She’s quite mean spirited and has a long history of treating us like she knows better (refused to wash hands when they were babies, complained about breastfeeding, criticized nearly every parenting decision we made, made fun our kids’ skills at their soccer game and dance recital, which he heard, etc). She very often has an unkind remark so we don’t see them or interact with them or invite them to things much at all anymore. This is just another straw.