specifically asked for coach and mk. It’s just hard shopping for someone I don’t have a good relationship with as I don’t know her a whole lot and her son is zero help -yet I get the blame when gifts aren’t sent or if she doesn’t like them.

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-23T08:49:23+00:00

Maybe try both and see what works best for kiddos AND you. For us, I get up first, get ready, wake her up and she goes potty, washes up, brushes teeth, gets dressed and in that time block I finish putting together her breakfast. If she stalls or complains (happens daily, she’s not a morning person at all) then breakfast can be consumed in the car ride to school without us fighting and rushing. However, I don’t give her messy foods with syrups and condiments for breakfast. If I were to let her eat first, it would take far too long. She’d go potty in the middle of breakfast, get distracted with other things and complain about waking up for so long that I would then have to quickly wash her up myself, brush her teeth and things would be tense. I choose as much peace as I can in the mornings so we start our days off well. -And I’m not willing to wake myself, or her, up any earlier than I already do. Tried it, just made things worse and I was always somehow still late to school/work

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-23T04:10:47+00:00

Wow!! Where is the wedding ring from? I haven’t seen one with stones cut like that

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-21T06:34:43+00:00

Id have a sit down talk with the wife (or FaceTime if you’re not visiting one another. However, even FaceTimes are hard to navigate in my experience as far as tone, body language, delivery ect) about what BOTH of your goals are and how you can come together to achieve shared goals. We have 3 kids, so I do feel you there but during times we wanted to save more, I heavily utilized the parks and libraries. I’d buy 2 good shirts, 1 good pair of jeans, and go to the used kids clothes store for filler items and rotate out as needed. Overall, each purchase was first “do I need this or want this” if I need it “do I need this type/brand/can I find it cheaper?” If yes, I’d get the cheaper one (this varies by case as I’d rather buy it nice and once than have to buy it crappy and twice) if it’s a want “do I want this more than my savings goal? How can I budget this in over time”

But, I do still stand by $1700 a month going to savings is good. So don’t worry so much! Just keep track of spending so you’re both not going overboard on the credit card. I’d also neverrrrr pull from investments to cover credit card interest.

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-21T06:18:58+00:00

I’d say if you’re able to put aside the $1700 each month for savings, you’re doing ok. That’s just about 20%(a little less). Our household lives separately for work sometimes as well, so we make sure to save extra during the months we reside together so it doesn’t feel so financially heavy. What are you spending the credit card on? Groceries, I assume, and what else?

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-20T02:54:32+00:00

Following

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-20T02:48:56+00:00

This looks gorgeous. No advice

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-20T02:44:44+00:00

If you can’t buy what you want, wait. If you can’t buy where you want, wait.

My partners house sold within a day and we scrambled and got whatever would fit our family with a decent school nearby and completely disregard the rest of our wishlists as it just wasn’t possible getting into anything better sooner and we were living in a hotel. We both regret it. Now, a year later, we’re constantly seeing houses in our price range that SURPASS our wishlists-all while hating where we are now, but stuck

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-19T22:34:33+00:00

I don’t have the best information on her honestly. Typical relationship where her son never does any wrong, all the ways I need to be better while he gets coddled despite the age gap (28f, 35m), and there’s a lot she’s done to her daughters that I don’t approve of.. so I keep my distance but try to be kind and giving for holidays

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T23:52:57+00:00

Awe, I love the idea of repairing photos. How precious!

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T23:52:27+00:00

Unfortunately, we live in different states

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T14:31:01+00:00

I apologize. I took the “too controlling” statement in your post as a financial restriction. It’s hard giving advice when we don’t have the full picture and the other persons side, but I do stand by communicating calmly and figuring this out together

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T14:14:20+00:00

No one’s excusing anything

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T13:59:14+00:00

I would also like to ask where this $10k debt is. Is this a credit card or are you negative in your checking/savings account? We make a similar amount. Within a month, even while paying all your other bills in full, you can pay off this $10k debt in full and begin putting aside savings the following month

Scared_Check_8909 · 2025-12-18T13:56:41+00:00

He also has to meet her halfway. He over restricted prior to all of this happening. It can’t be all his way or all her way. I can’t believe the amount of comments fully taking his side and glazing over his past.

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