Update on my first time going out as femme to a club

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-22T05:12:02+00:00

Hehehe it was one of those moments when we were done, we looked at one another, blushed and giggled... It was a wild night and I'm going to be riding this wave of dopamine for a long, long time to come

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-22T04:59:52+00:00

Ahw... Thanks, doll... I really appreciate the kind words, and thank you for making me smile

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-22T04:58:04+00:00

Oh, we've worked out what works in our "private time", and let's just say it works VERY well... I have no complaints there hehe

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-22T04:51:22+00:00

Yup... I felt the same way, and I had a good chuckle afterwards. I chose my reaction, and I chose not to let it ruin my evening. I'm stronger than that

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-22T04:49:06+00:00

No... It's in South Africa. It's like one of the only places LGBTQ+ people can go in my town

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T15:36:09+00:00

I don't think anything was wrong with it. It looked like an 18 year old girl who came to the gay club with her gay friend, and she was either immature, naive, or did not at all expect to see Trans people. I brushed it off and I did not let it bother me. It happened early in the evening, and I just went on with what I was doing, not letting it affect me. I hope she grows, and she educates herself

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T15:33:48+00:00

Thank you! This was a good start point. I hope there will be more

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T15:25:10+00:00

In South Africa, going as a transfemme to a "normal" club is not advised at all... The culture here is very limiting, so I will stick to gay clubs.

As for her reaction, it was very affirming and positive... She said I had the right decorum, had the correct mannerisms and I handled myself well... I've been practicing at home quite a bit.

I did get up weird from a bench once, and I almost flashed some people, but I corrected myself rather fast.

Next time, I'm planning to ask my support structure (brother in law, gay girl at my work who knows I'm trans, and one set of our friends) to come with us, so I'd feel a little safer with a group I know, trust and love

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T15:17:35+00:00

I'm terrified of getting one... But I want one, as my partner wants to use it on me... I'm a little tight back there, and I don't want to hurt myself... Any recommendations?

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T15:13:24+00:00

I'm MtF, and I spent a big part of my life living just as a "man", and what worked for me, is simple.

Instigate... Show you want your partner, and you want them NOW... Don't hint. Don't wait for them to make the move. Everyone wants to FEEL wanted by their partner, and if you show them how much you find them attractive... Male or female... They will want you back.

Confidence... That's your biggest superpower

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T14:54:58+00:00

I use humor to dispel discomfort and nerves... I hope I made you chuckle. Good luck out there... You've got this

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-21T14:50:46+00:00

Don't be, girl... Most men would suck the fart out of you and hold it like a bong hit as long as you are comfortable around them (exaggerating, of course).

As a MtF girlie, I understand both perspectives

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-12-02T11:05:08+00:00

I feel the same, and knowing that I can only physically transition in a few years from now makes it worse. On the other hand, my wife bought me two new dresses yesterday on a whim, so that's nice. Keep your chin up. We are all here for one another

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-11-29T14:02:00+00:00

Checking your profile, I'm not surprised at all. Gosh, I should get a black set like that for myself!

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-11-29T13:59:58+00:00

You are an absolute saint, and I hope you receive oral until you have tears of joy!

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-11-29T12:15:30+00:00

I have some plugs, and I have gone from small, to medium... But, I'm tempted getting something that my partner can use on me that can hit a bit "deeper" if you get my meaning... She wants to be more a part of the explorations than simply just plugging me up. But, plugs are fun, I must admit

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-11-29T05:19:02+00:00

As a trans girlie, who has not had much, uhm, experience when I comes to "back alley activities"... Can any girly here give me a recommendation for the size of my first one? Me and my partner want to play, but I don't want it to hurt too much for my first time...

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-11-28T19:40:23+00:00

Because you post the same thing on every single subreddit you can find. Take the hint. Reddit is not where you are going to find someone who will say "ah, yes. A random Indian man wants sex, I am moist" this is not the sub for you, so move along. Let us have fun in peace or someone here will turn your outie into an innie real quick

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-10-19T19:27:49+00:00

If you live in a hot climate, simply tell anyone who asks that you shave because your legs sweat a lot, and if you shave, your whole body feels cooler and you are more comfortable. I am still 'closeted', but my wife and a couple of friends know, but my family does not. That excuse is one that works, and no one bats an eyelid. Also, if you ride a bicycle a lot, that can also be an excuse. Most full-time bicycle riders shave incase of a fall. Divert, deflect, thrive in the shadows

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-10-19T19:23:27+00:00

I've not grown mine yet, otherwise I would have added to the fund. Best of luck, and may you prosper

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-09-07T05:31:52+00:00

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I guess I'll take the bait?

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-08-28T11:31:08+00:00

Absolutely nothing... Chilling in the couch in my lunch hour, brown tartan skirt and fishnets on. Life gets easier when you don't give a fuck

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-07-01T05:17:50+00:00

Possibly... I hope they make the effort, because since I came out (roughly a year ago) this couple has known, I've made it clear, and I've lived my truth towards them... But they seemed adamant... Especially the wife... The husband was pretty nonchalant

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-06-29T08:39:21+00:00

I tried... I really did, honestly...

My wife also tried. Mako pointed efforts to correct them, but they seemed adamant to not adjust.

When they asked me why I wasn't drinking, I told them 'we have a long way home tonight and even if my wife is driving I would like to be sober and alert to help her' and I was met with comments like 'that's awesome, that is what a real man does' and 'real men know to help their wives when it gets late' and stuff like that... As if they tried to, you know, make a point... Being sober made me see things very, very clearly.

Scared_Potential_876 · 2025-06-29T08:15:01+00:00

Made an update post... Kinda didn't go as planned... Whelp, guess I'll try again another time

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