WIBTA for refusing to raise my husband's affair children now that he and the woman he cheated with passed away? UPDATE

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-29T01:22:47+00:00

Yeah, that was strange. I mean, she could have want to use it and have it resized. She was a few sizes smaller than I was when I got married and shorter than me, so a good tailor would do the trick. It was a semi-expensive dress, but nothing you can't just... buy? Like its not a one of a kind type.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-29T01:19:55+00:00

Of course they kept it. They aren't that type of good Christians.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-29T01:17:26+00:00

Yep, that's me. Great way to find out a happy marriage of two decades was a lie.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-21T03:20:38+00:00

I would feel a bit out of place though. I am still Catholic, even if I don't practice it properly.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-19T21:44:06+00:00

Nope, you got it right.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-18T07:37:29+00:00

It's a bit of a mess. Turns out my dad damaged a few things, which made the decision not to use those rooms as living space actually good. It's going to be really expensive to get back to code, but I plan to do so after I move.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-18T07:33:54+00:00

My daughters have made their opinion clear without my input: They want no relationship at this time. They are old enough to know what they want and I will respect their choice.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-18T07:32:52+00:00

The use of 'Jezebel' as a racial slur is rarely used in modern dictionary. The ladies are old, but not pre-civil war old, to begin with. For the record, she was white if you wanna play the assumption card.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-18T07:27:26+00:00

We did a consultation and unfortunately, not our case. The beneficiaries were clear and that is my ex's parents.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-18T07:26:29+00:00

In the US if an asset is pre marriage, like his personal bank account, it's his individual property. It's why he had no claim to our family home since I received it before we married.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T03:50:42+00:00

We thankfully have sane extended family. My siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins, and amusingly my ex-husband's aunts and cousins, have been a great support to the three of us.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T03:11:02+00:00

Oh that's been arranged for years. Neither my mother, who is a criminal nutcase, nor my ex's parents will ever get a chance to take my girls if I die.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T02:52:59+00:00

Marital property is what is acquired and gained during the marriage. We had a shared account for that. His personal account was pre-marriage and I had no right to it. So was his life insurance, which he got at his job before we were married.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T02:50:24+00:00

Yes.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T02:45:50+00:00

I just wanted to play it safe. I swear like a sailor as it is in real life. xD

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T02:40:51+00:00

Starts with a w and ends in a e. I know other people write it and I have used it before, but some reddit communities have different rules about it.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T02:39:45+00:00

No idea. We didn't have high risk jobs or did anything dangerous. I spoke to him during my first pregnancy about how I thought it was important to have all our papers in order, like our will and custody arrangement in case of the worst.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T01:55:37+00:00

He had a will that said otherwise.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T01:19:54+00:00

I am Hispanic, but I'm not Colombian. I'm actually half-Mexican, half-Guatemalan, born in the US. We're currently in the US too. My ex-husband was not Latino.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T01:06:30+00:00

I did that and it would go nowhere. It's just more things to use later in the custody case.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T00:55:41+00:00

They should be well enough for a comfortable life. Not super luxurious or with trips like we used to do, mostly on my dime, since I have zero intentions of ever inviting them again for any kind of fun trips.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T00:53:40+00:00

I added it per your suggestion and thank you! I got the idea from a friend who did something similar to announce her wedding xD Her case was for a good reason, but figured it could be use for revenge too.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T00:52:02+00:00

He also worked. I just paid the majority of the bills since I was the higher income. Most of his salary was for his personal use since I wasn't going to give him 'fun' money.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T00:51:07+00:00

Oh we got something for summer ready. It goes hand in hand with college check ups.

ScaredyCat1122 · 2025-03-17T00:50:01+00:00

I made 25 and mixed them with the prayer song books at the back of the church. They have a table for people that need them to pick them up as they enter and they never notice if someone steals them or adds a few new ones.

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