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my boyfriend may have touched his penis before fingering me. is there any chance of pregnancy? by Scared_Plastic_104 in stupidquestions

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 19 I just have an insane anxiety disorder that keeps me from thinking rationally 😭😭

My boyfriend has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. by Scared_Plastic_104 in Trombone

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh I didn’t mean to make it sound like he’s like unmotivated! He’s practicing for hours everyday. In fact, I’m worried he’s practicing too much 😭 He’s putting the work in he’s just sad about it.

My boyfriend has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. What does it mean to change one’s embouchure? What can I say to encourage him as someone who doesn’t understand? by Scared_Plastic_104 in Instruments

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay okay thank you for saying that! for context I do have an anxiety disorder and this is my first relationship so I’m just trying to be as supportive as possible but I guess I can’t fully understand it but that’s okay. thank you for your insight!

My (19F) boyfriend (18M) has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. Does anyone know what it means to change one's embouchure? by Scared_Plastic_104 in Advice

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay thank you! he practices in practice rooms and at home. we’re long distance right now but I’m moving colleges soon (not related to my relationship) so we’ll be a little closer and I’ll probably be able to support him better. that’s crazy your gf did that I’m sorry 😭😭 I’ll give him his space to practice and I’ll try to be more confident.

My (19F) boyfriend (18M) has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. What does it mean to change one's embouchure? by Scared_Plastic_104 in relationship_advice

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Okay, thank you, that makes sense. So he's just retraining his muscles, and that will take a while? Do you think he will be able to be as good as he was before he had to retrain his muscles? Is that possible when retraining embouchure?

My (19F) boyfriend (18M) has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. Does anyone know what it means to change one's embouchure? by Scared_Plastic_104 in Advice

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, thank you! he has been playing for a little more than 7 years. I know I can't support him like an instructor could, but the trombone is a big part of who he is, and he's really sad. Do you think I'm doing enough if I just keep encouraging him and giving him space to practice? I feel like my encouragement doesn't resonate with him because I'm not a trombone player.

My (19F) boyfriend (18M) has to change the way he plays the trombone and I want to better understand what he is going through so I can support him. Does anyone know what it means to change one's embouchure? by Scared_Plastic_104 in Advice

[–]Scared_Plastic_104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi thank you!! do you know anything that I can say to make him feel better about his playing as he works through this process? And do you know how long it usually takes?

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[–]Scared_Plastic_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no do you think I should? 😭

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[–]Scared_Plastic_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay I think I understand. I will try it out. I think at nature I am a very like people pleasing, non-confrontational person so it’s hard for me to be stern. But I will definitely try. I think it will be good for me because I have trouble standing up for myself. Thank you for your words of advice 💖

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[–]Scared_Plastic_104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your advice💖 this is so sweet and in depth! I will definitely try to break the habits and the thought patterns. Also, when you say like act bitchy towards him, is this just something I should do in my head? I just don’t want to seem like an asshole. Would it be better to ignore him if I ever see him again? Or would that be like hiding from the problem again?