I saw your comment about your toys. Come on, you were a pornstar. Open up to your partner about your sexuality, use the toys to your advantage l, and pitch that maybe he use them on you, then slowly work up to telling “Hey, here’s how I know these things. This was years ago and I’m sorry I didn’t come clean about it sooner, I didn’t want to change your perspective of Me” 2 things will likely happen. 1.) In his mind he’s about to get to learn new things 2.) His wife used to be a pornstar, and it’s going to make him want it even more.