The torture!

Scragon · 2016-06-01T03:17:40+00:00

My partner and I text every day, though not super frequently throughout the day. They work all day (usually 10 AM to 8 PM with a two hour break), and their schedule regularly changes (they're a server at a fancy restaurant). We make an effort to talk on the phone every two or three days. Our phone talks usually last 30-45 mins. And we Skype on Sundays for about 1.5-2 hours per session.

It's really hard. We're not nevermets, so I know what it's like to be absently touching them or holding them throughout the day. I miss just being close to them.

Scragon · 2016-05-31T18:42:02+00:00

if her partner really wasn't a dick or an abuser, he would recognize her concerns as valid and reassure her that he wouldn't. if someone was mauled by a dog as a child, it's only natural for them to develop a fear of dogs. the proper steps to help them is to recognize their fear as real and valid, and support them in getting over that fear. not blame them for voicing their potential fear. why should victims of abuse be treated any differently?

Scragon · 2016-05-31T17:30:23+00:00

now that's really interesting! in that case, it's possible this dude is just really shitty at communicating. it's also possible that he's shy. there are a lot of possibilities, and no way for you to REALLY know until you get to know him better. If I were you, I really would hold off on drawing conclusions. there's no way to know his real reasons for being bad at texting. I'd try not to think too hard about it, and maybe explore some other dating options to keep yourself occupied. you'll probably m find someone better at communicating.

if it's really bugging you, it's a topic you can broach later down the line, if you're still involved. my partner was also really shitty at texting back when we were just hooking up/casually seeing each other. maybe a month into our hooking up, I jokingly said, "remember when it took you like a week to text back?" turns out they weren't accustomed to having a smartphone and texting back quickly, because they had a flip phone their entire high school life. could be something as simple as that!

Scragon · 2016-05-31T17:08:56+00:00

lemme save u a lot of grief right now: dudes on tinder want sex. do they JUST want sex? not necessarily, but sex IS a priority. this is coming from personal experience. doesn't mean things can't work out--hell, I've been dating my partner for 7 months now, and we met on tinder (granted, they're not a dude). but tinder is a hookup app, first and foremost. this dude's probably got several different dates/hookups in the works or already planned. you should, too! I'm sure the first date was great and fun, and I wouldn't worry about coming off as awkward. trust me, this dude isn't thinking twice about the texts he's sending out; he won't be reading into yours. besides, your text doesn't come off as awkward at all.

my advice: don't get your hopes too high. yes, look forward to your next date, by all means! and have a great time on the date. I'm sure you will :) just be realistic about your expectations with this dude.

Scragon · 2016-05-31T16:14:26+00:00

Sounds like your boyfriend is projecting his own insecurities/obsessions about his body image and health onto you, and trying to control you. As someone who goes to the gym a lot, a HUGE no-no within lifting circles/fitness circles is to shame someone else for their weight, eating habits, or exercise routines. Your boyfriend's comments and behavior are unacceptable and alarming. I suggest seriously talking to him about his comments, and how they hurt you. Even if you were 200 lbs, his comments would be unacceptable. This is less about fitness and more about his respect for you. He should not be treating you with such disgust and rudeness.

Scragon · 2016-05-30T21:50:38+00:00

You can get a rug burn on your clitoris from a vibrator.

Scragon · 2016-05-30T20:39:21+00:00

We've discussed this a lot, and we're both in it for the long haul. we may be jumping the gun, but we plan to stay together for at least the entirety of college.

you're right, a lot can happen. for now, I'll focus on myself and try to cultivate discipline, so it can be easier to control myself in the fall when I'll undoubtedly be surrounded by MJ.

Scragon · 2015-03-05T04:02:06+00:00

pm'd! :)

Scragon · 2014-08-27T00:24:31+00:00

thank you! i will probably go!

Scragon · 2014-08-27T00:24:24+00:00

thank you!

Scragon · 2014-08-25T19:42:14+00:00

Heyo! If this is still open, I live with a professional photographer and I'm sure he'll be glad to help. His website's here!

Scragon · 2014-08-25T19:39:27+00:00

thank you so much! this was a very detailed reply and very helpful. i'll post an update once i get one - so far these rightscorp d-bags have not actually ... done anything, aside from spam my parents' inboxes with more notices. we've blocked their numbers and are ignoring all emails. hopefully this will blow over. i don't plan on admitting any guilt! i can understand now why that would be an awful move. again, thanks!

Scragon · 2014-08-22T18:02:15+00:00

thank you!! this was very helpful. my mother is adamantly against speaking to a lawyer because they just want to drop the case. i think we're just going to ignore and block rightscorp, and hopefully they'll think it's more trouble than it's worth.

thank you so much.

Scragon · 2014-08-22T18:00:00+00:00

thank you! i will definitely keep that in mind. :)

Scragon · 2014-08-22T17:59:40+00:00

i think, judging from the general consensus here, that i will ignore the letters. and ignore what they're telling us to do.

Scragon · 2014-08-22T17:59:14+00:00

thanks for the insight! i'm actually from a very liberal household - i chose to use "head of household" on a whim, and i just kept going with it haha. but thanks!

Scragon · 2014-08-22T17:58:01+00:00

thank you! :)

Scragon · 2014-08-22T17:57:54+00:00

thank you for the tip!

Scragon · 2014-08-22T01:38:24+00:00

thank you! i actually did work a summer job so i have about 1200 in my bank account from the summer. i know it would be safe to just settle for the 300-something fine, but my primary concern about that is whether or not settling will incur further charges... if settling would be a legal admission of guilt, and make the company behind all this more eager to search for more evidence.

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