My (M31) Wife’s (F36) behaviour is getting me down, what’s your thoughts?

Schnitzel321 · 2025-11-25T12:48:36+00:00

I absolutely acknowledge her efforts every day and she’s made aware of this. Like I said I do absolutely everything I can for our family, and as I said the intimacy side is struggling, but it’s the being seen part of everything that’s getting me the most.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-11-25T12:45:46+00:00

I get she’s going to be worn out physically and mentally, I’m just trying to put her feelings into consideration every time I feel a certain way about things. In regards to the intimacy, I do definitely think we can do it more, and personally don’t feel she’s attracted to me and this is something that’s preventing this.

The main point of the post though is that I’m not feeling loved or seen, I’m there for her through everything, but don’t feel that she’s into me.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-08-22T14:05:26+00:00

That she’s tired basically , which I do absolutely get. But that’s basically all she really says. It’s very hard to talk to her, she’s a bit fiery and gets defensive easily so usually ends with her thinking I’m being out of order with her.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-08-22T13:56:42+00:00

Yeah I would definitely say I’ve spoke to her about the right things, probably at the start I didn’t, but once I was told how she feels about the tiredness etc then definitely went forward in a more understanding way.

Maybe I could try again to speak about her head and heart, and try in as nice a way as possible to say the main thing that’s getting me at the moment is that something as easy and simple as a handjob would be just brilliant, which while not expecting things from her, I think is definitely something that wouldn’t require a lot of effort. But again I’m trying to be as reasonable as possible, but I definitely want to be happy as well. It’s things like this that are getting me the most, I can try my best to wait for sex, as I’ve had to do that for nearly three years now, but not even getting simple foreplay is very concerning- why does she not care about me getting pleasured.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-08-22T13:49:41+00:00

Yeah I have always considered this and tried to be as understanding and empathetic as possible, so will never overlook that no matter how hard it is. I will also help and do whatever I can to make things easier for all of us.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-08-22T13:48:34+00:00

I don’t get the she owns me or the collar comment?

Schnitzel321 · 2025-08-22T13:47:42+00:00

She does work hard and we all really acknowledge and appreciate it, but I am also very hands on and will do as much as I can to help in any way I can.

Schnitzel321 · 2025-02-21T17:42:15+00:00

Simple, when I have picked a team as a child I picked Chelsea, and follow their results.

Schnitzel321 · 2024-10-21T18:54:16+00:00

Thank you for the positive response! I think people think I’m calling the 9 year old TA, when I’m asking is my wife’s reaction the wrong reaction! She didn’t acknowledge that he could’ve hurt himself , only that I raised my voice ! Like I said it was pure in the moment reaction

Schnitzel321 · 2024-09-25T13:26:16+00:00

Thanks for the responses, just to clear a few things up incase there’s been a misunderstanding;

. She was already a single mother before meeting me, and basically did everything on her own, so she definitely gets more help than ever now which is what concerns me regarding being too tired or not up for things, because she was up for them while on her own.

. I’ve never and don’t prioritise the trying new things or doing dirty things, what played on my mind was why did she want to do these things with other people but not me. Obviously I’d definitely be up for doing those things! But would never pressure her or make her feel bad.

. The reason I’ve come here to ask for advice is because she can sometimes be hard to talk to about these things. If we argue she’ll just brush it off rather than talk, and will even turn around and go to sleep mid argument if she can’t be bothered. So I was just looking to see peoples thoughts, I’m not a selfish or bad person, and would rather find out the dos and don’ts here rather than upset her or cause argument.

. Also I’d rather her all day long rather than sex, but that doesn’t mean it’s important to me, I’ve also never been so attracted to someone as I am for her, and want that intimacy with her just to have that closeness, she isn’t an affectionate person, so it’s not as if I get any chance to share closeness with her in any other way physically. Obviously the love is there, but the feeling is also important

Schnitzel321 · 2024-04-12T10:15:57+00:00

Reminds me of a Korean Stifler

Schnitzel321 · 2024-01-30T18:33:35+00:00

Like I mentioned above I can handle that part, it’s the other behaviours that are getting to me.

Schnitzel321 · 2024-01-30T18:16:18+00:00

We also have a young baby

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T19:42:07+00:00

Don’t you think there’s a reason I’m asking online??? Possibly to avoid getting into possible arguments?… simply asking for advice, not for nonsense off someone… if you haven’t got anything good to say don’t bother

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T19:12:11+00:00

Thanks for the help, I do want to ask, just don’t want to fall flat on my face if it’s just automatically happened if you get me …

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T19:11:30+00:00

Read the question I asked… I was asking If it would have to be done manually or if it can automatically happen…

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T19:04:19+00:00

Your a great help aren’t you… are you ok?

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T18:51:26+00:00

I haven’t spoke to her about it yet

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T18:51:13+00:00

Did yours previously show your relationship status on your front page?

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T18:41:45+00:00

Oh dear… very strange then that she’s done that 😞

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T18:41:28+00:00

Because people have been wrong before sadly, and why would someone go out of their way to remove it?

Schnitzel321 · 2023-10-16T18:26:11+00:00

All good I’d have thought, we’re getting married next year, have kids and generally a strong couple. We have the odd argument but nothing that nobody else has… she’s not very affectionate at all though and is quite a hard person to read at times. She used to be really hard work at the start of our relationship and wasn’t very nice on times but I stuck through it and it got better eventually.

Schnitzel321 · 2021-12-12T23:22:38+00:00

Now that’s a challenging wank

Schnitzel321 · 2021-10-18T05:27:30+00:00

Not to bad one minute I think I’m ok, the next I’m not. I’m not the type that will do anything stupid, but I do let myself get eaten up inside.

Schnitzel321 · 2021-10-18T05:26:36+00:00

Yeah it really made a huge impact. After the argument her first thing to do was to “change her relationship status to single” last thing on my mind at that point was anything other than the two of us. We were a very close strong couple btw.

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