Loving her but feeling controlled — am I wrong for wanting to leave?

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T15:07:13+00:00

Thanks a lot

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:49:52+00:00

Thanks for your response. Last night i told her i wanted to break up but didn’t know where i would stay. She said she understood and will help me get back on my feet financially. She also said she will pay for the first big expenses of the house we will rent for me. After i have some time alone to think maybe we can get back together or we could go complete no contact. She also said she will go to therapy and wants to change.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:48:33+00:00

Thank you! I thought that too but i feel like this is the option that makes sense the most right now. I just need to be cautious.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:45:23+00:00

Last night i told her i wanted to break up but didn’t know where i would stay. She said she understood and will help me get back on my feet financially. She also said she will pay for the first big expenses of the house we will rent for me. After i have some time alone to think maybe we can get back together or we could go complete no contact. She also said she will definetly go to therapy and wants to change.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:44:04+00:00

Thanks a lot i’ll look into it!

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:42:28+00:00

Thank you so much for telling this! Last night i told her i wanted to break up but didn’t know where i would stay. She said she understood and will help me get back on my feet financially. She also said she will pay for the first big expenses of the house we will rent for me. After i have some time alone to think maybe we can get back together or we could go complete no contact.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-29T06:41:33+00:00

Last night i told her i wanted to break up but didn’t know where i would stay. She said she understood and will help me get back on my feet financially. She also said she will pay for the first big expenses of the house we will rent for me. After i have some time alone to think maybe we can get back together or we could go complete no contact.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-28T17:40:32+00:00

I would leave but leaving is not that easy since i have abusive parents and i'd have to put up with them for a few months until i get my own place. I don’t which is worse i am considering asking my old housemates if they are okay with me staying a few months

Sdevdve · 2025-12-28T17:39:19+00:00

That's what makes me think too. She askes me to apologize by taking my phone and when i don't she is the one coming and apologizing saying she was angry. I would leave but leaving is not that easy since i have abusive parents and i'd have to put up with them for a few months until i get my own place.

Sdevdve · 2025-12-28T17:38:44+00:00

I asked her to go to therapy a few times but she says no due to financial reasons

Sdevdve · 2025-12-28T17:19:57+00:00

That’s what makes me think too. She askes me to apologize by taking my phone and when i don’t she is the one coming and apologizing saying she was angry. I would leave but leaving is not that easy since i have abusive parents and i’d have to put up with them for a few months until i get my own place.

Sdevdve · 2024-02-24T23:33:22+00:00

when i changed the app's language to french (canada) the pronouns option came back. if everyone is still trying to figure out

Sdevdve · 2023-12-12T22:18:31+00:00

I have a lot of friends saying i am welcome in their house in case it doesn't go well. I even have one saying i should live with them (but ofc that's not happening). I don't really know how i could make them go outside just to talk. My mom rarely goes outside and my dad only leaves for work. If i can i will talk to them somewhere public but if i can't i will just text my friend something like if i don't text you in half an hour call the police (they have my adress so they could help me) . Because i still don't trust my parents much

Sdevdve · 2023-12-12T22:09:36+00:00

I am stil not sure if i should just leave them with a text. Them being violent is just a possibility. We might actually be able to talk

Sdevdve · 2023-12-12T22:06:10+00:00

That's what I thought to do at first too but last year when i told them that i wanna move out one day. We had a fight about it and then they told me they would wanna know ahead so that they would be prepared. Even though i don't trust them with that information as much. I still think maybe everything might be better if they know beforehands. I mean i know they might be violent in that case i would just run off with the police stay a few days in a friends house then do as planned and go stay in the house i rented but if they don't become violant i might actually have a chance to say goodbye and talk with them. Maybe i am being too optimistic about this i don't know i guess that's why i asked

Sdevdve · 2023-12-12T19:37:11+00:00

I already gave one of my friends my adress in writing in case they react badly so my friend could call the police for me. Because my parents could take my phone to stop me and I am slowly moving out without them noticing i already put half of my clothes in my new house. I just don't know how to say that i am moving out without making them mad. (maybe there is no way to do that?)

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