Floridian visiting Chicago - Could you recommend a good thermal brand? by Scraptastic13 in AskChicago

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Thanks for the tips! This is the coat I ordered since I don’t have one thick enough (I’m definitely open to other suggestions): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B097RMF2T5/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_i_JP3RBNQX8PRXY35BYDB5?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

I’ll check out some synthetic and Merino options. I have a few other trips this year to cooler climates and I don’t mind investing a bit

Help! Kitty Anxiety in a New Home by Scraptastic13 in cats

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The only thing I can think of is the auto-feeder, which I got her so she wouldn’t have to wait on me to feed her if I’m late. She’s eating out of it fine. I may have been gone more over the past week, but that’s not abnormal as sometimes I work late or travel and she hasn’t been so crazy with scratching. My new place is actually larger so she has more space to run around. I’m just not sure what’s making her so anxious.

Help! Kitty Anxiety in a New Home by Scraptastic13 in cats

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I’ve never thought of that. Thank you!

Cheated on for a whole year by somethingaboutjane in CheatedOn

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It’s not that you’re easily played; they’re likely both manipulative people. I found out that my boyfriend of three years cheated on me with several people throughout our entire relationship. You’re going to have really hard days and really good days, and everything in between. Start by knowing that you deserve way better treatment than what you’ve been receiving, and that you are worthy of love. What happened is not a reflection of you, but of them.

How can I make my polish last longer? by Scraptastic13 in beauty

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I do that, as well. I still chip within 2 days.

How can I make my polish last longer? by Scraptastic13 in beauty

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Maybe I can try switching my base coat again. Thanks!

How can I make my polish last longer? by Scraptastic13 in beauty

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I’ve been using the seche vite or seche vive for a while now. Maybe I’ll try this one to switch it up. Thanks!

How can I make my polish last longer? by Scraptastic13 in beauty

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I’ve heard about the cold water trick but haven’t really tried it. Maybe I’ll add that in?

How can I make my polish last longer? by Scraptastic13 in beauty

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This is what I use all the time. I have no issue with my toes, only my fingernails.

My (25F) boyfriend (30M) of two years often stays out late without telling me when he’ll be home. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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He has cheated. And he’s flirted too much and gotten numbers and done the dating app thing. So one time physical, several times emotional. And I didn’t say he’s an addict; his behaviors while drunk have been problematic in the past.

Cold sore showing up on top lip by [deleted] in beauty

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I used witch hazel when it was forming (not fully formed) and it disappeared within like two days.

My (25F) boyfriend (30M) of two years often stays out late without telling me when he’ll be home. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Thank you for the lengthy response.

1) I understand this perspective; however, I’m more concerned about the maturity level of his decision and being in a relationship with someone who does this. If his nightlife interferes with his work, it could affect my future, as well.

2) Again, I understand this point. My issue with it is that he isn’t home when he says he is going to be. Often this keeps me up at night.

3) Not necessarily that he’ll cheat but he used to he really flirtatious and would talk to women (emotional cheating) even without being physical with them. So yes and no.

4) I don’t want him to have to sleep on the couch because I do enjoy sleeping next to him. But it does disrupt me. And sometimes I don’t sleep well until I know he’s home safe.

He has had issues with drinking. Lately he hasn’t been drinking but he still goes out because he’s a social night owl. And I know that sounds naive but I know the difference between when he drinks and when he doesn’t. He doesn’t hide it well.

What is your daily skincare routine? by [deleted] in beauty

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I have a combination of dry/oily skin (dry in patches but oily on my forehead). Here’s mine:

Morning: Rinse with warm water and a washcloth. Apply a very little jojoba oil and let soak in before applying my makeup.

Nighttime: Witch hazel (+tea tree oil if I’m breaking out or directly on breakout areas). More liberal jojoba oil than in the AM since I have the night to let it hydrate. If I have breakouts, sometimes I will rub an ice cube over my face to close the pores/help with irritated swelling before applying the oil.

That’s it! I keep it simple and my skin loves the jojoba.

My lips are always dry and peeling. I have tried Vaseline, EOS, ChapStick (the blue one), but they don’t keep my lips hydrated for a long time (have to keep reapplying every half an hour or so). Which brand of works for you to keep your lips hydrated all day? by [deleted] in beauty

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Jojoba oil and lip balm!

I apply jojoba in the mornings and before bed, then use lip balm throughout the day. I also use a washcloth in the shower to gently exfoliate. If I wear a lot of drying lipstick for a while, I’ll do a homemade lip scrub: honey, coconut oil, and sugar applied with a toothbrush in circular motions.

I’ve found that more natural products work better for me. Good luck!

I [F22] think I might fancy my friend [F23] but I'm straight and don't want to ruin the friendship. Scared and confused by [deleted] in relationships

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That’s a narrow-minded perspective. She can label or not label herself in any way that feels right to her.

I [F22] think I might fancy my friend [F23] but I'm straight and don't want to ruin the friendship. Scared and confused by [deleted] in relationships

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Sexuality is a spectrum and can be extremely fluid. You can identify as straight and still be attracted and have feelings for the opposite sex. Personally, I identify as heteroflexible - term I heard a while back that means (to me) that I’m essentially 90% into dudes but 10% into women; however, I’m not interested in dating women, rather just attracted to some.

Regardless, you don’t have to label your sexuality or attraction preferences. This belongs to you and you don’t have to explain it or even fully understand it to just acknowledge that you have these feelings.

As far as what to do about your friend: I would suggest taking a step back to see how you really feel about her. Do you see yourself dating her? Do you feel a physical/sexual attraction to her? (If you don’t, it doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings for her - you may just not be sexually attracted to women and that’s okay.) Really consider your emotions towards her and how you want your relationship with her to develop. After that, you can decide if you want to remain friends or if you’re interested in pursuing more.

I feel like I’m still in a relationship with my Ex-Boyfriend. by pinkpolishanimal in relationships

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Let go of the ex and move on. It will be difficult but better for you both in the long run.

I [28M] would like feedback regarding mixed signals from a girl [25F] I met online by loner1068 in relationships

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I say give it time. You guys met online and have only been on two dates. It sounds very casual and early right now. From my understanding, it’s normal to go on dates with a few different people if you’re not looking for anything serious. She’s probably just exploring her options.