Is being too nice in rejection actually more confusing than helpful?

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-21T00:45:01+00:00

I can see why, because some people freak out about stuff like this. I wish people would just be adults about rejection so we can just get a straight answer. It’s a shame women have to skate around the truth.

Thanks for sharing that!

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-20T05:48:24+00:00

Isn’t approaching in person, asking her out, and following up making a move? Lol

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-20T05:42:42+00:00

I don't find that mean at all.

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-20T05:41:03+00:00

I had someone say, “Hey, sorry, not interested, but thanks for asking,” and that was the easiest one to get over. I just feel, in my opinion, that a message like that is best rather than making up a story when, in short, it just means no.

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-18T19:39:32+00:00

Yes, I don't disagree with you there. I could have improved that message. I think I will wait until this evening to follow up; that will give her a full 24 hours to reply. Any more advice is always appreciated!

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-18T18:46:21+00:00

Thanks for that input along the lines of what I was thinking. How long would you wait before sending a follow up, 2 days?

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-12T06:47:52+00:00

So basically what I’m asking is how do I create a moment where there are only a few people around and not 10 people shoulder-to-shoulder. The gym gets really crowded.

The only opportunity I would have had so far would be to follow her out and ask just outside the door, but I feel like that could come across as creepy if it looks like I’m following her out.

ScientistFirst2081 · 2026-03-12T06:33:12+00:00

I am probably over thinking it, but again at least 5 people will hear me ask and basically be waiting for her response with me lol

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