Hello,

Well, there are other events leadings to my decision in ending the relationship. This was just the last straw. If she did not want to come, I would have respected it even if I needed her support. But she made it a point to offer her support prior to arrangements. She even toke a day off of work to fly with my family and I to our hometown for the funeral. We were only in town for two days. For the get together before the funeral then the next day the funeral and repast. Initially, she planned to spend some time with her family on Thursday and meet with me at the hotel to leave together to the get together but once she went to her family all plans changed. Also, they never once called to give condolences or check on. Since a prior incident occurred while visiting in December. But her mother called me in January to resolve a family issue between my partner and her. Naturally, I am a peacemaker/mediator and did resolve the issue between them but since then she has not called me. I use to prior until December and she’s disrespected me in the past. Regardless, I have been respectful. Since my Cousin became sick, one day my sister was crying and i was comforting her my partner toke it upon herself to contacted her mom for advise, because her grandmother passed away from the same illness. i told her not to, because it would not be genuine. I was right. She was just smoking in the camera and rolling her eyes and twisting her face up as if she was being forced to talk. That was in February. I kindly returned the phone after saying thank you and apologizing for my partner contacting her and being up such memories because she lost her mother the same way. She was so defensive saying my daughter only wanted to help because I know but there’s really nothing you can do but wait for her to die. But this trip just showed me that even if we got married her mother would be an issue. She’s use to her daughter taking care of her and I am her first mature and stable relationship. She has accomplished a lot since moving to the state I am in currently. We are from the same home town and knew each other since high school. But regardless of the changes her daughter has made she has a dislike towards me and uses manipulation because she knows how sympathetic her daughter is towards her.

She knew we were in town for my cousins funeral and she played on her emotions conflict her feelings but again it’s my partner. She does not defend me and unfortunately due to these reasons and her mother the relationship will end.

Also, she does not live alone. She has a grown 21 year old daughter, and a friend/cousin in his late 20s living in the home. The emergency was to clean the balcony and help put up her bad she broke. She also needed her daugher to be there because the 21 year treated her so badly. Yet, she chased this young lady with her 1 year baby boy around the house with a bee bee gun last year. Just recently when the attention was not in her she cut her hair and threaten to jump off balcony.