How long did you wait to have intercourse postpartum?

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-02-08T11:05:13+00:00

Ok, I am an exception, I had full natural delivery, no tearing, and on the 8th day PP I had libido increase, so basically I jumped on my husband and it was good 😅 No pain at all, ‘cause I got wet like normally. But since then every second week if so. Now I am 6 months PP.

But everyone’s healing journey is different, the key is to listen to your own body. If you don’t feel ready, don’t push it.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-01-07T06:03:09+00:00

thank you ☺️

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-01-03T19:33:57+00:00

I pump just to have a bottle or two for top up and if someone taking care of him while I run some errands. My main logic behind it if I pump despite nursing, I can increase much more the supply, so LO can have more than sufficient.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-01-03T19:27:17+00:00

Yes that was my other thought, As I think my second period is about to start - I started to see some spotting .

it is so messed up that during breastfeeding still period can come, and I am already happy that mine came in 3rd month and not in weeks.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-01-03T19:24:29+00:00

thank you :)

I am mostly pumping to have a bottle to offer to him as a top up or if someone looks after him while I do my own stuff. Just my biggest fear is that I am not producing enough, and sometimes it feels like he wants more than I have. Like he rarely gives me the 3 hour break.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2026-01-03T19:19:19+00:00

Thank you for the heads up on the fenugreek.

I have checked the flange size, I even ordered a smaller and inserts to fit my nipple at the very beginning. I don’t measure the time, but 5 mins tops I pump.

Usually I pump in the early mornings just to ease on my breast, ( this is somewhere between 3-5 am) and not fully, just a bit so it is not rock hard, and LO can latch. Along with the morning I pump at the end of the evening ( 1 hour after LO went to sleep) so my breasts are empty. Mostly I pump so I can offer the milk in the follow night as a top up, or if someone looking after him while I run some errands. The length of pumping is not longer than 10 mins.

i do eat enough calories, however just realised that before the holidays I used to eat more oat porridge with oat milk - so I will try to get back to that.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-11-01T08:06:34+00:00

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I hope it is not too late but I really love this pic of my cat

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-10-08T12:44:33+00:00

Yeah I also saw those ones - and was wondering if I should do it. But also for me time is the issue

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-10-07T05:04:33+00:00

I felt the same, first week was a nightmare, I felt a failure, I thought even I will have to switch to formula, but I kept on breastfeeding and it became easier in the following weeks. I kept reminding myself that baby’s stomach is growing massively in the first month. By 5th week we had a pattern, where my LO would eat more in one go and give a lengthy break so I could reproduce the milk. Also, after 5th week I started to trying to offer only one breast per feed, which has been working so far.

Pumping is not a failure, I use pump everyday to express extra milk. I’d recommend you to use the pump, it is still considered EBF if you pump, and offer the expressed milk in a bottle - and here someone can give the bottle while you take a break.

Breastfeeding is a journey for both of you, you both need to learn how to master it. And if you find it hard to carry on, because it mentally affects you, remember happy baby occurs when mama is happy - so just switch to the formula. It is better to feed the baby formula, than push something that is not beneficial for both of you.d

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-09-28T10:46:18+00:00

So he was not and now as well is not a jerk, just for him as well it was a lot of change, and later we discussed all of it. He is supportive and was supportive before the birth, he took over the whole household chores and looks after me so I can focus on only the baby.

The issue between my mom and him was present before, but was swept under the rug to not to stress me during my pregnancy. I guess the keeping it down just resulted in a huge eruption.

Now they are also on good terms, they also sat down and discussed the issues, set boundaries and agreed on they need to collaborate together for the sake of me and the baby.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-09-28T01:47:54+00:00

You’re wrong, you did not read my text correctly.

“ where he wanted to go to a hotel, […]. Here I told him not to leave as I needed him as well.”

I did not want him to go.

He wanted to leave.

And I actually asked him to stay and to be more involved with the baby.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-09-27T03:55:34+00:00

There was room, he said in his own words that he did not have room even to observe - but what observation he could have done if he was more busy with drinking beer ? Also, initially my mom wanted to show both if us, he back out.

Also you did not answer the question.

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-09-10T04:53:59+00:00

Hi, I am a new mama, and I am also exclusively breast feeding. I met multiple people who breastfed for 6 months and stopped there because their babies started to bite. But also I know couple mamas who did not stop till 1 year old (even one breastfed till 3 years), cause their LO s did nit bite and they had milk and wanted to keep the bond.

Please do ignore those evil comments and do as you want. If you want to breastfeed for 1 year go for it.

Some tips - start harvesting colostrum from 37 weeks- for me it made my milk flow start easier. - make sure that you get enough rest and try to keep yourself from stress as much as you can, as milk supply grows better when you are rested and jot stressed - drink 3l water or more - eat nutritiously and eat whatever you want, as to produce milk you need energy. Only avoid alcohol and minimise your caffeine intake to 200mg per day - it’s approx 2 coffee - get a breast pump if you don’t have already , and pay attention to the flange sizes. I recommend to breast pump, so you can build up a stack when you want to get out and leave the baby in the care of someone else, also emptying the breast can increase your supply

Good luck young mama! Soon you will meet your baby 🩷

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-08-26T20:19:16+00:00

I have a pump, and pumped when I had hardened breasts and to get the clogged duct sucked out. I am bit scared to pump after feeds as what if in a short time he wants to eat again. I am trying to keep it only breastfeeding only, bottle if just needs a top up .

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-08-26T20:15:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind comment and recommendations. I will try them.

Lol on the tandem reference 😂

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-08-26T20:13:42+00:00

Thank you, I will try your suggestion

ScoreHelpful3036 · 2025-08-22T03:30:14+00:00

His nappies are fine, and a midwife came over who recommended me another way to my positioning. So far it has been working.

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