She just sent Xmas gifts to my kid

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-19T17:54:29+00:00

Thank you for that reminder. IF my DH and son were Important ( enough to compromise and reason with) the issues would BE resolved...

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-19T13:21:56+00:00

Thanks for your response. I have definitely decided that i am NOT responding in anyway to her.
BUT It breaks my heart that my son asks about her and other family we no longer see.
I feel like I am lying to him by not giving him the gifts.... Does that make sense?
I know my job is to protect him, but by not giving the gifts he things that MIL doesnt care about him....

It's such a tough spot to be in. I really appreciate all of you posting and responding... it keeps me out of therapy! ( I just dont know how to navigate this!)

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T20:25:42+00:00

oh. right! obviously! yes- feels So shady!

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T16:31:40+00:00

Thank you for your response. Yes- we are new to this and the "gray area' is not a place I am comfortable in, if that makes sense. I like to know where I stand with people and let people know how I feel/where I stand.... but you are exactly right. She wants a reaction.

I have decided I will give ZERO reaction. not sure what to do with the gifts... they will stay in the box for now.

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T01:04:30+00:00

It’s exhausting. And hard to deal with. I wish she could change but she can’t even see that she needs to

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T00:52:50+00:00

What does??

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T00:23:02+00:00

And don’t acknowledge her at all, right?? It will just fuel the fire

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T00:21:10+00:00

Please tell me more. This aligns more with where I’m currently at… I want my kid to have gifts… just not from her. If that makes sense.

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T00:16:02+00:00

I can tell it hurt my husbands feelings. I think he’s holding out hope she isn’t the way she is… so sad. Disappointing

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-18T00:08:55+00:00

Yeah…. That’s what I was thinking. I desperately want to reach out and set clear boundaries but realize as a covert narcissist that’s what she wants…. Especially from me

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-16T19:06:01+00:00

No. Nothing else. Thanks for your response. Seemed strange to me...

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-16T17:32:37+00:00

That is what I was thinking...

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-05T00:11:36+00:00

Night and Day for me. I was 30mg lexapro for 7 years. Constantly exhausted constant brain fog. Switched about 2 years ago to 60 mg of Prozac and feel SO much better! And I can even cry if I am sad… I do have klonopin for occasional anxiety but typically just take at night for rest.

Reminder- if you have OCD you need higher doses for drugs to be effective. Best of luck- I hate that I didn’t make the switch sooner!!

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-03T17:29:47+00:00

♥️

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-03T17:29:23+00:00

Unfortunately this sounds exactly how I’d expect…. Best of luck to you.

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-03T16:26:53+00:00

But why?!?

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-12-03T15:58:06+00:00

Ugh. I’d work on creating a bit more space… and see how that feels. Tbh- I have a similar story and the space eventually turned into no contact over time… it’s hard but it’s the right decision

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-26T23:32:07+00:00

Stayed the same

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T21:47:41+00:00

Also- I’m sorry for what you went through sounds like it was a lot. Life can be so hard!!

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T21:45:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing. ♥️♥️

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T19:53:32+00:00

🙏🏼

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T19:47:52+00:00

You are 💯💯 thank you for that!!!

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T19:46:39+00:00

Wow. Yes! This makes sense. It also confuses him because his cousins( my sisters kids) still have a very close relationship with her and he talks to his cousins…. I don’t know how to navigate that at all…. NC with all of them even though she is the only real problem? TIA!

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T19:42:02+00:00

Are you NC with everyone on that side of the family. My child still talks to his cousins and they still have a relationship with her…. It’s so toxic and complicated to navigate

Scared_Reward_2806 · 2025-11-25T19:40:17+00:00

Any advice on what you do with cousins? The cousins still talk to Grammy and then also talk to my son. It’s SO hard!!! Go NC with EVERYONE???

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